After leaving your job, will you still hold grudge against your old employer? How to control your anger?

Sharing the ups and downs of the workplace, I am the triumph of time. Resignation is the norm in the modern workplace and is also one's right, but resignation is also a process that reflects one's character. The best relationship in the workplace is one that is easy to get together and easy to break up with. Whether you are wronged because of money or because of your heart, if you choose to resign, please remember that you should not complain before leaving, and do not belittle after leaving. To belittle your predecessor is to belittle yourself. 1. All people’s complaints are essentially anger against their own incompetence. Employees complained about their old employers because they had forgotten the past and failed to see the future clearly.

When a person chooses to resign, it is probably because he is unhappy at his old employer, but speaking ill of him will only be unhelpful. If your old employer is really so bad, then why did you join the company in the first place? If you complain and hate your old employer now, you will also complain about your new employer in the future. This is a taboo in the workplace.

When you had no money, no job, no skills, no resources, and no experience, it was your old employer that accepted you and trained you. Even if you have a better start now, It is necessary to blame your original choice.

In a humane society like China, don’t do anything too hard, and don’t say anything too full. The world is big, but the workplace may be small. Who knows? There is no guarantee that we will never interact with each other until we die. Choose to leave decently, so that Jianghu can see you again. People still have to leave a way out for themselves. Complaining will not make you better, nor will it make others worse. 2. Choosing the method of resigning is more important than choosing the attitude of resigning. It is best to leave calmly

When deciding to leave your old employer, you should feel clean before leaving and clean after leaving; Take the initiative to leave the group before leaving the company, and do not pry for information after leaving the company; do not quarrel with others before leaving the company, and be grateful after leaving the company.

In the workplace, it has always been about doing things three-quarters and being a person seven-cents. If you complain about your old employer after leaving your job, the old employer will be unhappy and the new employer will also be confused. People who are ungrateful are not worthy of trust. 3. When you choose to resign, the only thing you can do is to try to make your life better.

After resigning, instead of being resentful, it is better to let go and forgive others, which will benefit yourself. The most important sign of maturity in the workplace is to stop complaining.

First, adjust your own mentality. I have the final say on my mood.

The true meaning of life is not to seek rewards. If a person leaves his destiny and emotions to the environment, fate, or others, he may be hurt or resentful at any time.

The second is to look at the problem from a different perspective and rely on your own efforts for everything instead of blaming others.

Complaining is a habit. It is very simple to stop complaining. You only need to look at the problem from a different perspective. Everyone cannot have excessive demands on others. They have no responsibility or obligation to satisfy all your desires. . Happiness is a kind of emotional feeling, which has nothing to do with the thing itself, but depends on the way you look at the problem.

Third, don’t complain when you give, and get used to focusing on more meaningful things.

Don’t pray for perfection in work, don’t pray for absolute fairness, and don’t pray for the so-called long live understanding. Don't let yourself be idle. People have a lot of free time, and busy people have no time to complain. This world owes nothing to anyone, but you owe it to yourself. Complaining does not solve any problems, but makes your own mentality worse. Stop complaining and you will have a new beginning. Doing your own thing well is a wise choice. I am Triumph of Time. If the above sharing can give you some help, please like and follow. Discussions and exchanges are welcome, and I wish you happiness and peace!

Remembering your old club is nothing more than feeling that you can’t live up to your reputation and feel that you have been embarrassed. And many people can't let go of this emotion for a long time. Before controlling resentment, let’s first talk about how grudges arise.

01 How did the grudge against the old club come about?

If you leave with resentment, in most cases you leave with dissatisfaction. So what are the things that cause dissatisfaction? 02What is the source of grudges? How to control your anger?

Let me say two sentences here:

The first sentence: You come to work to make money, not to make friends. If you can make friends, that's a surprise. If you can't, that's normal. Second sentence: Calm down, don’t vent or accuse, they will always owe you. ——"The First Half of My Life".

Therefore, my advice on how to control resentment is:

There is no love without reason, and there is no hatred without reason, everything is destined!

Hello, I am the running teacher you like and like. I am very happy to answer your question: "After leaving your job, will you still hate your old employer? How to control yourself resentment".

My point of view is that I will not hold grudge against my former club.

1. Know how to be grateful. No matter what circumstances led to your resignation from your previous unit, you must learn to be grateful. Because you have learned experience or lessons in your original unit, this is your wealth. Maybe it will help you on your life journey.

2. Know how to reflect, why did you leave your job? Don't look for objective reasons, take the initiative to look for subjective reasons, and reflect on your own shortcomings and strengths.

As for how to control your anger? I think there are the following aspects:

1. Vent your emotions reasonably, listening to music or going out to relax, etc.

2. Think rationally

3. Learn to forgive

4. Convey your dissatisfaction and resentment to your friends or relatives. Listen to their opinions and perspectives.

Job-hopping can almost be said to be a necessary part of growth in the workplace. The reasons for everyone to change jobs are different, whether it is personal development or company problems. Sometimes it is inevitable that they will feel resentment or grievances. At this time, what kind of mentality and performance should I leave with to help my future?

Let’s take a typical example

Xiaofang resigned a few years ago. The reason for her resignation was not complicated. Their company was a new start-up. Some of the things she was responsible for were many and complex, and she had to work overtime. This is the norm, and their leaders are very happy with their achievements, but their own abilities are poor. Sometimes they work hard for a long time, but the results are not implemented. If it is done well, it means the leader has good guidance; if it is not done well, it means the subordinates are incompetent.

One time after get off work, the leader asked Xiaofang to help him make a report and told Xiaofang that it must be completed today no matter what. Xiaofang worked overtime until 3 o'clock in the middle of the night and sent it to their leader after finishing it. As a result, during the meeting the next day, one of the data in the report was slightly deviated, so the leader shifted all the responsibility to Xiaofang and scolded Xiaofang in front of the entire company for her poor ability and that she was worse than a pig.

Xiaofang felt that she was at fault. It was right to be criticized, and it was good to be harsh, but she should not insult others. Such disrespect made Xiaofang feel uncomfortable, so she wanted to resign. It happened that Xiaofang's friend's company had a suitable position, and Xiaofang was successfully admitted under the recommendation of her friend.

When the original company resigned, their leader scolded Xiaofang again and said that the company Xiaofang applied for was not very good and only low-level people would go there.

Xiaofang did not argue anything, just thanked their leader for their guidance and care, and left silently.

Xiaofang’s friends were very angry when they heard about it and asked Xiaofang why he was so good-tempered. At least he wanted to expose the shortcomings of his leader and let the whole company know who he was!

Xiaofang smiled and said to her friend, "You have to be merciful and merciful. We are all colleagues. Why ruin your future just to gain momentum?"

Resigning represents a new choice for the future. Whether the journey is smooth or full of thorns depends on you. Be tolerant and take your own responsibility when resigning. You must know that the workplace not only relies on personal abilities but also relies on various relationships. Your leader or boss may be harsh, but your irresponsibility will give you Leave a stain on your personal resume. We are all peers, and we always meet each other in the workplace, leaving a good impression on your old employer. After all, you have worked hard there, grown up, and achieved results there. If you completely deny your old employer, then you who were there once will have no regrets. What is it?

Migrant workers who suffer from severe pneumoconiosis and occupational diseases will not bear grudges against their bosses, because it was the bosses who gave the workers money-making jobs!

This question needs to be answered from the following three dimensions:

1-If you are a newcomer who has entered the workplace of a new company, it is recommended that you do not hold grudges, because the reason why you have them is Only the training of the previous company will allow you to develop in the new workplace. Your experience is very important. After being trained by the previous company for one or several years, your benefits are invisible. Unknowingly, you have grown into a rich and rich person. People with professional experience.

2-If you had a very bad experience in the previous company, such as not being valued by the leader, not being promoted, not being able to see your strengths, etc., if this is the case, I suggest you also Don't hold grudges. If your experience and ability are great, then is the reason why you are not recognized because you have problems with people, or is there something wrong with the way you handle things? Why can others do it but you can't? After working for a long time, you will find that Buddhist people are always very happy in any company, because they are not only good at doing things, but also good at dealing with the world.

3-Finally, everyone’s circle is very small. In a city or industry, you will know a lot of people. It is important to maintain your own circle. It is best for you to misjudge the rights and wrongs of others or the company. Protection is also one of the effective ways to maintain your own circle.

I hope the above can help you.

Resign? Hold a grudge? resentment? NO.NO.NO. These words should not be put together

Think about why you left your job?

Voluntary resignation: Do you want to leave if your job is not going well? Are you leaving your job when you get a better job opportunity? These seem to have nothing to do with the owner, and are completely subjective.

Passive resignation: laid off? It's not a bad thing to get some compensation and then find a new job and become rich in a short period of time.

Why should you bear a grudge against your employer?

Sometimes people leave because they are unhappy at work, excluded from work, not taken seriously by their leaders, or have bad relationships with colleagues. In fact, these are just the situations of some individuals and departments. The dissatisfaction with certain people actually has nothing to do with the boss. The boss is a company with a boss, but with so many employees, is it possible for the boss to care about everyone's feelings?

Where does the resentment come from?

When we encounter something that goes against our expectations, we always look for external reasons, such as who messed with me, who didn’t do what I wanted, who was targeting me, etc.

Is this actually the case? The answer is not necessarily, this is all subjectively imagined by us.

Who messed with you? Have you ever thought that you are also provoking others? Arguments at work are normal. Many changes in processes and systems are caused by arguments. It is natural to have different opinions from others. Learn to handle differences of opinion at work. If you put yourself in the other person's shoes and think about it, the outcome may be different.

Who didn’t do what I wanted? Have you ever thought about what I'm thinking, is it right? Is it the best idea for the business? Many people in the workplace come up with ideas to save themselves trouble, find work for themselves, get others to do more, or get rid of responsibilities. At this time, others can see the truth of the matter and make the right decision, which is a better decision for the development of the company.

Who is targeting me? There are often some people at work who always feel that others are targeting them.

I know a friend who was criticized by her boss. The first thing she thought of was not what she had done wrong, but which colleague was behind her back to say bad things about her. Moreover, I will imagine an enemy. Whenever I encounter problems at work, I will think that that person is responsible. The colleague was so scared that she didn't dare to work in the same office as her.

Within half a year, this friend suffered from depression and stopped working to recuperate.

Therefore, resignation is a normal phenomenon in the workplace. Don’t blame your employer for the cause of this turmoil. On the contrary, at this time we should be grateful to our employer. We have learned a lot of experience in several years of work and laid a better foundation for our next job.

Thank you for some unsatisfactory things that happened to my boss, which pushed me forward. If something hadn't happened, maybe I wouldn't have left my job. Wouldn't my life be better if I didn't leave my job? Every time you change your job, your income can increase, right? Every time you change your working environment, you can learn a lot of new knowledge and experience. These are all gains.

We must learn to be grateful for all the things that happen in life. I was in a very bad mood for a period of time. I watched Teacher Zhang Defen’s "Meeting the Unknown Self" After reading this set of books, I have a new perspective on things I encounter in life.

I have shared this set of books with many friends, and three of them have thanked me for benefiting from reading this set of books. I am very happy that I can help others just by recommending a set of books. So I would like to share it with you here. There are actually many books like this, including the Positive Energy Series, etc. Take a look when you are in a bad mood.

Of course, my old employer also has many shortcomings. Since it is a Taiwan-funded enterprise, Taiwan-funded companies have common problems, such as low wages, less benefits, and Taiwanese employees are better than mainland employees. Talk works, etc. I often complained when I was at work, but after leaving my job, I didn’t think about it so much. I just thought about doing a good job in my new job and had no time to grudge my old employer.

It is normal for resigned employees to have complaints about their "old employer", otherwise they would not leave. Just be careful not to vent your dissatisfaction with the old employer to new colleagues or people in the new employer. This will affect your new career. job and subsequent promotion. In short, as long as you state the facts in an objective and fair manner, there is no harm in simply complaining!

It mainly depends on the reason for leaving. If you left due to a dispute, then there will definitely be grudges. But as an adult, it is necessary to regulate your emotions and start your subsequent career in a healthy way.

So, it’s okay to hold grudges, but don’t hold them for too long.

I will bear grudge against my old employer, but grudge will not solve anything. It will only increase my troubles and make me feel bad.

After being together for a long time, conflicts will definitely arise. Now that you have resigned, don’t think about it. The past is a life experience, and you can’t go back to that time. There is no regret medicine. Summarize our experiences and lessons, and think more about the future. There are still many wonderful things waiting for us to do in the future.