A whole year's essays on wife and family

Being a wife for a year, the biggest beneficiary is Tian Ling. He no longer likes to join in the fun in the crowd, and he can push a lot of entertainment except necessary. He began to understand what was most important.

Classmate Tian Ling had an unusual experience.

How many robberies does a marriage have to go through before it really counts? Every time I look at couples who have been married for two or three years, I often say that I can't live this life, and they only shake their heads with a wry smile. What do they know about marriage? A man, if you don't know what it means to take responsibility and give up, then you don't really know marriage at all.

Two years ago, Tian Ling's wife was diagnosed with cervical cancer, which was undoubtedly a disaster for her family. During that time, the hospital ran at both ends, anxious and worried, and lack of sleep made Tian Ling's hair white for half a month. Fortunately, early cancer recovered well after surgical conization. Just as they breathed a sigh of relief and were glad that their lives had returned to normal, an accident appeared. Half a year later, my wife went to the hospital for reexamination and found that she was pregnant for two months. When she got this unexpected result, her first thought was surprise: can I have another child? At that time, their eldest child was seven years old. His wife Tian Ling loves children very much, but considering all kinds of situations, Tian Ling and his wife can only decide to give up what they want. A month later, the doctor made a thorough investigation, but told them the fact that his wife had a conization operation because of cancer, and the cervix could not be opened too much. It was quite dangerous to have an abortion or induced labor. My wife was very happy and determined to have this child. Tian Ling thought for a night and agreed to his wife's decision. At this time, her wishes seem to be the most important, and the rest will be dealt with slowly.

Without his wife's knowledge, Tian Ling made a decision at the same time: go through the formalities, stay at home for one year, and concentrate on taking care of her in an emergency. This decision is really not easy for a man with a rising career. At that time, Tian Ling was in full swing in all aspects, and the leaders wanted to pull him up and prepare to send Tian Ling abroad for training for half a year. It is tantamount to self-destruction for him to make such a decision at this time. He worked hard to persuade the leader, who reluctantly agreed. Before the vacation, the leader said to Tian Ling: You are really rare. I understand, but I don't agree. You're good at this.

After returning home, Tian Ling told his wife about his long vacation. His wife was surprised and said that it was completely unnecessary to let her parents come over. Tian Ling took her hand and said seriously, "Our family is in an extraordinary period. This year is nothing to me, but it is very important for this family. Besides, I happened to be with my children and you this year. I used to be very busy and spent too little time with you and your children. This opportunity comes at the right time ... "

In this way, Tian Ling started a year of home life and made a detailed plan. Because of his wife's physiological needs, Tian Ling wants her to eat pollution-free food. Tian Ling opened up a small vegetable field in the yard on the first floor. His mother telephoned to ask about the skills of growing vegetables, such as pest control methods for Chinese cabbage, how to use food waste as natural fertilizer, and how to plant his wife's favorite spinach and cucumber by pulling vines. Her mother sent all kinds of vegetables from her hometown ...

Tian Ling is used to getting up early. The first thing he did when he got up was to go to vegetable fields, dig, weed and water, and prepare some wooden frames to pull vines. These jobs are hard, and he does them carefully.

When his wife woke up, Tian Ling was already cooking breakfast. Tian Ling hasn't prepared breakfast for many years. All these jobs were done by his wife before. To this end, Tian Ling listed a recipe, which can't be repeated for at least a week: red bean lean porridge, soybean corn juice, millet and red date porridge, oatmeal and egg custard, pumpkin glutinous rice porridge ... grab a handful of Chinese cabbage grown in a small garden and fry it with garlic. Tian Ling also asked her mother for a way to make dough. She made dough the night before and steamed a pot of steamed bread the next morning. Steamers are all made by friends from the canteen. Steamed steamed bread with old noodles is very fragrant, and it is very nourishing with porridge and side dishes. After the children went to school, Tian Ling accompanied his wife to have breakfast slowly. In the past, Tian Ling didn't eat breakfast at home every day. She always had to work overtime on business trips or get up late on weekends. They have had breakfast together for so many years. One day, the weather was fine. My wife was sitting in the yard basking in the sun and drinking millet porridge cooked by Tian Ling. She said with satisfaction, why do you think this day is like a dream?

During this period, Tian Ling learned to cook soup. His wife used to be an expert in cooking soup. Tian Ling asked her to be a teacher. Under her little guidance, Ling Tianshui soared. Otherwise, how can you say that men are smart? I am afraid that if I don't study, I will definitely surpass women in my studies. A soup spectrum and a book of TCM conditioning, Tian Ling freely combined and matched, and invented more than a dozen soups to condition his wife's body. Tian Ling also made a special acquaintance with an old Chinese doctor, who regularly took his wife to consult and give advice. When he came back, he applied his knowledge to Tom. That year, there were often two soup pots on the stove of Lingtian's house, which were steaming and very homely. His wife Ling Xiao Tian became a semi-expert. Ling said, "After retirement, I will open a Chinese medicine dietotherapy clinic. With my clever head, I am not afraid of anything. " Under the careful conditioning of Tian Ling, my wife's complexion is slowly improving.

After finishing the housework, Tian Ling has another important task to accompany her son. He has a plan to use his son's vacation and school time to take him shopping and broaden his horizons during the year. Tian Ling gave up driving and added a bicycle on foot, just the father and son, and also brought a football. Tian Ling sometimes carried him on her shoulders and swooped down on the slope. Sometimes, two bicycles, one big and one small, walk through the alleys and watch the old people knead sugar noodles; Tian Ling and her son ride bicycles together. Tian Ling was panting and hissing. His son caught up with him and shouted in front: Dad, go ... This scene has always been printed in Tian Ling's mind. Many days, he went home for dinner very late, and his son was already asleep when he came back. Tian Ling left early in the morning. He hasn't got up yet. It is common to miss each other for a few days ... what a good opportunity to spend some time with my son when he grows up. Tian Ling rode faster to catch up with him. They rode past the arch bridge, the park, the abandoned old villa and his campus gate. Father and son are sitting on the grass drinking mineral water and laughing happily. Sometimes I greet the children in the park, and Tian Ling will be the referee to organize a basketball game. Tian Ling took him to the library and sat in the reading room to study ... Their plan of walking and cycling lasted for three months. My son's appetite has obviously increased, his time with his father has increased, and his son has been much more active. His brow is full of heroic spirit of little people. The first thing he does every day is to open the door: Mom, I bought you some cakes you like. Let's eat together

Seeing that Tian Ling takes care of her children so well, my wife has no worries, so she can naturally recuperate with peace of mind.

In the middle of the night when his wife and children are asleep, Tian Ling often lights a cigarette and walks around the yard, recalling her life contrast and finding that life is really a beautiful thing. They experienced the so-called seven-year itch. For a time, they quarreled fiercely over trifles. Every night, their wives are very angry, and he is impatient with his children because of fatigue ... but after so many storms and hardships in the past year or two, their feelings have warmed up, they are more dependent and trusting each other, and their families are closer.

At the same time, a friend of theirs for many years came to visit. Seeing Tian Ling cooking soup with her children, she secretly said to Tian Ling after dinner, "Are you flustered at home?" You have always been an official. "Tian Ling smiled and said," very good. Without this opportunity, I didn't know I could be such a good husband and father. This is a make-up class. What is a year to me? But it's too important for family. Do you think it's worth it? "

Being a wife for a year, the biggest beneficiary is Tian Ling, who is no longer so impetuous and has really entered a mature year. He no longer likes to join in the fun in the crowd. Except for necessity, many social activities are really boring, and he can push them whenever he can. Tian Ling began to understand what was most important.

A year later, Tian Ling returned to the workplace, handling things more calmly and responsibly, and was able to consider problems from the perspective of others. It seems that her job is more comfortable, which is a gain besides taking care of her wife.