Do you think your husband is closest or your family is closest after marriage?

After marriage, whether it is the mother's family or the husband's family, they all choose between affection and love, and their personal experiences are definitely different. I am a married woman in her forties. I used to think I was full of love and water. After getting married, I can't wait to give all my feelings to my husband, because I know that this person will be the other half who will spend the rest of my life with me. In front of him, I am my wife, the mother of his children, the daughter-in-law of his father, and an adult. But in front of my parents, I am still a little girl in my forties. I am a child. In front of my parents, I can be coquettish, lazy, and even play a small temper without reason. My parents laughed it off, and sometimes I even held my hand high and fell on me with a smile, just like when I was a child. I will always be a chicken under the wings of an old hen, and that love is irreplaceable in this life! But in front of my husband, I can be his hair and shield, charge for him, and resist all external unstable factors for him; I am his unpaid nanny, taking care of his children, raising his father and taking care of everything in his life. I don't even have the right to be sick. Why do you say coquetry? My experience tells me that parents will always be the two people who love you the most in the world! Personal experience ...

I'm sure that many women are regarded as treasures by their husbands after marriage. They are lucky to have the love of their parents and the care of their husbands. But please remember that the love of their husbands and parents is not the capital you can be willful. Husband is the lover to spend the rest of his life with, and parents are the benefactors who gave birth to you and raised you. Affection is as important as love!

May all women in the world be affectionate and loving at the same time, without making a choice!

I'm from the countryside. I grew up in a poor family, with many brothers and sisters. My parents were old and sick, so I went out to work without studying in junior high school. Eight years ago, I was introduced to my current husband. He is also from the countryside, and his family is not good. He is just a flat-topped single room with a thatched kitchen. It seems that he is poor, and my heart is cold. When I went back to discuss with my parents, I didn't agree with this marriage, but I didn't expect him to have a thick skin. He came to my house from morning till night, never empty-handed, so as to soften my parents' hearts.

He also vowed to us, "Although I am still poor, I have the confidence to change everything. I can drive, and I have a van now. As long as I work hard, I won't let you be wronged. Go to the city to buy a house in the shortest time and let your parents go to the city to enjoy themselves. " I am honest, especially my parents, who are more honest and are full farmers. Where can I stand the temptation of his sweet words? Finally, our hearts softened and we agreed to this marriage.

Six months later, we got married. Many people say that marriage is the biggest thing in life, and it must be vigorous and not hasty. However, my wedding is very simple. No small motorcade and filming. There is only a simple wooden bed and a wardrobe in the wedding room.

But the money and material things I think about are all things outside my body. As long as he is kind to me, he is satisfied, and it doesn't matter! The first five years of marriage were very kind to me and I often asked questions.

But since last year, everything has changed. My husband sold his car because of poor management, and then I went out to work. I went out for two years and didn't call back. I often call him, which is also unkind. I haven't even been home for the Spring Festival. I'm frustrated with his change. I wonder why a good man changes as soon as he changes. Become so heartless? Is there another affair outside?

I decided to check the root cause, and finally found the problem after many efforts. It turned out that my husband accidentally hit someone while driving a van outside. He has no money to pay, and he doesn't want me to worry about having to sell the truck. There is not enough money to sell trucks. Because of lack of education, I collected junk and sold it in the city, saving every piece of money I could earn, hoping to pay back the compensation as soon as possible. After I knew it, I decided to go to the city with my husband to work hard and make money together to pay off the money. I believe that as long as we are husband and wife, we can do it, right?

This question varies from person to person! Everyone's growth experience and family background are different, depending on what kind of parents you have and what kind of husband you marry, everyone will give different answers.

As far as I am concerned, I think my husband is closer!

Growing up, I have always attached great importance to family ties. I think family ties are irreplaceable. No matter how miserable you are outside, home will always be your warmest harbor, even if the whole world abandons your family. But I was so naive that I could hardly see my existence and value at home, as if I were a dispensable and forgotten person.

From primary school to middle school, no matter how hard I try, I can't get my parents' approval. I remember that I was admitted to the top class of high school with excellent results, but my parents insisted that I go to a technical secondary school, and I was indifferent to all my pleas! I just want to graduate and work for my two younger brothers who didn't score more than 60 points in the exam to go to college. Besides, I didn't get the tuition fee of technical secondary school, and I said I couldn't fall in love! I will always remember a person who went to a strange city, went to a city that I have never been to to find a school and owed tuition. Think about how bleak it was! Later, I worked part-time at school and successfully finished college on weekends and holidays. My parents sometimes call me for money. Seriously, from then on, I felt that my family was really weak!

Since I met my husband, I really feel the feeling of being cared for, cared for and held in my hand! He loves me, cares about me and tolerates me everywhere. After eight years of marriage, he still treats me the same! My house, car and shop are all in my name. Although I take care of the children at home, my husband gives me private money every month, and the income from the store is regularly credited to my card. He said I was his closest and most trusted person, back and forth!

And my mother's family always knew how to ask me for money and never planned to pay it back. When my brother got married, he asked me for money, my brother asked me for usury, and he also asked me for house decoration, but he didn't have the money to buy food and pay the phone bill ... It felt like I wouldn't let go until I was drained! Paying is a matter of course, but not paying is ungrateful!

I can't give up my kinship, so I have been helping them, but my family is like a bottomless pit, never satisfied! I also have family to take care of, and my husband's money is not blown by the wind. I can write off what I have paid in the past, but I will never help them so blindly again. Whether my family understands it or not, I will never be soft-hearted!

Why do you have to give yourself such a difficult question? Just like someone likes to ask her mother-in-law, who will her husband save if she falls into the water? Is there a solution?

My parents love me very much. It can be said that I have never suffered since I was a child, and of course I have never spoiled them. I must do all the work I should do. It can be said that my parents have deep feelings.

Later, I got married. My husband was chosen by me, and my parents were very satisfied. The only requirement is that my husband has always been very kind to me. So I have an extra home, an extra person who loves me, and my in-laws who are very kind to me. Every holiday, my husband will take me home to visit my parents, talk to them and chat. My husband will help me if my parents have anything. Sometimes I think my parents treat him better than me, and of course my husband treats my parents better.

A few years ago, my mother was seriously ill and none of the children at home went. My father was so busy that my husband asked for leave to take care of him. Everyone who saw the doctor together thought he was my mother's son, and later learned that he was a son-in-law. They all say that my mother has a good son-in-law. Later, my father also said that thanks to my son-in-law, I was much younger.

Now as long as we have time, we will go home together, see my parents, and then see my in-laws. My husband never doubted that I went back to my mother's house many times. Many times when I go home empty-handed, he will also suspect that I don't buy anything and say that I am unfilial.

Therefore, I never felt that I would not marry my mother-in-law. It's no use hurting for so many years. Being a man should know how to be grateful. My husband is naturally willing to be kind to my parents, and I am willing to kiss him. Everyone is mutual. We are all family, who is closest if we don't score?

It must be her family. My wife is married to me, and I pay her mother a little salary every month. Every day, Niangs talk on the phone for about 2 hours, reporting their life here. Whenever something happens to her mother, her parents come to my house and scold me. My husband is a fart. Her mother gives advice every day and studies how to squeeze money from me. It's not easy. At this age, she still has to work hard with me.

My husband is my support and future. Only my husband can accompany me to my old age. We are in the same boat. My parents, brothers and sisters love their home. I have no reason not to love my home, let alone my in-laws and children. My husband and I need to work together. Therefore, I love my husband's family more and I am willing to fight for it!

This problem cannot be generalized. Let me tell you what I know.

When my cousin was 22, she met a boy. They think it's okay, but my cousin's parents don't agree, because the boy's family is local, but his ancestral home is in the south. My cousin's parents said that someone in our company divorced because of different living habits after marriage, saying that southerners looked down on us and called us locals, and we locals also thought they were stingy and haggle over every ounce. So they strongly disagree. But my cousin is that stubborn temper. The more family members object, the more they want to be together. So it dragged on for three years. Cousin is old, and her parents introduced her boyfriend, but she didn't see him either. At home, she had a quarrel with her parents about it. Later, there was no way out. Cousin's parents are also very sad, so they no longer care about cousin, saying that they will never push her door again anyway. Cousin later married that boy. She really didn't have much contact with her parents' family, and parents rarely mentioned her daughter.

Later, my cousin divorced and the children went to primary school. After I got married, I found that what my parents said was reasonable. After marriage, I will go back to my parents' hometown, and my cousin will pay for the train ticket. Living together at ordinary times has a clear economic division. The most terrible thing is that her husband has a younger brother, and her parents-in-law prefer her younger son. Usually everything is directed at the husband and his brother. Once, his younger brother made rude remarks in front of his cousin, and his cousin couldn't help quarreling with him, so that they almost fought. Her husband didn't speak for her cousin much, and her cousin was very angry and felt that their family regarded themselves as outsiders. Usually the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not very good. Coupled with various contradictions in life, cousins and husbands often have disputes. Her husband later applied to work in a foreign factory. In the second year of separation, they had an affair and came back to force their cousin to divorce. Cousin quarreled with her husband's brother in those years, and his brother didn't play a good role in the middle. In short, he just stirred up and down, and finally went to court and got divorced.

When I first got divorced, my cousin was still embarrassed. She rented a house outside and lived alone. In winter, the house has no heating, so it is very cold. Later, when my cousin's parents found out, they were angry and hated, but they couldn't bear to call my cousin home. It is said that my cousin went home and cried with her mother for a long time, saying that she regretted it.

After reading these, I think my husband is the closest person after marriage, but this person may hurt you the most one day. However, no matter how far apart your parents are, blood is thicker than water, and they always support you unconditionally when you are most helpless and sad. Of course, there are exceptions, but among all the things I have seen, family ties are always irreplaceable.

No matter where I go, what kind of mistakes I made and what kind of injuries I suffered, my parents are the source of my life. They all selflessly tolerate me. When I was cheated in marriage and looked down upon by my in-laws, my family was my safe haven. My parents will warm my heart with distressed eyes and give me the courage to set sail again.

Although I have grown up and have parents, I still feel that I am a child, and I am their child. No matter how windy and rainy life is. I have parents. I'm not afraid.

My husband is mine today and may be someone else's tomorrow. To his family and his parents, I will always be an outsider. The son is their own and the daughter-in-law is someone else's. His family seems to have nothing to do with me except the children.

I can do whatever I want at my mother's house, but I always feel like wearing a lock at my husband's house. My parents really love me, but my in-laws love me so falsely.

In my heart, my mother's family is my eternal home, and my husband's family is my temporary home. It is men's hypocrisy and men's deception that make me so insecure. Let my pain have nowhere to bloom. Listening to the song "I want to have a home", I burst into tears.

Look at a person. As far as my personal situation is concerned, after marriage, my husband is the closest, but what I can't stand most is my wonderful mother-in-law when I was pregnant. I can only complain to my husband about the weather. That's stupid. I'm so angry. I want a divorce. I married your family because of you. Your family is not nice to me and doesn't speak well. I put up with it because of you. If you're not on my side. Unfortunately, my husband refused to pay attention, and then gradually contacted his mother. He finally realized how difficult it was for his mother. However, a man is too proud to admit that his mother has gone too far. However, I still stick to that position. If my husband is not on my side, there is really nothing to be attached to. Just get divorced. I feel like I have to get rid of this relationship, and I really don't want to have anything to do with it! ! !

For many women, this question is really difficult to answer, and so is it for me. When the two sides encounter contradictions, everyone wants to take care of them, but sometimes it is rare.

I think my husband and I were college classmates at the beginning, and it was puppy love in the eyes of my parents. On the one hand, parents are afraid of delaying their studies. On the other hand, our hometown is not the same place, so my parents object. However, under my repeated insistence, my parents gave in. If we say it now, we were really courageous at that time, but it was also the young people's insistence on love.

I am the boss of my family, and I have a sister. Since I had my sister, my parents have given her all care and love. I may just be their child, but I can't feel love.

Now that I married my boyfriend in college, I followed him to his city. Fortunately, he and his parents are very kind to me. We also have our own children, a car, a house and a happy life. Sometimes there are contradictions and conflicts with parents and husbands, but I don't care if I think I am a relative.

The question asked by the landlord still depends on everyone's situation. People are mutual. It is worthwhile for you to pay for others and others to be kind to you. But if others don't take you seriously, are you still wondering who is more important? Isn't this a joke?