Is it happiness for husband and wife to quarrel? Tell me about it.

The so-called marriage, sometimes I love him very much, and sometimes I want to film him.

As a result, I met his favorite food on the way to buy a gun, but I forgot to buy a gun after buying the food. Go home for a few days and think about it. You must buy a gun. ...

How do two people go from love to marriage, from spending money on daily necessities a month ago, without stumbling, making noise or making trouble?

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Sometimes, quarrels between husband and wife can make married life a little more hot.

My parents have been married for more than 30 years and have always been model couples praised by neighbors.

But even though both of them are now over 100 years old, the quarrel is still "blood shed".

When they quarrel, they don't care about vows of eternal love. The gentle words on weekdays almost turned into a roar.

Like all couples, the reason why parents quarrel is nothing more than trivial matters. Their quarrel rose to a historical height and turned over old scores.

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But the secret of making parents sweet for many years lies in the attitude after quarreling.

Generally speaking, after a quarrel, dad always has the cheek to please his mother:

"Wife, I'm cooking today, ok?"

"I have finished all the health work. Do my superiors have any instructions? "

Occasionally tell a few jokes to make my indifferent mother laugh.

Then, they made up again.

After seeing two old stooges quarreling, I began to get used to it, because it always turned into a big show of living love in the end.

I once chatted with my mother: "Mom, you and Dad can't help quarreling every time. Anyway, it will be reconciled in the end. Why bother? "

Mother to longly say:

"You are still too young. Usually there are contradictions when getting along with ordinary friends, let alone couples who eat a pot of rice and sleep in a bed? Feelings depend on getting along, marriage depends on running-in, and both of them are as silent as a gourd. It's terrible! "

In retrospect, isn't the "quarrel" in my mother's mouth an essential temperature in marriage?

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When the temperature between husband and wife is gone, isn't that the most familiar stranger? ...

A few days ago, I chatted with my friend Xiaoyan about the quarrel between husband and wife. She began to complain to me that her husband had never quarreled with her.

I'm a little puzzled. I never quarrel, which means my husband let you. Is this not good?

Ask carefully, it turns out that Xiaoyan's problem is not not not not quarreling, but her husband's attitude when quarreling.

Every time there is a contradiction between husband and wife, Xiaoyan just says a few words, and her husband begins to be silent, and then there is a long cold war.

In fact, Xiaoyan expects the two of them to have a few carefree quarrels, and it is more comfortable to put their attitude on the table. As a result, the husband's indifference escalated the contradiction.

Slowly, Xiaoyan and her husband have less and less communication. Now, even if we sit together, we play with our mobile phones separately, and there is no communication.

In fact, this is also the situation that many people face in marriage.

In the face of quarrels, in order to avoid the escalation of contradictions, most people tend to avoid conflicts and say nothing, which will often turn into a cold war.

But in fact, the couple did not communicate, and their dissatisfaction and emotions were buried in their hearts. Resentment for each other is like snowballing, which may cause an avalanche one day.

Marry because of love, just to be together for life.

If two people draw a clear line and don't want to talk to each other, then this relationship will die in a waste.

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American marriage expert Wenger? Julie once wrote in the Law of Happy Marriage:

? "In this world, no matter how happy a marriage is, there will be 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 thoughts of strangling each other."

In fact, this sentence still lacks the most critical second half sentence. The secret of a happy marriage lies in 20 1 reconciliation and 5 1 forgiveness.

The marriage between Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang has always been a close love that we envy.

But such a pair of fairy couples will quarrel and bicker like ordinary people. For them, quarreling is like the spice of plain life, which brings two hearts closer together.

Of course, at the end of the quarrel, it was Qian Zhongshu who gave way to Jiang Yang. When Jiang Yang loses his temper, he will ask Qian Zhongshu: "Why do you give way to me every time you quarrel?"

Qian Zhongshu replied: "Because you are mine, what can I do even if I win the argument?" In the world of two people, there must always be jokes, smiles, noises and noises. "

Some people say that marriage has three years of pain and seven years of itching.

In the third year, there was less novelty and fewer topics.

In the seventh year, passion gradually faded and contradictions accumulated.

The purpose of quarreling is to resolve the garbage mood. After the quarrel, live a good life, and after the hurdle, it will be meaningful, and then it will be ten years after another.

A good marriage is not a lifetime without quarreling, but a lifetime of quarreling.

Only by finding a balance in quarreling and learning to quarrel moderately can we form the most stable alliance between husband and wife.

I hope every couple can grow into each other's most comfortable appearance, and draw up a tacit understanding that they can hold hands to watch the dusk and also laugh and ask for porridge.