How do you feel when you become a father or a mother for the first time? Are you afraid to hold a child?

1. My wife’s relatives came a few days late and said, Fatty Guo, I’m so tired these days, and my aunt didn’t come either. Could it be that she’s pregnant?

I looked at her with disdain and jokingly told her, if you are lazy, just say it... Then she was not convinced and bought a pregnancy test stick. A few minutes later, he came out of the toilet and said, Congratulations, I won the lottery! I put the pregnancy test stick under the headlight and looked at it carefully over and over again. Make sure that if there is nothing wrong with the pregnancy test, it means your wife is pregnant. ah? To be honest, at that moment all I thought about was, am I going to be a father? I'm going to be a dad! ? Damn, I'm going to be a dad! Ha ha!

I hugged her and put my ear on her belly to hear the sound. Then I heard my wife’s stomach growling. My wife looked at me awkwardly and said, I’m sorry, I don’t have any tonight. Eat enough!

After confirming that I had the next generation, I decided to change my life. I took out several sets of clothes and ironed them at once, fearing that I would jump with joy when I was free. After ironing the clothes, I mopped the floor twice. After finishing all this, I picked up my phone and wanted to call everyone in my address book to tell my family, relatives and friends that I was going to be a father! But my wife stopped me and said, Brother, look at your watch, it’s eleven o’clock. I suppressed the joy in my heart and asked my wife to go to the hospital for check-up tomorrow.

At the beginning of the second day, I was looking forward to the hospital opening its doors quickly, but I came out quickly. When I got off work at noon, my wife called and said: There is nothing wrong with the pregnancy test stick. Hahahahaha, I hung up the phone under the surprised eyes of others. At that moment, I felt like the whole world was looking at me with jealousy.

Just because I want to be a father!

2

My husband has been giggling from the day I was diagnosed with parallel bars and sent messages to every one of his gay friends.

Then he asked me frequently: "Wife, what are you making for him today?"

Once he asked me: "Wife, let's just buy a big bear and take it home." , the baby will also like to play with the big bear when he is born~~~~"

I refuse.

During my pregnancy, he gained weight, was lethargic, and ate too much. Except for not having morning sickness, he looked more like a qualified pregnant woman than me.

When I have to make a decision, I firmly let me make a decision, even if I buy a bag of bread: "You choose, you have two votes now!"

I was lying in bed last week I was thinking of a name on the bed, and continued to giggle when I thought of it.

During the B-ultrasound yesterday, I saw the baby’s little hands and feet.

I’m still laughing.

3

When my husband learned that I was pregnant for the first time, he blurted out:

"Hahahahaha! I'm going to be a son! I have a father." ! ”

4

I was infertile for 5 years and divorced my ex-husband in 2014. I got married to my boyfriend at the end of 2015. We discussed it before the marriage and adopted a baby after two years of working together.

One day in 2016, I thought I had mastitis. The doctor who treated me for N years of infertility said to do a urine test. It looked like I was pregnant.

It turned out to be "+". I didn't believe it, so the doctor ordered a B-ultrasound.

Then I called my boyfriend, and he said, "It's impossible! The test must be wrong!!" He came from home and waited in line with me for the test. The hero said for an hour that it's impossible, so you have to calm down. Don't be excited, I won't be excited if you look at it.

As a result, the gestational sac was safely delivered in the womb.

Arriving at the door of the house, this guy was finally exposed - the key was actually stuck in the door!

Haha, luckily we live on the top floor...

5

I was pregnant that year, and I told my husband that my husband and my father-in-law were arguing about something. Quarreling over things.

As soon as my husband heard that I was pregnant, he immediately raised his voice and said to his father-in-law, "I have become a father now. Please don't yell at me anymore."

My father-in-law replied coldly, "I'm a grandpa. Are you talking to me when I'm young?"

6

When I was pregnant, I watched Sister Broke and he gave it to my mother. I complained that what I read was not suitable for prenatal education.

My mother said: Yes, look at the bankrupt sisters, it depends on the wealthy family...

7

When it was first tested, it was very, very light. I was very nervous every day, thinking that it was fried, and sometimes I could see it and sometimes I couldn't see it. After a few days, the test strips at home ran out, so we went out to buy them.

I said I might as well buy more just in case it would take several days to see it. Later, the mark became more obvious, and I still insisted on testing it every day. .

He finally couldn't help complaining:

"Honey, this kind of thing is usually qualitative, not quantitative..."

8

At that time, I was sitting on the bus going back to my hometown. My wife sent a WeChat message saying: You are miserable, you are going to be a father!

In fact, my first reaction had nothing to do with the child, but felt sorry for her. I always feel that she is still a little girl who has not grown up in my eyes. Why is she suddenly about to become a mother?

She doesn’t understand and is not good at dealing with society. Her usual activities are to stay at home, cook, make clothes, and read novels. She can’t even read a map when she goes out. Her brain is unclear and she is very stubborn in doing things. Why? I can't rest assured that she is struggling in society.

Then, she is going to start taking care of a child and bring him up?

In the days to come, she will have morning sickness, have to undergo various examinations, give birth in agony, feed, change diapers, wear clothes... and there are many more that I don’t know about the future. Everything she will encounter requires a silly little girl like her to deal with it. Can she handle it?

In the future, in the eyes of this child, her mother will be a particularly all-around and great mother, who can cook all kinds of delicious meals, and will meticulously tutor him in his studies. Will answer all the inexplicable questions he has. And, of course, be sure to grumpily reprimand him for every mistake he makes.

This child will force her to gradually lose every trace of girlishness on her body.

I feel that youth is gradually leaving us. I was not overjoyed because of the arrival of this child. Although I was letting nature take its course, at that moment, I just felt a little confused, a little stressed, and a little touched.

I remembered that night on campus in 2007. We were sitting on chairs, and when we talked about having children in the future, we argued for a long time about whether to enroll our children in a study class.

Unexpectedly, after so many years of tossing and turning, I finally had a baby. Looking back at this journey, her persistence was not easy.

Looking out the car window, I saw scenes of the past. I was a little choked and replied to her:

Seize the opportunity, your breasts can finally become bigger.

9

After two years of marriage and six years of love together, seven and a half months ago, for the first time, no measures were taken. Just this time, it happened.

That night I went downstairs to see a Chinese medicine doctor. The quack doctor said that I was cold and that I was most likely infertile. That night I cried while having dinner alone, and then called my sister to cry, fearing that I might have to slowly start looking for a child. My family comforted me and said that since I started preparing for pregnancy, I should buy some pregnancy test paper and test it every month.

Two were carried that night. I took the picture for my husband. He was fishing at the time and he threw his fishing rod. He was racing back and touched my belly when he came back. He kept giggling and made sure it was true.

I was on night shift that night, and he was sleeping in the duty room next door, saying he wanted to protect his son. After that, he kept traveling, staying up late, and smoking. We originally thought that we would be a happy family of three, waiting for the birth of our second baby, but when we were five months pregnant, my husband was admitted to the hospital due to high blood pressure and cerebral infarction. He suffered hemiplegia on the left side of his body and it took him three full months to recover.

When I was pushed into the emergency room that night, he grabbed my hand and said, don't be anxious, don't run, and take good care of the child in your belly.

I said yes, I really didn’t cry, I paid the bill calmly, went to the hospital, discussed with the doctor about using the most expensive medicine, and then waited for the results. Four hours later, the thrombolysis results were not satisfactory, and the left side of his body could not heal. I started to notify my father and my parents-in-law who were far away in Xi'an.

The whole family joined the recovery process, which was a road filled with tears. I didn’t have the energy or time to do prenatal education. The only thing I said to the baby every day was “Dad, please come on!”

Three months of suffering, exhaustion, and despair have passed. My husband is now fully able to walk, drive, swim, and ride a bicycle. The doctors said that his recovery was very quick and miraculous. But our nightmare is not over yet. Due to poor control of malignant hypertension, the kidneys have been damaged to stage 3. We are now hospitalized for a renal puncture to clarify the pathology. The family has all gone back, but the baby's father, who is very strong, is alone in the hospital, preparing for a puncture the day after tomorrow.

I have a big belly. I have been very tired recently. I cannot sleep well. I always have nightmares all night. I always want to run to the hospital in the middle of the night to see if he sleeps well. Is he in a low mood? I want to hug him. he. I want to work with him to find a good name for the baby and talk about what the baby will look like in the future.

No matter what the result is, dear, please come on!

10

When the pregnancy test showed two lines, I was at home and texted my husband that I was pregnant. He replied, really? I said I should go to the hospital to confirm. He said, then I will ask for leave tomorrow.

After I got home, I said, why aren’t you surprised? He said I laughed when I saw your text message!

I always thought that he was naturally calm, or that men were slower to react to this. It wasn't until around the eighth week, during the new B-ultrasound, that he suddenly took the list and told me, look, here is the head, here is the butt, here are the legs and here are the hands. Did I say you have divine eyes? It was so dark that I couldn't see clearly. He said you have bad eyesight.

After returning to his house, he took it out again and showed it to my mother-in-law, who couldn’t see anything clearly. He pointed again from head to toe, and this time he was able to pinpoint the eyes...

My husband has mysophobia. He used to have to wash his whole body after going to the hospital and returning home. Papers related to the hospital, The card cannot even be touched. But in the next few days, this man took the B-ultrasound sheet and explained every structure of his child to me in detail when he was free...

11

I experienced this twice.

The first time was more than 5 years ago. My wife didn’t have her period for two weeks and she told me so, so she should be mentally prepared. My wife got up early in the morning and ran to the bathroom to get tested. Then she came back to the room and said to me, "Congratulations, you are going to be a father." My mood at that time was that I just wanted to post an advertisement and share the joy with others (of course, our custom here is that we can't say it in the first few months). In the following months, when relatives and friends told us about this matter, we could only smile sweetly.

The second time was more than two years ago, and the scene was almost the same as before. However, when my wife came back after the test and said, "Congratulations, you have become a father again" (obviously the tone this time was much calmer than the first time), I just replied with a flat "Oh".

My excitement was much lighter than the first time, because there was a girl who was nearly 3 years old sleeping next to me.

As before, I couldn’t talk about it everywhere, but I told my sister immediately, "Mom has a baby in her belly, you have to prepare to be a sister."

Then we Of course, the adults couldn't tell her in the first few months, but it was really hard for her sister to ask her to keep this very important secret to her. When I was happy, I wanted to say it out loud, but in the end I held back my words and smiled stupidly.

What I remember most is taking my sister to the kindergarten to meet the class teacher. My sister finally couldn't bear it anymore and shared this happy secret with the class teacher.

12

I was in Beijing at the time, and she was studying thousands of miles away. After being separated for a week and hearing the news that she was pregnant, my heart was:

Damn it!

Real or fake?

Just kidding!

Damn it, I’m so poor and uneducated.

How is such a bird-like person suitable to be a father? Being a brother is hard work! It’s better now! I can't hold it anymore. It's going to be embarrassing.

Uh-should I find a part-time job after get off work in the evening? Which one is more profitable, selling stinky tofu or grilled cold noodles? Will the urban management officer beat me? Street vendors, intellectuals, it makes no sense not to get beaten!

No, no.

A gentleman should stick to his roots and never abandon them for the sake of the bottom. My top priority now is not a lack of money, but a lack of character. Be a good person from now on.

The next day, I went to burn incense.

13

My husband and I were a couple, and we were careless and careless until we were over 30 years old. When we found that we couldn’t give birth to a little beast, we went to the hospital for a check-up. Well, little animal, I have early-stage ovarian cancer. I had one side removed, my lymph nodes were cleared, and I underwent four rounds of chemotherapy.

Lying on the hospital bed, I said with despair, "Little bird, maybe we will never have a relationship in the future, I'm sorry for you." He said angrily, what do you want a child for? It's dragging someone down to death, stop talking!

Then he continued to wander around for half a year. When he saw other babies and little birds, he curled his eyes and said, "Why raise a baby if you can't think of it!" The little beast was so worried that he went to see several doctors, but there were no good suggestions or definite answers. Every time he went home in sorrow and tears.

Half a year after chemotherapy, my hair came out and I went back to work honestly.

Once on a business trip, I found that my aunt’s drawing, which was extremely accurate, had been delayed. I thought I was tired, but the temperature continued to be high after another day, so I went to buy a bangbang, which is said to be the most accurate in the world, and the positive sign is displayed with a cross. It took me a long time to read the manual to understand.

I went back to the hotel for the test, and within a minute, I made a perfect cross, cried wildly and collapsed, and my wailing probably scared the people next door to death. I wiped away my tears and sent a WeChat message to Xiaoqin. What are you doing? The other party said don't disturb me when I poop! ...Consider returning to Beijing the next day and talk to him in person.

It was 11pm when I got home the next day. Xiaoqin cooked tomato and egg noodles. He was hungry and sneaked in first. He held the bowl and watched me come in to pack my luggage. He also used his mobile phone to play with the company. WeChat group. I said I would give you a gift. What did he say?

Passing the stick over, Xiaoqiao was a little confused, what do you mean? Could it be? What is it? explain? ah?

I'm right, you are a father. He continued to grin, stood up, hugged me, kissed my forehead, and said you were tired, go to sleep. I calmly continued to chat in the company’s WeChat group.

When I woke up the next day, the little bird seemed to be here. Seriously, this baby seemed to be a Virgo! How is this done? Then he said tangledly, you tell your mother first, and I will tell my mother later, mother-in-law takes priority!

When the call got through, I was a little speechless and threw the phone to Xiaoqin. He said, Oh my god, XXX is here. My mother asked in a loud voice, “What’s the matter?” Xiaoqin was speechless and couldn't say a word for a long time. I grabbed the phone and said you are going to have a grandson!

Turning his head to look at Xiaoqin, the man was crying.

I feel as if I have lived half my life in vain.

When my daughter was born, I really didn’t dare to hold my daughter! She was afraid of hurting her even if she touched her little hands.

On the first day after my daughter was born, the grandmother and grandma who were watching the child hugged the child. They wanted to hug the child but didn’t dare. I could only stand next to them and watch the child smile at her. She also laughed at me and really wanted to hug her and give her a kiss. I believe that very few fathers would dare to hug their children right after they were born. What I was thinking about at the beginning was that I was not strong enough to hurt the baby, but I still wanted to hug her. Holding a baby is contradictory.

I held my daughter on the fifth day after her birth. After the persuasion of my mother and my wife, I held my daughter for the first time. Her limbs were really stiff and I didn’t dare to move at all. I was still very happy in my heart, and eventually I got used to hugging my daughter every day. It was not as complicated as I thought at first!

I am very happy to answer this friend’s question. I am a mother for the first time, and my mood is not only surprising but also very complicated! First of all, when you are pregnant, the pregnancy preservation process is very stressful, and every pregnancy test is like passing a test.

Then came the production process. Being a mother is really not easy. Giving birth was very exciting. Finally, the birth and the first meeting were really confusing. I was too small and soft. I didn’t dare to hold her. I was afraid of falling into the basin when I took a shower. In short, as a first-time mother, I feel really surprised and confused!

When parents become parents for the first time, they should have this reaction when faced with a rosy baby: How should I hold it so small? Will I bend his waist when I hold him? Under the excitement, a pair of hands were at a loss, wanting to hug but not daring to do so...

After giving birth to my first baby, my mother-in-law and husband always carried the baby to the bed and fed him while he was in the hospital. Breast milk, after returning home, my mother-in-law said that I could pick him up and feed him, but it was not okay to let the baby lie down to eat. Faced with such a small baby, I just didn't dare to hold it. My whole body was soft, my head felt a little soft, and my little arms and legs were particularly delicate. I was afraid that my movements would make him uncomfortable. Not to mention my husband. I remember when Dabao was four or five years old, he still didn’t dare to move when I was holding him. His whole body felt stiff.

As a first-time mother, many things are experienced for the first time. It is normal to feel at a loss when facing the little baby in front of you. Children grow very fast, and they look different every day. The feeling inside will become heavier day by day!

When I was preparing to become a mother for the first time, I did a lot of homework. I tried to get pregnant for two months without success, so I planned to give up because the zodiac sign of the next baby will be a sheep baby, because we have a saying here. It’s just that the ten sheep and nine are incomplete, maybe it’s all the superstitions of the old people! In fact, both my parents were born in the Year of the Sheep!

When I was first pregnant, I was cautious about everything. I didn’t dare to play with mobile phones or watch TV (for fear of radiation). You can’t eat spicy food, you can’t eat crabs, you can’t eat ice cream, in short, there are a lot of rules and regulations. Coupled with the daily pregnancy reactions, I suffered from prenatal depression. I cried every day and felt that there was no hope in life. When would I be able to get over it?

It wasn’t until four months later that my pregnancy symptoms disappeared. Apart from not liking meat, I have a great appetite (I used to be a carnivore, and I don’t like anything without meat). My weight went from 100 pounds before pregnancy to 150 pounds before giving birth. The baby was only over 6 pounds, and all the meat was on my body. .

After my child was born and I became a mother, I always felt uncomfortable in various ways. I would sweat profusely just changing a diaper (after changing the diaper, I could quickly change it even if the child was standing). ) is always in a hurry. For the first time, my husband put the baby in my hands and asked me to breastfeed. Although the baby weighed more than 6 pounds, it felt heavy. Because I was used to holding the baby for breastfeeding, my shoulders suffered from frozen shoulder. I couldn’t hold the baby for a long time. After waiting for the dishes for a long time, I couldn’t even lift my arms. The old man said that I was sick during confinement, so I gave birth to my second child. Facts have proved that the more children you have, the more tired you will be. Not only does your illness not get better, it actually gets worse!

So new mothers, please put your baby on the bed sideways when breastfeeding, and don’t suffer from frozen shoulder like me!

How do you feel when you become a father for the first time? Are you afraid to hold a child?

I became a mother for the first time. In fact, my daughter was born out of nowhere. I was not prepared at all. The pregnancy was an accident, and the delivery on the due date was even more of an accident. Because I was not prepared at all, I was already born. After giving birth to the baby, I thought she was ugly when I first saw her. Later, as she grew up, she looked much prettier. I dare to hold the baby and dress the baby. What do you say about this thing? If you don’t do it, who will? No one can always help you, help you, help you, it is better to rely on yourself than to rely on anyone else. But to be honest, I always feel like the baby is sleeping next to me. Such a small baby, I am afraid that I will forget about it and crush her. So much so that I bought a crib for my baby after confinement, so that the baby could sleep on his own.

Haha, when I saw this question, I thought of the scene when my eldest son was just born and brought home, and I hugged him fiercely, scaring my daughter-in-law and others.

When I became a father for the first time, it felt weird and magical.

When I gave birth to my eldest son, I was lucky enough to be able to accompany me during the delivery. When the nurse cut the umbilical cord and put it on the trolley, I was a little at a loss as I didn’t know that I was taking care of my weak daughter-in-law after giving birth. It’s better to go see your newborn daughter quickly.

For a moment, I stared blankly at the pink baby on the table, her curled body, and the soaked lanugo hair on her scalp. My thoughts suddenly flew around. Far away, a pink little girl opened her hands and ran towards me while calling her daddy. I was so moved that tears filled my eyes. I was really moved. It was the kind of person who suddenly has your blood in the world. When life appears in front of you, it is invisibly connected to you.

The three of us asked the nurse to help us take a group photo. In the photo, our daughter was lying in the arms of my wife. I gently hugged them, mother and son, and countless strength rose in my body because I had another thought. The object to be protected.

Being a father for the first time must be the most unforgettable experience in a man's life. At that moment, various thoughts will emerge, and many people really grow up at that moment.

On the road to becoming a father and a mother, every parent who has become a parent has a first time. That feeling will last you a lifetime. Whether it is joy or sadness, laughter or tears, everyone may be different, but the most common thing is: sighing for the magic of life.

As a baby daddy, I clearly remember the feeling of becoming a dad for the first time.

When my lover told me that her relatives did not come as scheduled, I couldn’t believe it. I went to the drugstore to buy a pregnancy test, and the test result showed that I was pregnant. Because it was my first time to use this, I read the instructions repeatedly. After confirming that it was true, I was stunned for a while. It felt so amazing. How can I say that I will become a father when I am a father. Still can't believe it.

On the weekend, we went to the hospital for a check-up. When the test results were indeed confirmed, I could believe that I was really going to be a father. I have been calling myself daddy for more than 20 years, and now someone is about to call me daddy. It’s really hard to get used to it for a while.

So, in the days that followed, as an expectant father, I took the initiative to contract out the housework at home, and from then on I lived as a practitioner of the household responsibility system, and truly experienced it. The feeling of being in charge, haha.

My wife and I are looking forward to the birth of our baby. We have not missed any check-ups and basically complied with all the doctor's instructions. I also bought a lot of parenting books. Although I haven’t read many of them (are there any that are the same), I’m still keeping them there. At the same time, I also bought a lot of things needed for labor (more than half of them were never used, those guides were too detailed, and many of them were useless), and I was just waiting for the baby to be born.

Finally, after so many calls, the baby was born. When the midwifery nurse showed me the newly born crumpled baby with bloodshot eyes, I had only one thought in my mind: This is amazing. It was still in my belly just now, and now it has become a living baby. People.

I held my newborn baby, and she looked at me with squinted eyes, neither crying nor fussing.

It’s amazing. I’m really a father. This is not a dream. I have a real little person in my hands. Oh my gosh.

Tell me how I feel.

Holding a baby for the first time is really a technical job.

The first time I held my baby, my hands were stiff. In the first two days of feeding the baby, I had to finish feeding the baby on one side and needed help from my family members on the other side.

It’s interesting to think about it now.

Although, when I was pregnant, I took various parenting classes and read a lot of parenting books. When the baby was born and was lying in your arms, I was in a hurry as I only knew theory and was in urgent need of practical experience. , often sweating profusely.

I would say to my son who is only ten days old: "Baby, you are already ten days old, so you can't torment your mother!" I would also say to my son who is less than five months old in a cradle. , pushing the whole room back and forth while crying.

These experiences that were painful at the time are now full of happiness and satisfaction when I recall them.

With this question, I also want to know who else is like me becoming a mother for the first time?

My husband is a typical person who doesn’t dare to hold a child. The doctor handed him the child and told him to let daddy hold it. He backed away and waved his hands in fear. He didn’t dare, such a small and soft child. , I don’t dare to hug you, don’t let it hurt you! The doctor was so amused that he taught her the correct way before she dared to hold her, and then she became a daughter slave!

I can’t explain my feelings clearly, and I feel a little strange. Did I give birth to this? I feel strange again, how could there be such a cute little doll? There is something wrong, what should I do, I don’t know anything!

In short, novice parents will have problems of one kind or another, and they will also make a lot of jokes. We all grow up step by step, learn and practice at the same time. No one is born with it. . Children will inevitably be in a hurry when they are sick, and they will get angry when they are disobedient. But as long as the child smiles sweetly, all the hard work will disappear and everything will become better.

Because of you, the world is worth it. This is what I just read in a book, and I was very touched.