"Mom, why are you afraid of your sister-in-law?" "No, you will understand later." what do you think?

People often say that a good mother-in-law must have a good daughter-in-law first. This sentence also has some truth. There are many families around me, because my mother-in-law is kind to her daughter-in-law, and when she is old, her daughter-in-law will do her best to take care of her mother-in-law.

This situation should be common in families. As long as the mother-in-law says yes first, the daughter-in-law will not be too bad.

I have a brother who is 10 years older than me. When I was in junior high school, my brother got married and he was the only male in the family. So after marriage, my brother and sister-in-law have been living with their parents.

I was still at school at that time. Although I seldom pay attention to things at home, I also know that my brother and sister-in-law do nothing at home except work every day.

I remember my mother always served food and drinks to my sister-in-law, who never said thank you. What impressed me deeply was that my mother once washed my sister-in-law's skirt. Although my sister-in-law didn't say it clearly, she visited her mother for several days.

Mother asked the price of her brother's skirt and paid the original price to her daughter-in-law. Later, her mother paid her back, and her sister-in-law also had face.

After my brother's son was born, my mother became a free nanny and was on call 24 hours a day. Sister-in-law said she was hungry at twelve o'clock at night, and her mother would get up and cook for her.

After their son was a little older, he left it to his mother to take care of him alone, and the couple began to be shopkeepers of cutting. After I graduated from college, their second child came to take care of my mother again.

The couple eat, drink and have fun everywhere all day, and don't lift their hands at home. My mother is responsible for eating and drinking for a family of four. My mother never complains and is always careful in front of her son and daughter-in-law.

I help my mother take care of the children and do housework every day when I come home from work. To tell the truth, I really didn't like my sister-in-law at that time. I tried to stand up for my mother several times, but my mother stopped me. Seriously, I really don't understand. Is it necessary for mother to be so afraid of her sister-in-law?

02

I asked my mother, "Mom, why are you afraid of my sister-in-law? You see how tired you are for their family of four? "

Mother said earnestly, "I'm not afraid. You will understand in the future, my daughter. Don't think that what mom is doing now is a loss. Life is equal for everyone. "

I didn't understand why my mother was so humble at that time. What's so great about my sister-in-law? Why should I keep my mother waiting on her?

After years of marriage, I finally understood what my mother said. It was the fifth year after I got married, and I was preparing to pick up my daughter from school. Suddenly, I got a call from my brother saying that my mother was in hospital. After I picked up the child and rushed to the hospital, I watched my mother lying in the hospital bed, covered in needles.

My sister-in-law bent down beside her mother and wiped her body over and over again, while my brother ran up and down to get the medicine. At that moment, I finally understood what my mother said.

In the cycle of heaven, my mother paid for her old age in those years. During my mother's illness and hospitalization, I have to take care of my children every day. I can only take time to go to the hospital to see my mother after her children go to school. But my sister-in-law took a long vacation to take care of her mother.

My mother still needs to be taken care of after she leaves the hospital, so my sister-in-law has to resign and take care of the elderly at home full-time. As a daughter, I always rush back and leave like a guest. For my own mother, my contribution is not as good as my sister-in-law.

At that time, I understood everything. My mother helps my brother and sister-in-law with their children, not them, but herself. If my mother hadn't helped my sister-in-law take care of the children and cook for her, my sister-in-law wouldn't be willing to wait on her in bed in the future.

It was my mother who helped my daughter-in-law wash clothes, and later my sister-in-law helped her mother-in-law. To tell the truth, serving an old man who is ill in bed is not as simple as serving a lively young man.

Mom only needs to cook and wash clothes, even with her grandchildren, they all go to school a few years later. Besides, at that time, my mother still had hope. As long as the grandson grows up, there will be less and less places to use her.

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Later, in addition to cooking and washing clothes, my sister-in-law had to take care of the whole family, even when it was our turn to take care of it, my elderly grandmother was in charge. But she's like me. Everything is dominated by the husband's family, and there are few opportunities to return to her family.

Recalling my mother's words again, I can only sigh that life is so fair to each of us. When you were young, you enjoyed it. After middle age, you have to pay. People who pay in middle age will have a dependence when they are old.

After watching the role exchange between mother and sister-in-law, I also have a deep understanding, although the essence of old people's identity is their parents or the other half's parents. But no matter whose parents are, it is natural for us to support our parents, which is the foundation of human relations and a natural emotion.

Some people will say that whether the elderly have helped their children or not, it is an obligation for children to support the elderly. From an objective point of view, this is the case. However, people's emotions are also very complicated. If the mother-in-law has never helped her daughter-in-law, even if the daughter-in-law has the obligation to take care of her mother-in-law in the future, it is hard to say how much people can do when fulfilling this obligation.

If her mother-in-law helps her daughter-in-law when she needs it, she will take care of her mother-in-law wholeheartedly when she is old.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with, but if everyone is willing to put down their posture and extend a hand of friendship to each other, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can get along like a family.