What if I want to break up after living together?

What if I want to break up after living together?

What if I live together and want to break up? No matter how sweet the relationship is, it can't escape betrayal. A partner's infidelity is a sign of disloyalty to love. You don't have to expect a man to be loyal to marriage and love. Betrayal is always like a blunt knife sawing fist-sized flesh and blood repeatedly. What if I live together and want to break up? I believe you have the answer.

What if I live together and want to break up? 1 1. Change the pace of life with your partner.

The first way to break up with a cohabitant is to "change the pace of life". All along, I have been adjusting my time to spend more time with each other, but now I feel very painful to get along with each other ... at this time, I put my work or friends' appointments in the calendar and change the rhythm of getting along with each other. If a sensitive person may find it, if not, it will be staggered because of the other person's time, and then let the breakup go smoothly.

2, let the other side hate

This method is the easiest way to break up with the other party, that is, to make the other party "hate you" because of communication, so that you will avoid doing things that make the other party hate! If someone notices this, the other person will take the initiative to say, "Are you going to break up?" In addition, if the other party doesn't notice, it will naturally break up because they hate you, so they can break up without quarreling.

3. To be honest

Stop beating around the bush and just say "I want to break up". This is also a way to break up with a cohabitant smoothly, but it also depends on the other person's personality ... sometimes it's not as smooth as you think. Because of communication, the other person's personality should be understood. If the other party is suitable for this method, it is recommended to use it! In addition, it is also important to find a third party to accompany you when talking about breaking up. (Self-safety is very important ~) When both sides are angry, if there is a third party who can judge calmly, the discussion can proceed smoothly. ...

Step 4 leave the place where you live together

The ultimate way to break up with cohabitants is to leave the cohabiting place directly. If you don't plan to go back, you can go back to your hometown or rent a new house. This method is only effective if the house in the cohabitation place is rented in the name of the other party! On the contrary, if the house you live in together is rented in your own name, it is not bad to stay at a friend's house, or longer, you can consider renting an apartment every month and a building every week. If you do this, if you move out of the cohabitation life of two people, the other party will have a considerable reaction. It is recommended to discuss breaking up at this time!

I have lived together and want to break up. 2. Detailed explanation of the steps to recover after breaking up.

1, starting with mentality adjustment

Only when you lose it will you know how to cherish it, and only when you break up will you know the meaning of your predecessor in your life.

You have to think: "I believe I can save my predecessor, make him fall in love with me again, let him see a brand-new me, and give him the best self."

Many people will pester each other when they break up, because there is a mentality in their predecessors:

Once you leave this relationship, your ex will be forced to admit that you have failed. If you continue to struggle, you can deceive yourself and say that you don't seem to have failed.

In fact, in the process of your entanglement, you are constantly putting pressure on your predecessor and increasing your emotional input.

But the success rate of this recovery is very small.

The correct way to save your predecessor is to attract again. The first step is to adjust your lovelorn mentality.

2. Expand your social circle.

Emotional loss of control often occurs in lovelorn, the core reason is that lovelorn people are used to locking themselves in a closed space, always recalling the past and escaping from reality.

This is a very common state, no matter what your previous relationship was. Keep in touch with people around you and feel the emotions of others.

When communicating with others, there is an emotional connection, which makes you feel the positive energy of people around you and bring out your bad emotions.

Losing one person doesn't mean losing the whole world. Without my predecessor, the world is still running, but I have lost a living habit.

At the same time, I try to help some people who need help in communicating with others. In this process, my emotions are released and I will become positive under the influence of people around me.

3. Maintain regular living habits.

While experiencing the pain of lovelorn love, I believe that your originally orderly life has been disrupted.

At this time, don't let yourself do whatever you want. After being lovelorn, you must return to regular living habits.

You can make a weekly plan and a daily plan for yourself, and try to reduce your thoughts.

When you are in a very positive state of mind and work, you will add an anchor to yourself:

Losing love is not a big deal. Of course, it is painful to get out of the shadow of lovelorn. You can give yourself five to fifteen minutes to cry at night.

If you are a rational person, you can record all your feelings in your diary.

After venting your emotions, you can feel your current state through this organized narrative, which will help you find a breakthrough in adjustment.

4. Accept the fact of breaking up

No matter how much you don't want to face it, it's a fact that you have broken up.

Even if my predecessor put forward thousands of things when we broke up, if you were better before, our result would not be a breakup, but these things existed before we broke up.

It doesn't mean that your predecessor will come back if you verbally promise to correct all your previous shortcomings.

The first step to save your ex is to admit and accept the fact that you broke up and stop pestering your ex.

Give everyone a cooling-off period, during which you can make yourself a better self with practical actions and give your predecessor a reason to turn around with practical actions.

Second, what can I do to make the other party turn around?

1, learn to listen, and don't rush to express different opinions.

You know, it is a very good thing that the other person is willing to communicate with you. Before breaking up, the other party kept a lot of dissatisfaction and opinions about you in mind. Learn to listen, because these are the points he expects you to improve. You know, a person is really disheartened about you, and even complaining about you will feel redundant.

Appropriate silence, not eager to express different views, find the right topic when chatting. This can not only understand each other's current situation, understand each other's mentality, but also get the relationship back on track.

2. Transmit positive energy and create a good atmosphere.

Redemption is the second attraction, not a change of the past. So after getting back together, don't bring the negative energy of breaking up into the conversation, because it will remind the other party of all kinds of unhappiness before and lose interest in communicating with you. Maintaining a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere, occasionally frolicking and understanding each other are all conducive to harmonious coexistence between you and your recovery.

3, to their liking, proper care.

Not much to say, but good. Listen more, express your views appropriately, and find someone you like to chat with. The purpose is to "arouse his interest." If you want to save love, you need to have proper praise and curiosity about the fields he is interested in. He will take the initiative to guide the topic and express his world.

The second attraction is not easy to say. You should show concern for legitimate interests and let him see the possibility of your continuation. With this compound seed, water it well, and the road to save him will not be too far.

Third, what kind of mentality should we maintain in the process of recovery?

1, just hold your horses

After breaking up, you must hold your breath. Don't show your bad temper. But let yourself learn to think after breaking up. Think about what's going on between you two, whose reason and from whom. If it is your problem, then you should know how to solve it. What should you do if you want to save this relationship? What do you need to do? Only by making your ideas clear repeatedly can you carry out your plan. Many girls say that there are very few who can really be stable, and there are very few who can not lose their temper and think. Only if they don't love, can this happen! Actually, I want to say, it's not like this. You tried to get rid of that relationship. Do something that two people dare not do together, or go on a trip and try to escape from their predecessors. You can also find your friend, tell her about you two, and let a bystander analyze what your problem really is. When you analyze all the problems clearly, you will find it very easy to recover.

In fact, everything is not as complicated as you think. The only thing you can understand about love and not love is yourself. Relax and look high, and then try to save your feelings!

Step 2 keep your head steady

When you stabilize your emotions, list the reasons why two people broke up and find the key problem of your breakup. Or if you don't know what the problem is, you can find your best friend to tie you up and analyze it. After all, onlookers may have some differences with your thoughts.

These reasons may come from you or from each other. Two people quarrel and break up for a reason. It doesn't matter if you are too picky, too demanding, or not good at controlling your emotions. Find the root of the problem and correct your own problems one by one. Let yourself get rid of your own problems from the root. If you want to save it, you have to make a brand-new change to make the other person feel that you have the determination to save your feelings.

Step 3 take action

When you have analyzed all the problems clearly, you should take action. All the problems are not in my heart, which is an illusion. According to your own problems and found solutions, talk about the solutions to the problems, so that the factors affecting your relationship can be improved to a certain extent. By the way, you can try to let him know when you are trying! Let him see that you are changing and let him connect the knots in his heart! After all, when two people break up, both sides have a knot in their hearts. It only takes a little effort to untie this knot!

If you want to save your predecessor, don't say I'm just pretending today, but realize with your heart that I really didn't do well, and this relationship that I really cherish for myself is changing. Only by persistence will the other party see their sincerity. Of course, you have to pay attention to your mentality. You can't tell me why I'm trying to see him change. After all, you have to save each other. The process of emotional rescue is not a word, but an action. Yours, slowly melt the ice in each other's hearts to achieve the final result!

4. Correct your attitude

Finally, when your current job comes back to you, don't go back to the stage where you just broke up. In the process of recovery, you let your emotions grow to a certain extent and change yourself, so in order not to break up again in the future, don't go back to your original shape. You should have a correct attitude and change the bad side yourself. You should sit down face to face, communicate with him and have an in-depth chat on the side that you think the other person should not appear. It is more correct for two people to solve problems in a relatively peaceful state!