My husband never helps me with the housework. How can I persuade him to help me?

Husband doesn't do housework, you can treat him like this!

A fan told me privately that her husband hardly does housework at home. She really didn't know what to do, so she asked me what I could do to cure her husband.

To tell the truth, it is too common for men not to do housework at home. They always enjoy women's efforts with peace of mind, but they never know the hardships of women, and they also make a big gesture of "I earn money to support my family", which is very irritating.

So, what can be done to make men take the initiative to do housework? On this issue, I want to share with you the contribution of a fan.

First statement: This article was published with the consent of fans. The following is the original submission of fans:

I didn't know until I got married that housework was so tiring. Take cooking as an example. You should go to the market to pick vegetables and buy food first, then take them home, wash them and cut them, and then fry them. Clean up the kitchen and wash the pot in time after frying. After the whole process, an hour or two passed, not to mention sweeping the floor, mopping the floor, cleaning the table, changing sheets and quilts, washing clothes, etc. ...

Now I understand that it is not easy for my mother, and I also understand how valuable it is for a man to work hard. Unfortunately, my husband doesn't have this quality. He is a big boy spoiled by his mother-in-law, so I did most of the housework after we got married.

At first, I was happy to do so. After all, this is our home and should be cleaned. But after a long time, my heart became more and more unbalanced and my housework became more and more tired. While I was cooking, he was lying on the sofa playing with his mobile phone. I told him to change the sheets, but he didn't move for a long time. Finally, I did it. Tell him to throw out the garbage, but he always says it many times before moving. ...

Gradually, because of housework problems, I began to lose my temper with him, and even scolded him and accused him. Although he knows that he has to go to work at this time, he is always reluctant. Until I became more and more dissatisfied with him, he was scolded by me more and more times, and we both broke out and had a big fight. He even said he wanted to divorce me!

I feel very wronged. I do most housework at home. I just hope he can share a little more so that I won't be so tired. Why didn't he listen to me and divorce me? I'm so disappointed in him, but I don't want a real divorce. This is a dilemma. After my best friend knew my situation, she suggested me to make an emotional inquiry, so I went.

After learning about my situation, my psychological counselor told me that the reason for my husband's divorce was probably a moment of anger, so there is no need to take it seriously. If I divorce him for this reason, I will definitely regret it, so I need to calm down first.

The purple consultant also told me that our problem is actually easy to solve, so that he can see the work at home and know the hard work of doing housework, and my previous practice of forcing him to work was too radical, which aroused his rebellious mentality and made him even more unwilling to work;

Finally, the purple psychological counselor told me that if we want to change the status quo, we first need to let our husband see the work at home, then "delegate", explain the housework clearly, let him do it, praise him in time, encourage him, guide him to change little by little, and finally divide the housework so that men can really participate in the housework.

Under the guidance of purple consultant, I first took the initiative to leave home for two weeks on business and left him alone at home; When I came back, I found my home in a mess, so I took the opportunity to talk to him and let him know the complexity and tiredness of housework. Then I arranged some work at home for him, just to let him do it himself and stop worrying; Of course, I also said a lot of rewards and compliments. My husband really buys this set. When praising him, he is as positive as chicken blood.

In this way, my husband has gradually changed. When the floor is dirty, he knows how to mop the floor. If I wash too much clothes, he will help me when I cook. I feel much more relaxed and our relationship is getting closer and closer. We work together for our small family.

This is the whole content of fan submissions.

As Fan said, if you want a man to do housework on his own initiative, you must first let him see the work at home and know the hard work of doing housework, and then guide him to do it a little bit, cultivate his awareness of doing housework and let men really participate in housework.

May you cherish the people you love, learn to love, give love and reap love.