"If you don't do three things, it will be good for three generations." What three things does it refer to?

If you don’t do three things, it will last three generations? This is another saying left to us by the ancients. Although this saying seems relatively simple, not everyone may understand the truth behind it. Today let’s talk about three specific things. Not to do the three things? It means not to be the middleman, not to be the guarantee, and not to be the matchmaker.

?Don’t do it?

?Don’t do it? It means not to be the middleman. In fact, we will play this role many times in life.

The role of the intermediary is mainly to mediate the conflicting parties and resolve the conflicts between them through their own language and behavior. It is actually very difficult to be a middleman. It is best to be able to reduce big things to small ones. However, if you accidentally favor one party, it will be a disservice and make others resent you. Not only will there be no good results, but the gains outweigh the losses.

?No guarantee?

?No guarantee? It means not to be a guarantor for others. When it comes to guarantees, it is usually related to money.

It is not that we have never encountered something in life when we are in urgent need of money. In this case, we will find someone to ask for help, and a guarantor is needed to successfully borrow. However, we also know that it is easy to borrow money but difficult to pay back, and there are many people who do not pay back. At this time, the guarantor is the one who is embarrassed. If the borrower is unable to repay the loan, the lender will first look for a guarantor. If the lender is easy to talk to, that's fine, otherwise, in serious cases, you may have to bear legal liability. So don’t be a guarantor casually.

?Not a matchmaker?

Being a matchmaker is originally a virtuous thing. After all, it is to create a beautiful marriage for both parties. But in reality it's not that simple. If both parties live a happy and loving married life, the matchmaker will have a very good reputation. But if two people are unhappy after marriage, or even get to the bottom of divorce, then even the matchmaker will be criticized, and the matchmaker's reputation will be damaged, and he will be thankless.

We still need to truly understand the life principles that the ancients have left us through their life experiences, and not let our own lives and the next generation be affected.