The three-child policy has been liberalized. These three types of families are more likely to have three children. Let’s talk about the stories of the three-child families around you.

Author | Dong Linfu

After the three-child policy was liberalized, my mother-in-law said to me: "This policy is good. Families who like children can ask for more."

But I think that raising children now is completely different from raising children in my mother-in-law's generation. In the past, children were basically given food to eat as long as they were hungry. The eldest child looked after the second child, and the second child looked after the third child, and so on. By analogy, it does not hinder parents from making money to support their families.

Nowadays, raising children requires quality. Parents want the best for their children’s food, use, and education.

Parents are also under a lot of pressure. They have to pay off mortgages, car loans, etc., and raise children. In terms of the quality of life of the whole family, modern people are becoming more and more demanding, unlike parents in the past. , I can have enough to eat and clothe myself, and then let my children have enough to eat and clothe themselves, and I will be extremely happy.

Modern parents want to have the financial ability to take their children on an on-the-go trip at any time in their spare time. When they are busy at work, they also hope to take into account their children's life and education, and have high requirements for the quality of life of themselves and their children. The number is getting higher and higher. Therefore, having three children is quite stressful for young people.

Despite the difficulties, there are quite a few families who are already pregnant with three children or preparing to have three children. What is everyone’s mentality behind having three children? The friends around me are roughly divided into the following three situations.

For example, my cousin already has two "little cotton-padded jackets" at home. She insists on giving birth to another "leather jacket", but her brother-in-law can't stop her. My cousin is now more than four months pregnant.

My cousin said that she just wanted a son. But the brother-in-law didn't care. He thought the two daughters were smart and well-behaved, and he was already content.

My cousin feels that if she wants to have another child while she is young, of course she hopes to have both children, but if the third child is still a daughter, she will not be unable to accept it. My cousin's family is in good financial condition. Her parents-in-law are retired and they are not too old. They can help take care of the children. It is not a big pressure for her to have a third child.

What my cousin said reminded me of one of my male classmates.

I, a high school male classmate, gave birth to twin boys for the first time with my wife. After the couple gave birth to the twin boys, they worked hard for several years. After the two sons entered elementary school, the couple suddenly felt a little lost. , I feel that I need to have another daughter, then my life will be complete.

After having the idea, the couple quickly put it into action and became pregnant again smoothly.

On the delivery bed, when the male classmate’s wife heard the doctor say that she had given birth to another son, she burst into tears. When they returned to the ward, the couple was speechless. The male classmate’s wife said to the male classmate: : "Three sons, what will we do in the future?"

The male classmate comforted his wife and said: "You should be lucky that two more twin sons were not born this time. If so, the four eldest sons will The two of us will have more work to do in the rest of our lives."

When the male classmate's wife heard this, she burst into tears and laughed, and replied, "That's right."

Now the three of the male classmate's family. The son is lively and cute, and the couple likes the third child so much that they don't mind at all that the third child is not a daughter.

Having children is sometimes the obsession of parents. Regardless of whether they raise a son or a daughter for a few months, they will have feelings for them and they are their parents' darlings.

2. A family that is rich and likes children.

My classmate Li is the type of family that has money and loves children.

Li’s husband runs his own company, and Li works as an accountant in her husband’s company. She has given birth to a son and a daughter, and is currently preparing for a third child.

Li’s mother and mother-in-law are very supportive of Li having three children.

Li’s mother said that although having more children may make you tired when you are young, you will realize the benefits when you are old. Look at your grandma now, how happy she is.

Li’s grandmother gave birth to two daughters and one son.

Now Li’s aunt has also retired and is dedicated to taking care of Li’s grandma at home. Li’s uncle and Li’s mother visit Li’s grandma every week, and Li’s mother and Li’s uncle visit her every month. Each gave 2,000 yuan to the aunt, which was said to be considered as living expenses for Grandma Li, but in fact it was the salary paid by the brother and sister to the aunt, because the aunt was responsible for taking care of grandma at home. Li's grandma is very rich both in money and people.

Grandma Li is over 80 years old and lives a decent and comfortable life. Because of Li’s grandma as a bond, the children often get together and the family enjoys themselves.

Li’s mother often said that she was very grateful to Li’s aunt and thanked her for taking care of their mother at home. “If you spend money to hire outsiders to take care of your grandma, no amount of money can buy you the peace of mind that your aunt takes care of you.” "Li's mother often said this to Li.

Therefore, Li’s mother is very supportive of her daughter having three children. Li’s mother said that there is an old Chinese saying, “More children mean more blessings.” Although having more children is tiring, since conditions permit, the family can There is no shortage of money and people to take care of the children. It is absolutely no problem to have three children.

Li is a responsible mother who also loves her children. Her family has good financial conditions and they all like children. They are now preparing to conceive three children. I wish her the best of luck as soon as possible.

3. Families with many people at home.

Sister Xie, who lives in the same community as me, her daughter-in-law has just become pregnant with her third child.

Sister Xie is still young, less than 60 years old. Sister Xie already has two granddaughters, both of whom are in kindergarten. Sister Xie said that both granddaughters are now under the care of their grandmother. Sister Xie has also retired for three years and has nothing to do at home. After her daughter-in-law gave birth to three children, she can definitely help with her daughter-in-law.

A family like Sister Xie doesn’t have much pressure to have three children. After giving birth to three children, her daughter-in-law’s work will not be delayed. Sister Xie, a young mother-in-law, can contribute money and effort. She will spend her later years taking care of her grandchildren. It's even more substantial.

Therefore, for the elderly, having a good body and a pension are better than anything else.

Like Sister Xie’s family, the elderly on both sides are retired and have pensions. They are not too old and don’t have to work hard for a living. They can take care of their grandchildren. It is definitely not possible for such a family to have three children. There is too much pressure.

For every family that likes children, they will have the idea of ????having a second or third child, but whether they have the courage to have more children, they must still weigh the pros and cons to ensure the quality of life of adults and children. Under the premise, we must prepare in advance and make careful decisions.

What do you think about having three children? Discussions are welcome.