Do brothers really have to settle accounts?

It is a sentence that people often say from ancient times to the present, and it seems to be a necessary golden sentence in some occasions. It means that two people have to settle accounts, and neither of them owes anyone. Some people feel so strange, others feel so reasonable, then, do brothers really have to be clear?

When we were all young, it was definitely unclear. I give you something today, and you give me something tomorrow, as if yours is mine and mine is yours. There is nothing between them, just like my brother and I, who are unmarried at work and studying at school, so I will give him as much money as I want, and I will always give him what is good.

Adults of their age, like their father, can say that their money is not their own money, but it is the property of the whole family. What you give your brother must be approved by your wife. And adults sometimes need a lot of money, so they need to settle it clearly, otherwise it may affect family harmony.

But whether it is clear or not depends on the other person's personality and mode of getting along. For example, when we are with some friends, maybe anyone can pay the bill. As long as you have a wink, don't be the one who eats and drinks together every time. It doesn't matter who spends more and who spends less, because it doesn't distinguish each other's consumption patterns. When you are with other friends, you need AA system for everything, and some are even afraid that you will forget to get an A with her afterwards. When you check out, you strongly demand that you go Dutch, even if you buy a steamed stuffed bun. However, this does not mean that the relationship with the former will be much better than that with the latter. It only shows that people with different personalities get along in different ways.

What matters is not whether you want to settle accounts before you kiss your brother, but whether the relationship between the two people before is true. You can choose which model you like and which one makes you comfortable. There were thousands of ways to get along before, which were different. As long as you like it, as long as you are comfortable with each other.

After all, what matters is that person.