After confessing his love, he said he would save the words for later.

How to express love

(***It is divided into four parts, please read it patiently: the first is practical confession skills; the second is a man confessing to a woman; the third is a woman confessing to a man; the fourth is Confession venue selection.)

Confession ladder: Practical confession skills to avoid confession death

Confession is to express your interest in a girl, which is regarded as a statement of interest. Confession is a turning point in the relationship upgrade, a statement that clarifies the positioning of the relationship between the two of you. It has only one purpose: to get the girl to accept your interest in her and to rationalize the relationship between the two parties.

Confession is an important step in the entire relationship upgrade process. Without this link, girls will be confused about your development intentions and doubt your interest.

The trap of "confession to death"

There is a necessary prerequisite for relationship upgrading, which is that you have a certain degree of attraction and availability for each other. Without this prerequisite, you will definitely enter the " The trap of "death by confession". Confession death means that after a man confesses his love to a woman, she is rejected by the woman, causing the relationship to take a turn for the worse and the attraction and comfort to be reduced sharply.

In the PUA system, confession is a rarely mentioned topic. For many PUA systems, verbal confession is actually unnecessary, because there are many other ways of expression that can be substituted, such as body language, availability, Kino upgrades, etc.

Confession death stems from 2 factors:

1. Mutual attraction or lack of availability;

2. Giving the other party too much pressure and making them The other person needs to take on the role of an exclusive lover all of a sudden, making the other person feel uncomfortable in the face of unexpected situations.

Problems with traditional confession methods

In traditional thinking, confession is to express one's interest to girls, which can usually be "I love you" or "You can be me Girlfriend? "If the other party accepts your confession, it means that she needs to take on the role of a lover, but if the other party is not ready, such an expression will create too much pressure, so the girl will instinctively refuse. To escape this pressure and avoid this responsibility. This also explains why many men miss the point of confessing and fall into the trap of confessing to death.

The ladder of confession

You must learn different ways and different levels of confession to avoid the embarrassment of being unable to look back after a girl rejects you.

Confession follows the principle of the "confession ladder", from shallow to deep, allowing the girl to slowly accept your interest in her. To declare interest in a girl, you don't necessarily have to say "I love you" with every opening of your mouth. It can be replaced by a subtle statement at first. For example, "You have beautiful eyes", "I think you are a kind-hearted girl", etc. are relatively shallow statements of interest. They will not cause any pressure or embarrassment to the girl. In other words, your compliments to her can also be regarded as statements of interest. A relatively shallow statement of interest, such as "Actually, I think you are an attractive girl", "I think you have a good personality, and I prefer girls with good personalities" will express your more interest in girls. Interest; as for statements of interest such as "I like you" and "Be my girlfriend", they are the clearest expressions. They are the top confession on the "confession ladder". The straightforwardness of the statement of interest is determined by the degree of attraction of the girl. If the girl is completely attracted to you, you can use the clearest confession, which will quickly improve your relationship, but under normal circumstances it is not recommended to talk to girls. Express the clearest statement of interest.

Reverse Confession

Reverse Confession means saying that a girl is interested in you to express your interest in her. Its principle is to presuppose the girl's interest and intention, and then add a reason to rationalize the other party's thinking. "Actually, I think you like me quite a lot, or you don't hate me. I believe you won't meet someone you hate." is a good example. Of course, the premise here is that girls don't hate you. attract.

Response: Successful confession/Failed confession

If the confession is successful, it means that she is willing to take on the responsibility of being a lover, then you can enjoy a new relationship. If the confession is unsuccessful, you should ignore the girl's response, don't be affected by the negative emotions after the girl rejects it, and work hard on the attraction process again. Don't ask a girl "Why?" Originally the girl didn't think of a specific reason, but because you asked, she needs to find a reason to rationalize you and herself, and once she finds it, she must maintain consistency.

1. Boys confess to girls

Hello! Dude, I've been through this before. I've been through your stage, and it's really interesting and confusing. Let me listen to what I have to say.

After reading your situation, I analyzed it. In today’s world, if you want to successfully pursue a girl! You can’t use conventional methods! Especially now, you all have a misunderstanding. You all want to confess before you think something is wrong with you, and then wait for others to "admit" it after confessing. I'm right, right?

It's easy to fail this way, brother. Especially if the other person has no feelings for you. In fact, you can kiss her first before confessing your love! In this way, the other party will feel fresh and exciting. If it is the first kiss, it will be even more heart-wrenching!

Now you must be fast, accurate and ruthless when chasing your child. I mean the most critical time, listen to me, I’m calling you word by word. You can’t play your cards according to the routine, like usual. The logic of chasing girls is outdated!

I will tell you some of my experiences and my understanding below. Hope this helps! !

My experience: When you like a girl, you have to calm down first and don’t think too wonderfully.

The next thing you have to do is to find opportunities to slowly get close to him when everyone is doing activities together. Be careful, don't hang around her all the time, otherwise people will be disgusted. What you have to do is to improve yourself in all aspects and increase your capital. For example, playing the piano, hip-hop dancing, computer programming, singing well, writing beautifully, calligraphy, etc. Of course, the most important thing is career! ! ! If you do a good job in your career, make more money, and study well as a student, then your attention will be high. The competitiveness is also great!

I sincerely share my experience and hope you can learn the essence from it! In short, it is "to pick up girls, haste makes waste, desire does not get what you want, stay away from her step by step, and finally win her heart! Also, don't let the teacher hang around her, you have to accumulate capital! Do you understand, women don't like that kind of thing? The person who hangs around her all day long!

The next step for you is to develop slowly, ask her out slowly, and then unconsciously try to share your little secret with her, so that the two of you become You are good friends who talk about everything. Finally, on a certain day, when there are fewer people, you chat together again. You try to ask her about her boyfriend and girlfriend, and then give him a hint. At that time, don’t be brave. Xiao, it’s best to go have a drink. If you think you have a good grasp, you can ask her, for example, what kind of person do you think I am, etc., and then take advantage of his hesitation to kiss her directly, and it’s settled and confessed. That will happen later. You can talk about it when you are making out, haha.

This is how I succeeded. In short, this is something that cannot be rushed. Only when you finally succeed will you feel the progress of your time. I finally paid off when I came here. It felt so wonderful! Haha, I might as well share the process of my confession: What I said to my girlfriend when I confessed was: X, you know, at the right time, I can There are not many opportunities like this in life when you meet the right person. The person I meet now is you. I hope you can give me a chance to love you well, and then my girlfriend won’t even think about it! Just thinking about it, he threw himself into my arms and refused to get up!

(Of course we were chatting very ambiguously at that time. I felt it was the right time, and the timing must be good! Don’t be too hasty, because When a girl likes romance, she will never forget it! It’s better to kiss her if she hesitates! Of course, I don’t think it’s a big deal after all! The price of your happiness is too small for a slap!

In fact, confession is just a formality. The correct sequence should be: Only when you have actually become your girlfriend can you confess your love to others, and it will be a matter of course. . Many people don’t understand this issue and always think that someone agrees to be their girlfriend first and then whatever happens. I can only say that he is very, very “simple” and very, very “stupid”.

Yes. There is no time when you have no choice but to confess.

There is, for example, a third party, or the relationship between you and the girl is not mature but the two of you may be separated for a period of time. At this time, the conditions are not ripe for confession. The confession is very risky, similar to the situation when playing Go. The lagging side is forced to release its "winner's hand". If it wins, it wins. If it loses, it can only be said that "unlucky people are born."

Don’t say the word "love" easily

I often see "bold confessions" appearing on forums. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment, and even a kind of responsibility.

Haha, and do you know what the highest level is, that is, a man doesn’t even ask a woman “are you willing to be my girlfriend” until he goes to bed with her? In the end, the girl gets anxious: “ Why don’t you ask me to be your girlfriend?”

I wrote it all myself, from my own experience, I hope it can help the original poster! I'm so exhausted from writing... Ha, I didn't expect it to be quite a lot. No matter how much I can help you! ! ! According to my method, the success rate is very high and it is very effective! Girls all like excitement, haha

I wish the poster can pursue happiness as soon as possible! ! ! ! Have a happy life!

If you have any questions, please leave a message and I will be happy to answer them for you! !

Second additional answer...

Brother

Don’t let her notice it so quickly, otherwise some girls will hurt you if they don’t do their best. Positive.

Look, whatever you do to improve your strength will be useful in the future... What do you think?

2. Girls confess to boys

Boys When chasing girls, boys confess their love to the girl they like. However, as the trend of the times changes, there are no so-called absolute unchanging rules of the game. How should girls confess to boys? If girls still believe that "as long as a woman waits quietly, Prince Charming will fall from the sky", the bumpy road of love can be Foresee...

The number of leftover women in modern times is increasing. Have girls become bad? Are boys' demands getting higher and higher? In fact, no, in this extraordinary period, as long as girls take more initiative, they will have a chance to get closer to the prince charming in their hearts.

First of all, whether to express love or not is the most basic question. Are you worried that he will reject you because of other reasons, or whether he will reject you because he doesn't like you. If it is the former, and you are confident in your future, you can try to tell him your thoughts and tell him that you can face problems with him.

If it’s the latter, then you won’t be happy if you force yourself to do it. However, the purpose of confessing is to have no regrets. Please consider whether to give it a try.

If you fall in love with a young man, you should work hard to pursue him. However, due to the shyness of a girl, it is inconvenient to express your feelings to him frankly and directly. So how do you convey your feelings to him skillfully? How should a girl confess her love to a boy? Please refer to the following method:

Write him a letter first, hand it to him in person, and test it out. If there is something interesting, go on a date, chat online, or call on the phone. If you feel comfortable writing a letter , if it is inconvenient to send a letter, try to find out his phone number or @@ number, express your feelings online or by phone text message.

Use body language flexibly to express indirectly: for example, smiling and making eye contact are good ways to convey your goodwill and goodwill. The key point of eye contact is to wander, staring directly at the other person, which may be misunderstood. You should look at each other, look away, look at each other, look away, look at each other... Then it may be his turn to take action.

Use a third party to express: Sometimes if it is really difficult for a girl to speak, you may use good friends around you to help you express your love, such as: "xxx likes you often", "xxx says you are nice" "Pin Hao is a cheerful and honest person, I hope my boyfriend is like this." You use your friend's words to express your feelings, so it's very realistic and the other person can't see any flaws. If he is a smart person, he will feel your love and be attracted to you.

Try to suit the boy you like: How should a girl express her love to a boy? You must first explore the interests and hobbies of the boy you like. For example, if the young man likes literature, he will go to the library to borrow books. You can see clearly what kind of books he likes, borrow more similar books to read, and then find the right opportunity to chat with him for a few words and change the topic to the content of this kind of books. Naturally, you can have a very interesting conversation. After a period of contact, if you feel that you like it, then continue; if you feel that it is not suitable (don't be fooled by words such as "love at first sight"), then downplay the relationship and slowly withdraw from the love network. It will not hurt either party.

3. Other situations that need attention

Confessing love is not an easy thing. How to express love, when to express love, and where to express love all need to be considered. Today we will teach you How do you express your love? !

1. When is the best time to confess:

To confess your love, you need to choose a good time. Of course, this requires a prerequisite (you have been chatting for a while, and the girl loves you) I feel pretty good, I reply to your text messages very quickly, and we have gone out to parties together a few times.) Generally speaking, Valentine’s Day, Chinese Valentine’s Day and April Fool’s Day are good choices, as well as the man’s or woman’s birthday.

2. How to express your love:

How to express your love and how to write a love letter is the biggest problem that bothers most boys. Let me give you a rough idea. Thoughts, such as (the feeling of meeting you for the first time) (I am always in a good mood when chatting with you) (we have many similar interests and hobbies) (I have dreamed of you several times) (I will think of you every day) (I especially want to be with you) Blah blah blah.

3. Choose a place to express your love:

If you are a shy person, then I recommend confessing your love through the Internet or text messages. Of course, you can also express your love directly face to face. For example, Western restaurants, cafes, and places that are relatively quiet and have a good atmosphere are all fine.

4. Preparation in advance:

You can warm up before confessing your love, such as giving the other party a more affectionate nickname. For example, before confessing your love, go out and meet a few more times, send some small gifts, etc. This can add points to your confession afterwards, and the chance of success will be much higher.

5. What to do if you are rejected:

There are many situations when you are rejected. There will definitely be reasons for rejection. We can decide the next step according to the situation

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For example, if she thinks that both of us are still young, we can first become friends and maintain good contact, and then when the time is right, we can confess our feelings.

If she bluntly says that she has someone she likes, or that she has no feelings for you, being friends is actually a good choice. Being strong will not be sweet, and someone more suitable for you is still waiting. You go and find it.

I hope the poster can be successful with my confession~~

I hope the poster will adopt it. Thank you, it is not easy to do it by hand.