How to treat inspection in love?

When in love, some people feel insecure. As long as they are not together, they all like to inspect posts, but this kind of behavior may cause trouble to each other. So should we check posts when we are in love?

How to treat dating inspection?

This matter mainly depends on what angle to interpret.

Share each other's positions anytime and anywhere, trust yourself and each other, so as to extend it. This is romance. It can also be said that we are honest with each other and have no secrets. Of course, it can also be understood as monitoring in the name of romance, which are two different things.

From an objective point of view, this is a compression of private space, which is not good for emotional development. However, such a boundary problem ultimately depends on the degree of concern between couples about the sense of boundary. How much private space is needed is a measure, a measure, and it is the tacit understanding and understanding reached by two people in long-term communication.

Everyone has his own choice. When one person has a high demand for private space and another person likes to stick to each other, the reconciliation of this contradiction lies in whether they are willing to make concessions on this issue. This is not a compromise, but a choice of life. We don't need to preach that couples always need private space. Of course, from the point of view, this is no problem, but not everyone needs private space.

Should I check posts when I fall in love?

1. It's time to patrol the post.

Since you want to fall in love, two people are a combination, a * * * exactly the same body for each other. So of course I want to check the posts, and of course I want to know where you have been and what you are doing now. Why don't I check others? Because other people's life and death, happiness and sadness are none of my business! So I don't check others, I check you, and checking you has nothing to do with my life and death, but at least it has something to do with my mood, right? Therefore, during the period of love, of course, we must check the post!

2. There should be no post inspection.

I don't support the behavior of checking posts in love. The most important thing in a relationship is trust. If you start checking posts every day from the early days of the relationship, the relationship between the two will not be intimate. There is nothing wrong with the statement that trust is the most important thing in a relationship, but sometimes a girl's sixth sense is quite accurate, especially when the other person's abnormal behavior is really easy to find. Girls are very careful and sensitive. Generally, couples who have been in love for a long time are prone to problems. Some people will start looking for new lovers because they lose interest in each other, and finally have to embark on the road of investigation.

Why do people in love like to inspect posts?

It's simple, because there is no sense of security. "The sense of security is not given by others, but by yourself." Anyone can come with his mouth open. However, we often forget that in the process of growing up, everyone may have an immature view of love, an immature ability to deal with emotions, and even an imperfect personality because of the influence of objective factors such as family background and his growth experience. Insecurity may be one of the manifestations of these problems, but insecurity is not the original sin.

Falling in love is an interaction in which you try to love me and I try to love you. When you know that the other person is insecure, you should not sneer at the fact that the other person is inspecting the post, but should try your best to give the other person a sense of security, because you love her (him) and treat her a little more, right? Even if you are really tired today and don't want to talk, and want a personal space to relax and communicate directly, there is no problem.

Of course, this does not mean that insecurity is a sharp sword, it has become a reason to let nature take its course. Always letting others indulge is consuming your love for each other. Every couple should firmly remember that in love, in addition to commitment, we must learn to grow.

Can falling in love and checking posts affect feelings?

If you push too hard, it will definitely affect.

Everyone likes sugar, but occasionally it is sweet. If you eat too much, you will get bored. Distance and space are like this. It would be sweet to be together 24 hours a day except for eating and sleeping. But if you are together anytime and anywhere and don't want to be apart, it will be sticky and there will be no private space. I'm afraid of what I'm going to do when others are away, so I always call to test my post if I have nothing to do. Such feelings will be very tired!