How to say nice things in the workplace without making people feel hypocritical

Everyone likes to hear good words. This is the truth, because good words are like honey, which can bring sweetness and happiness to people's hearts. For people who are new to the workplace, saying good things is particularly important. Try to avoid topics that others don't like to hear, and say some complimentary words just right. Such behavior will only add points to your image.

Of course, saying good things does not mean that you flatter and flatter others without any restraint, nor does it mean that you always praise others unscrupulously. It means that you say something that warms your heart and can capture others. A certain highlight of the event, give sincere and sincere praise, etc.

If you can’t feel clear from saying good things, it means that your praise of others is not sincere, or you have not found anything worthy of praise in others. It is because you have told lies. , just feeling sad and depressed. So, change your behavior quickly and sincerely praise others for their praiseworthy aspects. Only when you make saying good things a habit can this habit return you sincerely.

2. How to say nice things and have a conversation

It is said that trouble comes from the mouth. If you speak inappropriately or say the wrong thing and offend others, it will definitely do you no good. Saying nice things may not add to your charm, but it will definitely not bring you disaster. Therefore, we advocate that people who are new to the workplace and dealing with people for the first time should say nice things. So, how do you say nice things and what kind words can bring benefits to yourself?

(1) Surprise praise

Your praise is not deliberate, let alone premeditated, but has a prerequisite. When you see someone else's polished lapel pin, regardless of whether you are familiar with that person or not, you will yell without any preconditions: "Wow, this lapel pin is so beautiful!" Such compliments often make people think that you have some agenda or that you are out of your mind. Trouble, your screams and sighs will make people want to stay away from you. You should politely stop him: "Hello, sir, excuse me, I have noticed your lapel pin for a long time. It is so perfect. Where did you buy it?" This kind of surprise compliment can not only help Opening up the conversation between you can also make the other person feel proud and comfortable. He may feel confident all afternoon because of your compliment, and keep you in mind. The next time you meet, he will definitely take the initiative to talk to you enthusiastically. greet. Once you know someone, you will become familiar again, and you may become friends soon.

　(2) Ask for advice

If you really want to talk to new colleagues or strangers, then look for something special about them, and then give them a compliment. What does it mean? For example, if your new colleague is playing the pen game, then gently pass a note and say, "Hi, I'm ××× behind you. I also like to play this kind of game, but it took me a long time to learn it." , it’s still very bad, you played really well, do you have any skills?” This kind of asking-for-question praise can not only find topics for communication between you, but you can also learn some little knowledge and skills, which can be said to kill two birds with one stone. When you see a stranger, don’t be shy. If you see the other person’s unique way of tying their shoelaces, you can praise him: “Hello, classmate, I’ve been paying attention to how you tie your shoelaces for a long time. I have collected more than ten different ways to tie your shoelaces.” "I've never seen anyone tie it as uniquely as you. How did you tie it?" If the other person's response is cold, don't be discouraged. He/she probably doesn't know how to deal with strangers. If you take the initiative further, don't be discouraged. , will definitely get a positive response.

(3) Find something that the other person is proud of and praise it

If you can directly see some of the other person’s advantages, such as a tall figure, bright eyes, and a straight nose, If you are smart, courageous, outstanding in performance, kind-hearted, etc., the other person must know his/her own strengths, but he/she would rather have others point out his/her strengths to make him/her more confident. Then, if necessary, praise him/her appropriately for these advantages, "You have a really good figure. You can be a model. Have you tried work in this area?" "How did you do it?" The eyes are really big and bright, just like the eyes of a child. "What a smart and practical solution. There is another problem you must help me solve. No one can solve it except you."

"When you praise others, you must give them preset questions. If the other person just smiles in response to your compliments, then the way for you to continue communicating will be blocked. You must ask questions for the other person to answer. That's the only way , whether you are with a new colleague or a stranger, you need to pay attention to what the other person is concerned about and praise what the other person is proud of, in order to open the door to strangers.

( 4) Avoid taboos about the other person's taboos, and praise the other person's inferiority complex

Many people avoid taboos about their age, height, and appearance. Therefore, when communicating with strangers or people you are not familiar with, if you cannot judge from your age, height, , find the other person’s advantages in appearance, then don’t use these contents as communication points, let alone false and naked praise, say to a lady in her forties with an old face: “You are so young! "; To a man who is only 160 centimeters tall, he said: "You are so tall! "; To an extremely ordinary-looking person, he said: "You are so beautiful as a flower! "Such a compliment will not only get no thanks from others, but may also earn you a blank stare, and will also deepen others' impression of you as a hypocrite. Because you are no longer young, because you are too short, and because you are not beautiful, many people have low self-esteem. Because of low self-esteem, I avoid others talking about my shortcomings. When praising others for their confidence, I should call those who can be my aunts as "sisters", people of the same age as myself can be called "classmates", and treat the other person as my height and appearance. When you are worried, you can mention other advantages of the other person, or you can give encouragement by citing cases of famous people who have the same shortcomings but are very successful. Do not think that even if the other person thinks that he/she is very old, ugly, or short, he/she will not. You don't want others to think so, so don't admit it immediately when others say you are ugly, but give veto and encouragement.

(5) Tone softly and be proactive

Sometimes. The kind words you say are not wonderful compliments, but just a kind of kindness and enthusiasm in your tone. When taking a plane or train, actively greet the people next to you or in the opposite bed: "Hello, I'm glad to be here." Taking the same train/flight, are you on a business trip or traveling? "Such a proactive approach will not only make your long-distance journey less lonely, but you can also get some new information during the communication process, and sometimes even get you additional business opportunities, so for public officials on business trips , and you should be more proactive in talking to strangers. As long as you don't inquire about other people's privacy or say something personally offensive, then communication with strangers will not be a problem.

(6) Eyes should be clear. Be sincere and never be arrogant or humble

If your eyes are wandering or twinkling when you praise others, even if you mean it, the other person will think you are lying. Therefore, praise others or communicate with them. When you communicate for the first time, you must look at the other person and smile, so that the other person can feel your sincerity and repay you. Even if you are nervous and a little unnatural when you communicate with others for the first time, as long as you force yourself to be calm, you will get better once you get to know others. Your nervousness will be relieved after the first time, and it will not be a problem to communicate with strangers in the future. Always say in front of the mirror: "Hello, nice to meet you!" "During such training, your smile will become more and more natural, your facial muscles will actively relax, and your eyes will become more sincere. Once you have the opportunity to communicate with strangers in the future, you will not look like a rookie.

In fact, most people have the desire to communicate. As long as someone takes the first step and says something they like to hear, then subsequent communication will not be a problem. Therefore, don't think that it is difficult to deal with strangers. A decent opening sentence, a sincere look, and a smile are enough. Here, I especially want to tell those who are new to the workplace or who are not getting along well in the workplace. From today on, they must try to say nice things. , and proactively contact strangers. Even if you fail the first or second time, as time goes by, you will naturally develop your own set of stranger communication strategies, negotiate with customers, and develop new customers. .