Tell me about your emotional problems.

Tell me about your emotional problems.

Tell me about your emotional problems. Emotional problems are problems that every adult will encounter. When we encounter emotional problems, we always hope to talk to friends around us and hope that someone can have feelings with us. Now there is a platform for everyone to talk. Tell me about your emotional problems!

Tell me about your emotional problems. Tell me about your emotional problems.

Hello, this is Linxi Emotion Class.

If you have any emotional questions, you can leave your questions in the message at the bottom of the article. If your question is typical, I will answer it for you through this column!

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Q:

I've been with him for more than half a year. At first, he didn't like himself very much. Later, he did it, but soon disappeared. I usually treat him well and don't care much. We broke up once before, and he stayed, but we broke up in the end. He said that no matter how I changed it, it was useless. I won't make up, but I just don't feel that way. Teacher, what should I do?

A:

Your emotional problems boil down to two words: feeling.

This should also be the place that bothers you the most. Why do you really pay so much but feel nothing?

What is this so-called feeling? Is it really that important?

Some people say that feelings can be cultivated slowly, but where is the truth?

In fact, the so-called feeling is a person's imagination of love.

If there is a person in our life who fits our imagination, we will feel very emotional.

On the contrary, when the fit is low, we will feel that there is no feeling.

But imagination is imagination after all. It may be unreal or imaginary. In real life, you may find that it is not the case at all.

This is also a lot of feelings. At first, I obviously felt it, but then I didn't feel it. Or, many feelings obviously feel normal at first, but later they love each other to death.

Besides, at first, I just liked someone. What only two people have experienced, that kind of reluctance to the past is love.

So, in the final analysis, what really determines your love is not your feelings, but whether your experience is good or not, and whether you cherish your past.

Back to your question.

Why do men still have no feelings for you after you have been together for so long?

One of the main reasons is that your posture is a little low.

Because he makes it clear that he doesn't like you very much, it is normal for you to face him with a "please" attitude.

Take care of him in everything, obey everything, and dare not ask for anything.

This will become very "personality".

For example, if you have personality, although men may not like it at first, after a long time, you will naturally find that your personality is good.

Maybe his initial ideal type is cute, but your kindness also has a chance to impress him.

However, having no personality means that you have given up the opportunity to impress him.

The solution is simple. Find yourself first, be brave, and then go to him.

Come on, tell me about your emotional problems. You quarreled with your girlfriend and accidentally said goodbye. How can we save it?

Supplement to the question:

My girlfriend and I met online, in the same city, very close. I've been in love for more than a year, and I haven't seen you yet. Because I was wrong, I said we can't waste it like this, we should live a real life together. Originally, she wanted to be with me before this, because she went to other cities for a period of time and asked me to wait for more than ten days to come back together. But I think that during the days when she was here, he ignored me, and I didn't return my messages when I looked for him. Sometimes I have nightmares at night and come to me in the middle of the night. If I don't reply in time, I will be unhappy and lose my temper, saying that I didn't treat her well and made no commitment. She was angry again because I said, "We should really be together". Because we are like a loving couple, we are really "happy" to say things like "My husband is holding you to sleep", "Yeah, kiss" and "Pinch your nose, get up, slacker" every night, but I think these things are just online talk, even if they are "happy", they are not true. I want to be practical and hug her in real life. She was sad to hear my words and asked me, "Do you think it is true that I have been with you for so long?" Do you think I'm cheating you? " .

I can't come straight to the point and say, "I shouldn't say that." You promised that we would be together in ten days. I shouldn't worry. " I was wrong. "I also apologized to him, but it was useless. After two nights of coaxing, it still doesn't work. She won't forgive me.

I can't help it Last night, I got worse and worse. Did not forgive me, told me not to talk. He wouldn't listen. That's enough. I think it's almost done. It may be hopeless. I will break up with him.

Answer:

Respondents 1

Girls are here to coax, please coax her more, come on!

Follow-up: See my supplement.

Supplementary answer: That's it, then. Give it time and let it dissolve. It doesn't matter. Send her a short message occasionally and tell her the scene where you were together before.

Continue to ask: because we have been on and off many times before, this time again, is it the last moment for us to come?

Supplementary answer: no, feelings depend on fate. It's not easy for my girlfriend and I to get on and off all the way. We have been together for eight years and one year, and now we have a very good relationship. Men should take the initiative, women are like this!

Continue to ask: I don't know if she is too headstrong or I can't persist. I put my mobile phone on the pillow closest to my head every night. She has nightmares every night and will call me at midnight. So I can accompany her for the first time and coax her not to be afraid of having a husband. But at 4: 20 last night, I had another nightmare, but I was too sleepy to hear the sound. Seeing the message on the mobile phone, it's already five o'clock. I sent her a message. The next night, he told me that I had a nightmare and you weren't there. You can't keep your promise. Why are you so tired? Don't promise if you can't do it. I think you are fake. It's all a lie.

In fact, I love her very much and tolerate her very much, but I think sometimes I think about it. If I spoil her like this, I will be really tired one day. What should I do? What if you destroy it?

Supplementary answer: Aren't you together? Let's meet sometime and talk it over. You need to communicate with each other. If you love her very much, show it to her, let her know that you are her sky, and use your love to influence her inner fears.

Continue to ask: Yes, we are not together. We should be together in ten days. Some time ago, because my godmother was about to give birth, I went to her. But in those days, she ignored me and didn't return my messages. I felt something was wrong, so I was in a hurry to say that I couldn't waste it like this, and I wanted to be together. This remark made her angry. He said, "We have been together for so long. Do you think it is false? " Her being together means that we chat online like a loving couple, and she thinks it's real. But the truth I want in real life

Supplementary answer: It takes time, guys.

Continue to ask: Yes, it takes time, luck and miracles.

When everything is all right, let your love affect her! Come on, brother!

Continue to ask: thank you, I finally got up the courage to try again.

Supplementary answer: Well, I believe you! Your situation is the same as before. You must influence her and make her feel relaxed. Don't blame her. Girls can be like this sometimes! Persistence is victory, I wish you happiness!

Continue to ask: Hehe, I just coaxed for a while, and finally said that I didn't want to talk to me anymore, so I went offline. Wait until it is online.

I don't know if you really know her. If there is, you need to know whether she is sincere to you. If not, let's review your past together now. Details are important! Only by knowing her can we grasp her heart. Next time we meet, I will bring her a small gift and give her a surprise. Girls like small surprises.

Follow-up: According to my understanding of her, she actually forgave me last night about "we want to live a real life together", but I was very angry at that time. Why are you so unclear about such a small matter? I didn't think it was necessary to quarrel over trifles, which later led to the big mistake of breaking up. Now that I think about it, if I had been more sensible last night, I could actually see that she forgave me. It was all my fault, and I was going crazy.

It's okay. Find a good time to make everything clear, including your thoughts at that time, so that you will be forgiven slowly.

Responder 2

Admit a mistake.

Go to her and tell her I said something wrong! Men dare to do it! What are you afraid of?

Follow-up: I apologize to him for saying "we should really be together". She won't accept an apology or forgive me. Later, I said that if we broke up, there should be nothing to recover.

First of all, you should be calm and don't expect too much from her, because the greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment, and then apologize! Be a man! Moreover, other things about women should not be rushed, just step by step! Take the exam slowly, don't force it, it's not good! Personally, I don't like coercion! Besides, it's not sweet!

Continue to ask: hehe, indeed, sometimes it is true. Girlfriend has a big temper and willfulness. You treat her well a hundred times, and once you treat her badly, she starts to feel awkward. I don't know how we ended up. Because she had an operation, I felt sorry for him. I endured everything and let her go. But sometimes he is unreasonable, saying that being angry means being angry, and it is useless for you to apologize.

Let's face it, some things can work without coaxing! Finally, you really can't do it. Just say: I hope you can be happy, too, but I don't think you can find anyone who loves you as much as I do in the future! Let her rely on you slowly to last!

Continue to ask: I am so disappointed now, I don't know how to coax.

Supplementary answer: don't coax, just apologize! Don't keep looking for her unless she comes to you! I'm thinking about it!

Responder 3

Say sorry, I was wrong.

Follow-up: I apologize to him for saying "we should really be together". She won't accept an apology or forgive me. Later, I said that if we broke up, there should be nothing to recover.

Supplementary answer: I am angry.

Respondent 4

Then you apologize to her, coax her, turn cold or rain or something, send a message to care about her and let her know that you still care about her. Some girls will be very sensitive, so you should be considerate of her and don't ruin their feelings because of a little thing.

Continue to ask: It's really cold in Guangzhou today. Every time we quarrel, it is either cloudy or rainy. I love her very much, but I have broken her heart.

Respondent 5

Don't ask about this. Say something nice and buy a gift to apologize.

Continue to ask: we are online dating.

Responder 6

Sincere love and firm belief are just two episodes in the process of love. Love is the initial passion, and to the final perfection, every stage of love will have bumps that we must face. The two sides who love each other can only hold hands and grow old together if they advance and retreat together.

Keep asking: I wonder what will happen if two mistakes add up and then apologize for forgiveness?

Respondent 7

I feel very calm. Tell her that you have thought a lot these two days, but you still can't forget her. Then tell her about your past memorable experiences and your future plans, so that she can feel that you are safe. I wish you success!

Respondent 8

Explain that you didn't break up on purpose, and then take her to her favorite place to play. It should be ready soon, right?

Respondent 9

After all, you are wrong. You can be nice to her when she is still angry and asks you, "I thought we broke up." Sometimes, you can say that I was just angry. How can I give up on you? I won't do it again. She will forgive you.

Respondents 10

Relax, man. Feelings won't be so fast. Say something nice to her and please her. It's not bad to buy a gift.