One of my years in Shanghai-Shanghai women in my eyes

In the fourteen years in Shanghai, from the total population base of 24 million, there are too many people passing by every day, few people can nod and greet, and only a handful of people make friends. As a stranger, I really want to talk about Shanghai women in my eyes.

In the movie In the Mood for Love, Maggie Cheung is dressed in a cheongsam, exquisite and elegant, looking forward to life and mysterious; Although it is a story that happened in Hong Kong, it is really my impression of Shanghai women in my childhood. When I grew up a little, I heard Zhang Ailing's coldness and Lu Xiaoman's fierceness, and I also woven such a scene into the pictures of Shanghai women.

When I first came to Shanghai, I went out for dinner with my dad. A Shanghai girl opened her eyes angrily at the shop assistant because she didn't put a little beef in Lamian Noodles, and scolded a few words I didn't understand. At that time, I was really shocked: Shanghai girl is terrible!

The contact with Shanghainese begins with classmates. There are two girls among my classmates who impressed me deeply with Shanghai Xiaonan.

ZLL is an old and beautiful Shanghai girl among my classmates. People are as watery as their names, white and tender, round and moist, with red lips and white teeth, which is very lovely.

Ask her about Shanghainese. She holds a pen in her hand, raises it and says, yizibi; Remembering that we have to make hot water every day, say that the hot water bottle is called: niesiping. It's the first time I've grown up that I really want to talk to my little girl because she looks good. It looks very petite, and it is indeed more sophisticated than us. If you ask something, she can tell you everything, and there is no big miss style at all. I got good grades, and then I skipped other majors. Because I was from Shanghai, I stayed in school for less time, and then I saw it less often. When I was a junior, it was obvious to see her lose weight. When I came over, I obviously saw the collarbone, cut my hair short and dyed it. It was still beautiful and lovely like a doll.

Lan is also my classmate. Hair is always smooth over the shoulders, black and bright. Walking, easy, round eyes, always smiling gently. Listening to her on the phone, the soft voice makes people feel that there is a faint fragrance in the air. One evening, when I came out from a club meeting, I saw her coming out from a good meeting. As soon as she saw me, she immediately buried her head on my shoulder and said, It's been a long meeting. I felt that I was a man at once, patted her on the shoulder and said, it's over, it's all right. I'm sorry to say that I really haven't forgotten this scene. This gentle and energetic, as a girl can't stand it, let alone a boy. Unfortunately, after all these years, I haven't learned it.

Sister Ye is a Shanghainese whom I have been in close contact with since I worked. In my impression, she is a model of everything, or a representative of Shanghai people's "shrewdness".

Every day when I go to work or go out, Sister Ye has almost perfect makeup and can't see the tired appearance. At work, I am meticulous, and I won't stop until I can do it. To my colleagues and my boss, I'm full of my heart. Ask some questions, and she can explain the reasons and consequences clearly for you. When we were colleagues, there was always a feeling that she could arrange everything properly. Once on my birthday, I came over in the morning and saw a small gift on the table. When I saw it wrapped in exquisite packaging, I guessed at once that it must be her.

Later, when I left my job, I found a circle of friends. My understanding of Sister Ye was mostly a circle of friends, or a chance encounter outside. The degree of care for my daughter always makes me ashamed of someone who feels that I have poured out my heart for my daughter. In order to give her daughter the best food, she was busy and thin, and she had been nursing for nearly two years. Knowing that she is a light sleeper, it is hard to imagine how she has such great perseverance and courage. I thought she was bound to be haggard, but I didn't want to meet her last time, and she became younger and thinner, completely staying at the age of 28.

Once we met Eva in an early education class, she immediately told me which teacher was the best here. I have never asked about these questions, and always go to early education classes with the idea of having fun. After the kindergarten trip, we happened to be on the same day, and we were about to leave in the morning. We saw Sister Ye's circle of friends, dressed up her daughter beautifully, prepared all kinds of food, and sealed it with beautiful boxes. I think she must have put on beautiful makeup, so I can only ask Ah Q now and make up some powder right away.

it's fate that we met again when we went to Disney. We were very tired in the queue, and we were ready to surrender and go home after four o'clock in the afternoon. We felt that there were too many people, and we were slightly disappointed with Shanghai Disney, which was not limited at all. However, Ye Zijie's family played a different flavor. They rushed in the earliest session early in the morning. Go in and get the fast-track card, arrange all kinds of times, and brush the fast-track card every once in a while. As a result, on the same day, they played almost all the events, and there were not many queues, and they played until 7: 3 in the evening. For the same money, we played a different effect. Not to mention, at this point, Shanghai people's shrewdness and meticulousness are worth learning from, aren't they?

The old aunt in Shanghai didn't have any intimate friends, but it was the most wonderful thing I saw.

In the streets, scenic spots, or on the subway outside, you must have seen such a scene: your hair is "meticulous", with distinct roots and dyed colors, and there is a kind of "tightrope feeling" that can't be destroyed when you turn over in bed for one night, standing upright on the heads of your aunts. They will wear cheongsam, sunglasses, pearl necklaces, scarves, bags on their arms and high heels. Although there are wrinkles on their faces, they will definitely wear makeup, at least lipstick, and they will be particularly enchanting in the crowd. However, I have never talked to such aunts, and I never know where they are going when they are dressed up.

Before I came to Shanghai, I always heard people say that Shanghainese were xenophobic. I think I can completely correct my name. After staying for so many years, it's true that no Shanghainese has been particularly hard on me. When I was pregnant, I took the subway. Aunt Shanghai saw me. Although she didn't give me a seat, as soon as there was a seat next to me, they immediately gave orders. Don't sit, let me sit there immediately. It's funny and moving to think about it.

The aunts in the neighborhood are all enthusiastic after getting familiar with them. When I went out one morning, my aunt knew that my child was ill and asked me if I had anyone to take it with me. I often see me taking my children out to play, and I will be praised for my ability and hard work. The uncles and aunts downstairs will tell their stories enthusiastically every time they meet, which is not much different from the uncles and aunts in your hometown.

at night, I saw the aunts dancing in the community. An aunt who dances well is leading the dance, because her little granddaughter, we know each other. I always thought that she used to do literature and art work, so she danced so well. Later, I heard from her that she liked to learn dancing according to videos after she retired. I can't help but admire. Since then, she has enthusiastically introduced me to work, calling me my daughter like my grandmother many times. Read my article and give me a long comment.

In fact, China culture is acquaintance culture. Once you get familiar with it, the barrier disappears, and it is the same everywhere.

Do you think everyone in Shanghai is doing well?

My friend Xiaoxi's mother, after retirement, enrolled in the university for the aged, studied photography, Photoshop, and kept cats, which was very cute. When you go out, you can always see uncles and aunts paired up in groups, saying that they are going out to play. Of course, there are also difficulties. In the TV decoration program, several generations have been living in the old alley houses, and it is hard to imagine. Foreigners always despise and say: We have never seen such a small house.

There are aunts in the community. They will also go far with backpacks on their backs to save money, buy cheaper food at a farther market, send their granddaughters to a cheaper kindergarten, and take their children to the bus every morning, which will make them feel pitiful. When I was at school, some friends went to get the money from my roommates. My friend brought rice to school to eat, and left the last piece of meat and asked me if I wanted to eat it. A colleague found a bunch of things for a few dollars, so let me guess how much it cost. Therefore, there are people who have difficulties in life everywhere, depending on how you live, right?

after all these years, have you been assimilated by Shanghai women? It's hard to tell if you think about it carefully. I'm afraid others can see more clearly. I just think I have to put on a mask every day, I have to wear beautiful clothes, and I have to make things beautiful. I want to learn from Shanghai women, but I have never learned. I want to learn Zhang Ailing's writing, and I'm still on my way!