I said something for my grandma and hurt my mother's heart. What should I do?

I hurt my mother by speaking for my grandma. I often do this kind of thing. Because of this, I often make my mother unhappy, angry, and sad. However, every time after it was over, I would try my best to please my mother and ask her to let go and forgive me.

Ever since I was a child, I have felt that the relationship between my mother and grandma was not good because they often quarreled. My mother is a very good-tempered person, and she usually doesn't get angry or quarrel randomly. However, grandma has a bad temper and always likes to be aggressive in everything she does. When I was young, my grandma lived separately from us. However, grandma always liked to take care of our family's affairs and also liked to criticize my mother, so my mother had a strong opinion of her.

As for me, I am relatively simple at heart and never care about what my grandma did to my family. Every time my mother talks about grandma, I will speak for her, so my mother is very unhappy.

After the incident is over, I will comfort my mother and tell her that grandma is old after all, so don’t argue with her. We are young and can be more tolerant. My mother often gets even more angry when I say this. He retorted to me, grandma is older, we don’t make her angry, but she is also older, but she still suffers from grandma’s anger. What’s even more annoying is that we don’t understand her. Sometimes, I feel that my mother is a little bit narrow-minded and always hates us saying good things about grandma.

In order to ease my mother’s mood, I will no longer mention grandma in front of my mother. I will use my actions to make my mother happy. When I make my mother angry, I help her with a lot of housework. When my mother sees me busy, she praises me for being sensible and puts a happy smile on my face. When my mother is happy and I chat with her, she will be in a better mood. At this time, my mother will forget that I spoke for grandma and made her angry.

In short, if you speak for grandma, it will hurt your mother's heart. It is best not to mention grandma afterward, try to divert mother's attention and do something that can make mother happy. In this way, mother will forget the unhappy things, which is good for you and mother.