Nowadays, people are more and more reluctant to send friends. What is the reason?

More and more friends don't like making friends. I used to brush my circle of friends a dozen times a day, but now I don't even brush my circle of friends very much, because in my circle of friends now, the most are likes, WeChat business, advertisements, water droplets, chicken soup and company tweets?

First, the older you grow up, the more you understand: friends are not necessarily friends in a circle of friends.

The previous circle of friends was a small closed-loop circle, all of which were close friends and relatives. However, with the popularity of WeChat, there are many people in our circle of friends, and some people have thousands of friends.

At this time, most of the friends in the circle are not necessarily true friends. There are colleagues, leaders, clients with colluded interests, people who have only met once on various occasions, and even a lot of strangers.

Because of these messy relationships, we have become cautious in making friends. You work overtime today, dare not send a circle of friends, and dare not attract colleagues to think more; You are unhappy, afraid to send a circle of friends, afraid that your parents in the distance will be too worried; Go out to play, and dare not send a circle of friends when you meet something good. Are you afraid that some half-baked friends will accuse you of showing off your wealth and pretend to force you to borrow money from you?

Second, the older you get, the more limited your energy is, which should be reserved for the most important people in your life.

Now the internet and transportation are very developed. We can meet many people in our life, but there may be dozens or even fewer real relatives and friends.

What about our friends in the circle of friends? Maybe you send a circle of friends, dozens of people praise you and give you comments, but ask yourself, how many of these people you interact with have never seen before? How many people haven't talked privately in the past six months? How many people will lend a helping hand when you are in trouble?

It's too harsh!

Those praises and comments are just superficial exchanges!

Looking back on the rest of my life, there are actually very few people close to us. We are all very busy. Everyone has a life and everyone has a pursuit.

The older we grow up, the more we realize that human energy is limited. We should leave these limited energies to the most important people in our lives.

Not sending friends does not mean that we have nothing to say; Just because you don't like it or comment doesn't mean we haven't contacted.

Third, the older you get, the more you learn to quit your emotions.

The more mature a person is, the more he learns? Emotion is invisible? .

Similarly, the more mature most people are, their circle of friends will naturally not express their true feelings.

A few years ago, post-90s teenagers were very popular. Funeral culture? , these statements? Mourning? People, in fact, are complaining, are not true? Mourning? , is not really mature.

Now many post-90s are married, and the responsibilities on their shoulders are getting heavier and heavier, forcing them to mature. ? Funeral culture? It will slowly disappear.