My relatives and family members are quarreling and they live in my house. What is the best way to resolve the dispute?

Why persuade? It is difficult for an upright official to deal with family matters, let alone family relationships. What if he takes it seriously? To put it lightly, it would be better not to say it at all. If you want to persuade someone, just remember this sentence: "Encourage peace, not division, and forgiveness, not enmity." Just remember this sentence.

Maybe some people don’t quite understand what I said, so I’ll break it down and talk about it. For example, when a couple quarrels, the main reason why they try to persuade them to make peace but not to break up is that it is easy for them to become "not human beings inside and outside". A quarrel between a husband and wife is a matter between two people. They may make up after the quarrel, but if you say something that is not conducive to the harmony between the couple, they may hate you after they make up. If what you say has an effect and they really break up, then those who don't want to break up or regret it after the breakup will also hate you. But trying to make peace is different. If they separate, it has nothing to do with you. If they get back together, they will be extra grateful to you. Therefore, when trying to persuade a couple to quarrel, it is best to persuade them to reconcile rather than divorce.

Let’s talk about “encouraging forgiveness but not enmity”. There is a saying that “Don’t persuade others to do good without putting others in trouble.” In fact, the same goes for persuading others. If the relationship is very good, then say some correct truths to him. If he can't listen to these words, then follow his words. The so-called persuading forgiveness means trying to guide the relative to take the right path, not helping him make decisions, but helping him analyze the pros and cons. Instead of advising him to become enemies, the main thing is to tell him that life will go on in the future. Once he makes a wrong choice and it leads to irreversible consequences, he won't be able to cry anymore. If he is an unreasonable person, then why bother trying to persuade him? If you try to persuade him, you might even get in trouble.

So, persuasion must be done, but it must also be determined based on your relationship with him. Not everyone is qualified to persuade others, and not everyone will listen to your advice. There is a saying that is right: "I want to help you, but you have to let me see your outstretched hand. I can take the initiative to pull you once, but I won't pull you every time." The same goes for trying to persuade someone to fight. Just listen to the advice. Give me some advice. If you don’t listen, just let nature take its course.