Why didn't he contact me?

I once had such confusion, "I can feel that he is interested in me when chatting, but why he just doesn't like to contact me actively." Later, I summarized three reasons:

One: I am afraid of romance.

Without a clear understanding of both sides' minds, it is easy for men to take the initiative and cause women's resentment. At least you have to make sure that the other person is interested in you, and you are afraid that if it is romantic again.

Think about it carefully, serious men are not much better than women, and many people who are drunk late at night are also men who have been hurt in their feelings. Therefore, men need to keep exploring before giving their sincerity.

Two: I'm afraid I can't afford to lose

Some men are afraid that they are serious, but they meet the kind of woman who plays casually. In case they get stuck, the other party wants to accept their hearts. Such a blow is unbearable.

Around us, not all men love to play ambiguous, and some women also like the feeling of men around them. They never refuse men's enthusiasm, they will take the initiative to contact men, and it is easy to give others wrong hints. But in fact, she doesn't want to establish a relationship with a man in her heart. Once a man is serious, a woman will be afraid and run away. Finally, men will always take a passive attitude in order not to let themselves sink in.

Three: I hope that girls will take the initiative to themselves.

In both cases, there is a factor of self-confidence, but there is also a kind of psychology of "hoping the other party will take the initiative", which has nothing to do with self-confidence, but I am used to letting others take the initiative. This type of man doesn't take the initiative in many things in life, which is an inherent part of his personality, and it is difficult to make changes at once.

It may help you talk about things around me.

My best friend, boyfriend, is a relatively boring Pisces, and he takes the initiative from confession to the first date. Even in 1 year after falling in love, her boyfriend rarely contacted her on his own initiative. Later, other friends said, does your boyfriend not love you? But this is not the case. Because her boyfriend is naturally passive and not good at expression, and her best friend knows this very well, she doesn't think it's anything. Now they have been together for almost five years. Later, my best friend also said that her boyfriend has changed a lot since he was together in the second year, and now he is very happy.

Therefore, it is not easy for a man who is naturally unwilling to take the initiative. Most people may not stand this process, and after a long time, they basically choose to give up. My best friend can be so happy now because she spent a lot of time and patience to make the other person change. She deserves everything now.

Therefore, when dealing with feelings, men and women will also have a lot of worries and uncertainties. Similarly, they are also afraid of being hurt in their feelings.

There are indeed many uncertain factors, including personality and work, for the other party to contact you actively. The most important thing is to make sure that he has you in his heart.

In that case, you can try the following three tips.

Teach you three tips

The first trick: suspense him.

If you are sure that he loves you, but you don't take the initiative to contact him, you can keep him hanging. I'm sure you know how to make a man's appetite big. You can be careful with him, learn to be hot and cold, and let him go at his own pace. Hang him, and he will love you more and be more active. Therefore, you can also use this trick if you are a routine man.

The second trick: "Can you date me?"

When you meet a man who has a crush on you, don't just wait for him to contact you, you can also take the initiative. Because many handsome guys seem to have nothing to hide, in fact, when it comes to girls, they are often like mimosa in spring. At this time, you take the initiative to kick him and ask him emotionally, "Can you date me?"

As soon as this word comes out, if you are his Mr. Right, he will nod. Hee hee, this foot is exactly what he wants.

The third measure: show jealousy.

If you find that his feelings for you are unpredictable, you can show a little jealousy in front of him at the right time and get a little angry about it. He will sigh with surprise: "This is really important to me." At this time, his psychology will change subtly and he will contact you actively.

Anyway, he didn't contact you. You can think about how to mobilize him, and this relationship will go on like this. You can also take the initiative. If you take the initiative, you may have unexpected gains.