The ancients said: "When people pass middle age, they should not compare, speak, and forget." Every sentence is realistic and heart-breaking.

Middle-aged people have a calmness that young people don’t have, and at the same time they have a vigor that older people don’t have. However, middle-aged people have the greatest pressure, and most middle-aged people have They are all responsible for the livelihood of the whole family, so our ancestors pay special attention to the middle-aged people, and this is the age when the most mistakes cannot be made. Let’s take a look at the advice left by our ancestors to the middle-aged people: "Three no comparisons" , "Three don't speak, three don't forget" means. Let’s talk about Sanbubi first.

First, don’t compare with money. Everyone's ability to make money is different. When you reach middle age, you must understand that money is something external to you. There must be some people around you who are richer than you. If you always want to compare wealth with others, you may develop an inferiority complex. It affects the happiness index. If it is serious, you may embark on the path of illegal crime in order to gain wealth. For middle-aged people, health and safety are more important than wealth.

Second, no comparison with children and grandchildren. Each child's level of excellence is different. Some children may develop slowly in intelligence, so they appear inconspicuous among their peers, but when they reach their mature age, their excellence will be revealed. . If you keep comparing your children and grandchildren to others, not only will it do no good, it will even hurt the children's self-esteem.

Third, it is no better than marriage. As the saying goes, everyone has their own preference for carrots and vegetables. Only the person involved knows best whether they are suitable or not. There are so many families in the world, and there must be someone who is better than your husband, and there must be someone who is more beautiful and virtuous than your wife, but looking good may not necessarily be suitable for you. In addition, some people don't like to show off their happiness, but it doesn't mean that their marriage is unhappy. Therefore, only you know whether your marriage is good or bad.

Next, let’s talk about three words.

First, don’t complain. Everyone complains, but complaining will only make people think that you are ignorant and impatient, and will not bring any changes to the status quo. If you are still full of complaints in middle age, it will make people feel This man is very unreliable.

Second, don’t say evil words. Everyone wants to hear words of praise. If you keep grasping at other people's shortcomings and saying bad words, although you are happy for a while, while hurting others, you are actually cutting off your own development path and hurting others. Will stay away from you because of this.

Third, don’t gossip. There are no secrets in this world. Middle-aged people must keep their mouths shut and not gossip about others behind their backs, otherwise it will soon reach the ears of the person concerned.

Finally, let’s talk about the three things we should never forget.

First, we must not forget the nurturing grace of our parents. The kindness of our parents is greater than heaven, and we must spend our whole life repaying it.

Second, we must not forget the kindness of others. Others have no obligation to help us, but if they help us, we must repay the kindness of a drop of water with a spring of water.

Third, we must not forget the love between husband and wife. My wife is my dearest person. No matter poverty or illness, my wife will always stay with us and never leave us. Two people who were not related by blood have formed a family that is closer than blood.

This advice from our ancestors is very reasonable and everyone must keep it in mind.