Dany and Xiao S share the same fate: marriage is very bitter, why not divorce?

Danny and S, why do you want to write together?

Because their life trajectory and the present situation are really too similar. Both of them used to be hot hosts. After they got married, their reputation and popularity began to decline, and now they are in an awkward position.

What have they experienced in their life of playing good cards?

Let's start with Danny. Recently, she made a series of mistakes at the party, which made people question her professional ability and even be ridiculed by many people.

Actually, Dany was not like this ten years ago. Her healing smile and steady aura on the stage make people feel that she is shining. At that time, she was called a sister of Zhejiang Satellite TV, and a file "I love to remember lyrics" made her familiar to the audience.

The rising popularity has also led her to cross the border, publish albums, act and shoot magazines, and have her own position in every field. Although Zhou Yiwei criticized her acting skills, her starring "Falling in Love with Female Anchor" and "Love in Obstetrics and Gynecology" still gained a lot of praise.

Those years can be said to be the most wonderful time in Dany's life. But after the climax, it is downhill. As we all know, Zhejiang Satellite TV is very strict with artists, and high-intensity work makes artists physically and mentally exhausted.

At that time, although Dany was an elder sister, this title meant that she had to face countless jobs every day.

Party, live broadcast, variety show, Danny is like a working machine. I thought Dani would be the pillar of Zhejiang Satellite TV. Unexpectedly, she gave up "I Love to Remember Lyrics" on 201and left Zhejiang Satellite TV completely on 20 12.

The real trough was in 20 13, when she hosted "China's strongest voice" and mispronounced the SMS number, which is said to have cost Hunan Satellite TV tens of millions.

From then on, Dani never got up from this trough.

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Frustrated in career, but gained something in love, she met Zhou Yiwei. It can be said that at that time, Dani almost regarded Zhou Yiwei as his lifeline.

Divorced, career low, meet a man who is willing to give himself a little light, she will seize it anyway. If this man is a lover, then it is the beginning of Dany's redemption, obviously not.

The way she got along with Zhou Yiwei was criticized for what Zhou Yiwei did. Zhou Yiwei looked down on Dani's acting skills; Zhou Yiwei chose to ignore any show of love from Dany; Danny's whole world is Zhou Yiwei, but he has never cooked a meal for her. ...

Dani always emphasizes that he is not humble, and Zhou Yiwei loves himself. In fact, the more he emphasizes, the weaker he becomes. The career blow in those years has caused Dany's world to collapse, and the appearance of Zhou Yiwei has caused her world to collapse again.

However, Dany always habitually uses a smile to hide her inner fragility. In fact, she is inferior, which comes from the predicament of her family background.

She once said in her speech that her parents divorced when they were young, and she came out to kill people early and shouldered the burden of life.

It can be said that the trauma caused by family background has not been cured so far. Zhou Yiwei is not a man who can catch her. The man's repression and indifference undoubtedly aggravated Dany's inner inferiority.

I can guess that Dani is mentally ill. This kind of question will dilute her memory and affect her cognition.

Look at Danny now. Although she has been smiling, you will find that her smile is not as warm as it was ten years ago. Her smile now is a professional fake smile, without any temperature. Sometimes when I look at her host, I feel that this woman's face is full of disappointments in life.

For her, this is more painful than ridicule.

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Let's take a look at Xiao S. Her life is also typical of high opening and low walking. In 2004, he partnered with Cai Kangyong in "Kangxi Comes" and gained a large number of fans with the hosting style of Ghost Horse Elf.

The following year, I won the prize of this project. At that time, the small S was popular all over the country. There is no joke she dare not make, and there is no male star she dare not flirt with. No one doesn't love such a small S. She completely subverts the image of the traditional host and becomes the most special one.

Dany met Zhou Yiwei at the trough, but Xiao S married Xu Yajun at the peak of her life. Marrying into a rich family is undoubtedly the best destination for female artists.

But it turns out that it is not the home of Xiao S, but a nightmare.

Since they got married, there have been many reports of running red lights, and Xu Yajun has been photographed with the opposite sex many times.

Xu Yajun was photographed intimate with a woman and revealed their chat records. When the whole world was denouncing Xu Yajun, Xiao S responded that he was just a friend.

This is not the first time that Xiao S has stood up to help Xu Yajun clarify this scandal that has angered countless fans.

Xiao S has always stressed that she and her husband are very loving, but is she really happy? 20 17, Xiao s drank too much on his birthday and cried for the camera. He also shouted to the big S: "Marriage is very bitter, I hope you will stick to it until the end."

At the end of the live broadcast, the daughter touched her face and said, "Mom, dad broke your face." This sentence shocked everyone. It turns out that Xu Yajun is not only romantic, but also likes domestic violence.

Although Xiao S denies all this, you can see that Xiao S is not what she was ten years ago. She always burst into tears in the program "We Are Real Friends". Speaking of career and feelings, she doesn't seem very happy.

Some people say that Xiao S is afraid of depression. Actually, it's normal for her to have mental illness. After Kangxi 20 13 stopped broadcasting, she tried many programs, but nothing improved.

Coupled with the trivial matters in marriage, she has completely lost her previous aura. Compared with my sister's big S, it is enough to see that the small S is very bitter.

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Dany and Xiao S are both facing the same dilemma. When people reach middle age, their careers are low and marriage is not optimistic. And their state is out of control, and their faces are full of loss and grievances.

Many people are asking: since marriage is bitter, why not divorce?

The word divorce is simple to say, but not everyone has the courage to leave. Like Dani and Xiao S, although they are not short of money, they need marriage. Even if this man is unbearable, they should keep a superficial harmony.

It can be said that both Dani and Xiao S are insecure people, and even if they have made some achievements, they can't be redeemed. For them, as long as there is a little sweetness in marriage, it is enough to make them smash.

They are too afraid of losing, so they can only hold on to what they have in front of them, even if that person is not worth it, at least they have a seemingly complete home with him. And those frustrated and painful, they can only hide behind a smile.

The career has not improved, and the family has been lost. Isn't that useless? I can't laugh at their cowardice and humbleness. Maybe they are really not as strong as you think. In the face of an unhappy marriage, you can leave, but they can't afford to be hurt anymore.

Try to understand them, not question them.

For them, marriage is the only light left in their lives. Even if that light is weak, as long as it is still there, there is hope for survival.