What should children do if they are afraid of ghosts and refuse to sleep alone or have difficulty falling asleep at night? Enhance courage in this way.

3-6 years old is the key age for children and parents to sleep in separate rooms.

3-6 years old is also the climax of children's animism

As children are exposed to more and more things, the space for activities is getting bigger and bigger, and their imagination is greatly improved irresistibly, everything becomes a living thing in their eyes, which is animism.

Making good use of animism will make parenting easy and enjoyable.

During this period, no matter parents or children, personalization has become a landscape in life.

But animism does not always bring beauty. No, ghosts began to appear in children's minds.

These will be reprocessed in the child's mind and become ghosts in the brain.

It is not easy to be troubled by high emotions during the day, but when it is quiet at night, these exaggerated and pan-spiritual images will jump out.

So the children who could have slept by themselves refused to sleep by themselves.

Even if you force yourself to sleep, it is difficult to fall asleep, usually not more than 2 hours.

First of all, try not to expose children to scary or dark pictures or tell such stories.

Secondly, sleeping clothes and quilts should be comfortable.

Don't wear pajamas or a thick quilt.

But be sure to cover the quilt, not only not to catch a cold, but more importantly, having something to cover will make you feel more secure psychologically.

Finally, parents asked themselves if they were afraid of ghosts.

If you are not afraid, you can talk about ghosts with your children calmly.

If you are afraid, parents need to adjust themselves first, and then talk to their children. Otherwise, it will only make the problem worse.

If parents directly ask their children, "What does that ghost look like?"

Nine times out of ten, the child will answer, "I didn't see it clearly, but it was terrible."

The parents asked again, "What terrible law? You talk to mom and dad. "

The child may just cry and can't talk at all.

The reason for this is that parents' questions are open-ended and there is no scope for answers, which will make children feel at a loss.

Especially talking about ghosts is an unspeakable fear. How to describe it in detail?

Therefore, parents need to use closed questions, that is, questions with answers within a certain range, to help children concretize ghosts.

Many fears of human beings come from vagueness and unknowns.

The more you dare not face it, the more you are afraid of it. The more you are afraid of it, the more you are controlled by it.

By concretizing and visualizing ghosts through conversation, we can dilute this inexplicable feeling and become rational.

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Far from being "more afraid", it will greatly alleviate the previous fears.

Monsters are fantasies, and parents still tell her in fantasies that there are no monsters, which is obviously unacceptable to children.

Once the window paper is opened, the child will never be able to extricate himself.

When her parents showed her videos of elephants at home and talked about their habits, she was not afraid at all.

Talking about ghosts repeatedly with children can help children get rid of their current predicament.

At the same time, it is more important to teach children to face the problem directly, rather than avoiding or exaggerating.

All the problems were small at first, but it bared its teeth and looked scary. If it flinches, gets scared and runs away, it will grow bigger and bigger until it loses control.

When talking about ghosts with children, don't feel strange at first sight, be relatively peaceful, and echo the children's emotions. Specifically:

Adults should not rush to comment on "this monster is so ugly" and so on.

Adults' comments are worthless. You are just eager to guide the child out, but this is yours, not his mind.

Only by guiding the child to evaluate himself will he accept it, because the child will think that this is his own conclusion.

The benefits of letting children evaluate: sense of control, sense of reality and sense of equality.

Finally, the conversation is not a one-time solution to children's fears, and it needs to be repeated many times.

You can ask your child this question first: what do you think, so that ghosts dare not approach you?

Don't underestimate the wisdom of children, and the methods that children come up with themselves will be more operable.

These should be affirmed in time to give children greater strength.

The attitude of parents is the key factor for children to judge whether this method is good or not.

The intrusion of ghosts on children seems to be fierce and inseparable, but in fact, as long as parents dare to talk to their children about ghosts, they will soon disappear.

Of course, ghosts can change. Just because children are afraid of this today and that tomorrow does not mean that the dialogue has failed.

On the contrary, it is in this kind of communication that children will become more and more brave.

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