What consequences will parents' unprincipled compromise bring to their children?

In fact, it is not uncommon for parents to manage too little or too strictly and not be with us. Generally, doting parents think that their children are already under great pressure. Giving children a happy childhood while they are still young has no influence on them. Parents who are too strict think that they can't be Fiona Fang without rules. If you don't discipline your children from the details of life now, how can you make them stand on the society in the future? Both views sound reasonable, but the problem is that the way these parents deal with contradictions is not comprehensive consideration, but a multiple-choice question between "loving children" and "making rules"

This either-or choice will inevitably have a negative impact on children's growth. Too much love for children's families leads children to be unruly, impolite and disrespectful; The latter makes children cautious and follow the rules. Parents need to realize that rules and love are unified.

"Freedom with rules is called liveliness; Freedom without rules is presumptuous; Don't be arrogant and arrogant, call it rules, and don't actively call it rigid. " It sounds embarrassing, but it is not difficult to understand: "For example, there are iron fences around the cattle farm, where cows eat grass and drink water and run around." This is called excitement, and herders are not good at interference; Jumping out of the gate is presumptuous and must be interfered.

There is no grid, which is the rule; If you are in the fence, but you are not allowed to eat grass, drink water and run around, it will be boring. In the same way, if our love for children causes selfishness and laziness, so that children lack the most basic ability and education, then this kind of love will cause endless harm. On the contrary, if the rules we make for children cause indifference and indifference at home, and suppress and stifle children's nature, then such rules are meaningless. After all, the essence of home is the destination of the heart. What is needed is sincere care and closeness, and what is needed is human feelings and feelings.

Some parents said: "There are rules at home, and there is nothing wrong with the children!" This is a common problem in many families: children don't listen to your principles and often threaten their parents by crying and skipping meals. This is largely because parents have repeatedly lowered the bottom line. For example, it is agreed with children to play iPad for only half an hour every day, but when children cry, adults give in, so spoiled children who play for another half an hour have a characteristic that their demands are always met. When problems appear for the first time, adults compromise, which will only bring more trouble to themselves and their children's future.