Self-discipline, help yourself "go against the sky and change your life."

At 4: 53 a.m. on 20 16 12 2 1 00, I sent the punch-in information of "self-discipline 100 days".

On September 19, 13, 2065438, at 3:04 am, I sent the punch-in information of "self-discipline 1000 days"1000 days.

"Self-discipline 100 days" records my time in units of 100 days. I crammed "three things a day" and punched in my circle of friends every morning. For a whole/kloc-0.000 days, what did I get? In short, through self-discipline, I helped myself to achieve "changing my life against the sky".

"Changing life against the sky" means changing fate against the sky.

Can heaven disobey?

Some aspects are really not good, such as family background, genes, past experience and so on. However, we can also change our view of the sky by changing our view of these unchangeable things.

Going against the sky can be said to be choosing a positive attitude towards life, rather than passively accepting all this.

Self-discipline is a positive attitude towards life.

Can fate change?

Some aspects are really not good. For example, no matter how hard we try, most of us will never become Ma Yun or win the Nobel Prize. However, the high probability thing is that we can make ourselves better today and better tomorrow than today, so that our overall destiny can be better.

Changing your destiny can be said to be choosing an effective action instead of sitting in the same place feeling sorry for yourself.

Self-discipline means choosing an effective action.

1000 days of self-discipline, my "changing fate" memorabilia:

From anxious working mothers to role models in the eyes of 10-year-old sons;

From the training teacher who suffered a middle-aged crisis in the dark forest to the spiritual mentor who led everyone through the dark forest;

From a sports white to a sportsman in everyone's eyes;

From writing phobia to best-selling author;

From the disabled party to the stick figure expert;

From a beautiful vase in the eyes of others to a self-disciplined madman in the eyes of others;

From an idle person who spends his time on all kinds of entertainment to an indifferent busy person who makes friends with time;

From a frightened migrant worker to a promising entrepreneur;

From the spirit-poor winner to the spirit-rich giver;

From an image of hostility with short hair, it has become a warmer image with long hair.

Why can self-discipline achieve "destiny"?

1, home and away in life

Self-discipline can keep us active at home, not passive at home.

Before, whenever I heard a team say that their performance was affected by the away game, I always felt that they were making excuses for their poor skills. Now I understand more and more that the away state and the home state are completely different, and the sense of control and passivity at home will directly affect the performance of the team.

If life is a sports field, even if we don't compete with others, we are still competing with ourselves, just like Jonathan Lee's "People who Race with Yourself": We are all people who race with ourselves, striving for a better future and meaningful victory.

How to race with yourself? If others ask us to change, it is a passive away game. If we decide to change ourselves and make ourselves better through self-discipline, it is active home court.

This year's Internet winter, some laid-off employees suddenly found that they were not very competitive after leaving the superior platform. It is very passive to change at this time. If you can grow up by self-discipline, then even if the platform falls, there will still be countless olive branches.

2. The uncertainty and certainty of life

Self-discipline allows us to gain more certainty in an uncertain world.

Most of our fears come from unknown uncertainty, and fear will limit our actions, because without action, there will definitely be no results, which will further aggravate the uncertainty in the future.

Just like myself in 20 16, because of the uncertainty of physical condition, work and family, I am deeply trapped in the dark forest of middle-aged crisis.

How to resist fear? Action is the best treatment. That is, at that time, through the self-discipline of "three things a day", I let myself have something to do every day. In this way, I walked out of the dark forest step by step.

3. Life is vague and precise

Self-discipline makes the ambiguity of the future more and more accurate through accurate daily practice.

We always encourage each other with "the future can be expected", but what is the future like? Even futurists can't describe it accurately. To some extent, we are all driving in the fog leading to the future.

Even if it is fog, we have to cross it, which is the fate of mankind. At this time, we have to look for things that have a high probability of getting clear benefits in the future. One way is to learn from our past experience, and the other way is to learn from those who have successfully reached the other side through the fog.

I decided to start "self-discipline 100 days". On the one hand, in my past life, every time I turned over, I kept working hard for about 100 days, thus creating a better future for myself. On the other hand, it is because the big coffees around me are advocating self-discipline. For example, my idol Zeng Guofan said when talking about his life experience: "Get up early and work hard every day, don't. Zeng Guofan, with his neutral attitude, can become such a three-immortal perfect man in history, that is, he has surpassed the self-discipline of ordinary people.

4. Addition and subtraction of life

Self-discipline reshapes life by subtraction and makes life grow by addition.

The confusion of most of us is that we have too little time and too many things to do, but time is absolutely fair. Everyone has only 24 hours a day. You can't go to friends' parties when you study, and you can't take care of your baby when you work. We should use subtraction to eliminate some unimportant things from our lives, so that we can leave time for more important things.

Subtraction is a sacrifice. What is sacrifice? Is to exchange low-value things for more valuable things. This involves a person's values, that is, from the heart. Why do you think what is the most important thing in life?

Find the most important thing, break it down into daily actions, and take time out to do it every day. This is self-discipline.

5. Happiness and anxiety in life

Self-discipline can help us get rid of anxiety and have a happier life.

When we are anxious, our hearts will feel flustered. Look at the word "panic" to understand the essence of anxiety. On the left of the word "panic" is "heart" and on the right is "famine". Everyone thinks of the scene of the village governance. The wasteland is not barren, but it is thriving, but it has not been harvested in the end. When we are anxious, it is not that we don't have ideas, but that there are too many ideas but we can't put them into action, so these ideas have no results in the end, which leads us to panic more and more.

What is the difference between a field and a wasteland? The crops in the field are single, and the key is to have a harvest in autumn harvest. In order to get these gains, people can't "look up to the sky", but must work hard, water and fertilize, and repel insects and avoid harm. However, when they see the harvest, people are happy.

I advocate practicing "three things a day" in 100 days, just to let us focus on these three things every day, reduce distractions, let ourselves experience the harvest through 100 days, and let ourselves move from a state of panic and anxiety to a state of inner happiness.

Doing "three things a day" sounds hard, but it is a real happy state, because every day we can feel the real existence through these things.

For example, a famous thought experiment about the "happiness machine" comes from Nozick, a philosophy professor at Harvard University.

Please imagine that there is a happiness machine in the world. If you connect yourself with this machine, you can experience everything you desire: buy Taobao at will, choose a house at will, go to Mars at will, and you will feel happy without any regrets. But on one condition, what you experience is only an illusion. When the thread is pulled out, there is nothing.

What would you decide? Do you want your real life or your perfect dream life?

I don't know what your choice is for this thought experiment. It is said that most people refuse to connect to the happiness machine.

The Swiss philosopher Bosat explained: "A good life is not just a series of desirable experiences, what we want is a real, real life."

We want to know, to act, and to be yourself. None of this can be achieved if we connect ourselves with the happy machine.

Let's make ourselves what we really want to be and experience real happiness through self-discipline.

6, the appreciation and depreciation of life

Self-discipline can make our life appreciate continuously, that is, make ourselves more and more valuable with the growth of age. No one wants their life to depreciate, but in reality there are still many people who have a miserable life in their later years.

Zeng Guofan, my spiritual mentor, is a typical case of appreciating life. His qualifications are average, and he is often laughed at by talented leftists. However, through his extraordinary self-discipline, he continued to practice "getting up early, persevering every day and doing nothing", making himself not only the four famous ministers in the late Qing Dynasty, but also a fairy.

How does self-discipline make life appreciate? In fact, it is essentially because you constantly enlarge your "achievement radius".

Suppose a person's achievements are represented by a circle. The longer the radius, the larger the area, and the radius is a person's daily accumulation.

Keep accumulating, instead of fishing for three days and drying the net for two days, or drawing several circles at the same time. Zeng Guofan's "doing less" is telling us to draw a circle well.

One question is easy to understand: two 6-inch pizzas and one 9-inch pizza, which one do you want?

This problem is very simple, just calculate the area of the circle S=πr? You know, two six-inch pizzas are not as big as a nine-inch pizza.

From six inches to nine inches, the radius only increased by 50%, but the area more than doubled.

We should focus on our real achievements and constantly expand our achievement radius through self-discipline. This is an easy way to succeed.

7. The cleverness and clumsiness of life

Self-discipline means doing things in a seemingly clumsy way, just like Zeng Guofan's "fight a tough battle." However, in the long run, this is the smartest way to "go against the sky".

Take the way of wealth accumulation as an example. There are two kinds of people who want to get rich in this world: 1. One is to win the first prize and get rich once in your life; 2. Another way is to just want to win the small prize of 100, but find the law, and then buy it repeatedly, winning 100 many times and winning every day.

The first one is clever, and the second one looks much more clumsy. However, it turns out? Or the second one is the most reliable.

Buffett made an analogy between these two ideas in a sentence, which is very appropriate. The first person who wants to win the grand prize is "trying to cross the seven-foot railing"; Second, being willing to win a small prize every day is equivalent to "stepping over a foot-high railing."

How does Buffett choose? Buffett said: "The reason why we are very successful in investment is that we concentrate on finding 65,438+0-foot-high railings that we can easily cross and avoid those 7-foot-high railings that we can't cross."

Let's compare these two methods:

Method 1: Step over a 7-foot-high railing.

This is probably an accidental light method suitable for extremely talented people, such as Leonardo da Vinci and Bill Gates. Unfortunately, for most people, adopting this method is extremely risky and difficult to replicate.

Method 2: Cross the railing 1 ft high.

In other words, find a repeatable "simple action" and stick to it. For most ordinary people, the probability of success is far greater than the first method.

Find "three things a day" and through "continuous work every day", let yourself make a leap in life in this clumsy way.

8. Decline and eternity of life

Self-discipline is an eternal spirit, even if the body will eventually decay, the spirit of self-discipline will be passed on.

Time will pass eventually, but sometimes time is like light. When we can be extremely focused and attentive, time, like a laser, produces a powerful cutting force.

Bill Gates' father, Gates Sr., once asked Bill Gates and Buffett to write a word on a piece of paper to talk about what had the greatest influence on their success. Two people who take turns to be the richest man in the world finished writing and opened it, but they all wrote the same word-concentration.

For all people, time is scarce, and time will eventually pass away. We must find a way to leave something in the long river of time through more concentration and self-discipline.

I hope everyone can help themselves "change their lives" through self-discipline.