Are there any people with emotional illness around you? Do you know them?

When young intellectuals went to the countryside, I had a best friend, Xiao Xia. 1977, we took the college entrance examination together and were admitted to the same normal college. We are not a professional. She studies liberal arts and I study science.

After more than half a year in school, she told me that there was a boy in her class who pursued her. I asked her what she thought, and she said it was impossible. Kong Xiao's family is in the countryside and has a difficult family. He may not be able to stay in this city after graduation. Besides, when boys are teachers, they are unpopular, with low wages and no houses. He himself is average in other respects. Xiao Xia turned him down. As a result, Kong Xiao was lying in the dormitory, unable to get up and ill. As a result, Xiao Xia relented.

. The two talked about love. I also have a friend at school. After graduation, Xiao Xia and I were assigned to different middle schools in the same city. There was a shortage of teachers in those days. With the help of the class teacher, Kong Xiao stayed in the city and was assigned to a primary school as a teacher. Later, despite strong opposition from Xiao Xia's parents. They got married after all. I went to see the wedding room, which is a bungalow divided by the unit and needs to burn coal. There is nothing at home. They have a daughter after marriage.

Marriage is not love, life is full of trivial matters, oil and salt sauce vinegar, burning coal ash in the stove, children get sick; The salary is tight, the children's milk powder is not enough, and the two people keep quarreling and even go to court. Finally, the small hole softened, and it just went away.

Kong Xiao is dissatisfied with his work and thinks he has no talent. He grew up in the countryside, did not like to do housework, and lacked the breath of a man. He has a small mind. Drink to drown one's sorrows. Xiao Xia is in a hurry and has a bad temper. She is very talented. Later, the child went to school and lived in the building, and Xiao Kong also worked in the office.

Life is getting better, and a new crisis is coming. Xiao Xia's parents gave her a BB machine. Kong Xiao was very angry and asked her, What is your relationship with him? ? Xiao Xia is going to join the party, and he also thinks that he is a leader? Ass? ; See the leadership of the hole is very enthusiastic, say? When you see our leader, you don't even look right. Are you all glowing? ; When he arrives at the government office, he can drink more. Once he came home drunk, picked up a kitchen knife and put it around Xiao Xia's neck, asking her to admit that she was having an affair. The child cried and screamed with fear. Later, neighbors, police stations and unit leaders came, and he put down the kitchen knife.

Xiao Xia later showed me the neck with two knife marks. They caused a storm in the city and ended in divorce. The child was awarded to Xiao Xia.

After eight years of divorce, Xiao Xia married the leader of Kong Xiao. The heroine died, perhaps because of a small hole that brought them together; Maybe?

After Xiao Xia remarried, she and her husband both went into business and had a good life for five or six years. Scholars do business and finally fail; The husband and wife also broke up because of money.

Over the years, Kong Xiao always mentioned Xiao Xia and spoke ill of her when he saw me. I advised him to let go of the past and find another partner to live a good life. He is also very capable and became a director, but what about him? . My wife, my brother and classmates all told me that when I saw Kong Xiao drinking there, I could drink eight taels, but I was generally not drunk. The city is not big, as everyone knows. He drank this cup of love wine, which was too toxic.

19 12 years 10 months, Xiao Xia called me and asked me to help her look at the studio. She's going to see Kong Xiao. Kong Xiao tried to kill himself. He cut his neck with a knife. He's crazy. His younger brother accompanied him. Hospitalization, long-term medication, improvement. 19 17 years, my classmates told me that he hanged himself.

If he can cherish the hard-won marriage, maybe they won't divorce; If he is not so stubborn, he may come out of a failed marriage; If he finds another lover, he may start a new happy life; If he wasn't so drunk, maybe he wouldn't get any mental illness; What if? Maybe? Unfortunately, there are not so many ifs. People who are sick and sick with emotions can also understand his inner struggle; I don't understand why he is not even afraid of death. Why can't he move on? Why torture yourself like this!

In addition to responsibilities and obligations, husband and wife should be tolerant and kind to each other; You can't haggle over every ounce when you live at home; Everything can't be true; Once a marriage fails, don't go to extremes. Learn to protect yourself and let go of things that don't belong to you; Do you have to? Love? People who don't love themselves; Learn to love yourself!

As soon as these things are mentioned, I feel bad. Although it is disrespectful to the deceased, it is also a mourning for friends. May we all cherish life and be kind to ourselves and others.