Daughter-in-law complains of paralysis of mother-in-law

It is not difficult to find that most mother-in-law who are unfriendly to their daughter-in-law have daughters. Even without a daughter, I have some money in my hand. My husband loves me and my son is filial. So they don't need a daughter-in-law when they are old or sick. Since I don't need it in the future, I naturally don't have to be friendly to my daughter-in-law. I can put on my mother-in-law's airs. Why not? My mother-in-law is like this. Her husband put up with her all his life, his son is filial and has two daughters. She also has some money in her hand, so she feels confident. Figure | Network

If her husband hadn't realized this clearly, the marriage would have ended long ago. My husband and I met on a blind date, and my mother-in-law was not satisfied with my blind date. I think it's wrong to go to the wrong place, but in fact, our family background is similar, except that my mother-in-law is arrogant and looks down on people, so I knew her mother-in-law was stronger before marriage. Seeing my mother-in-law's attitude, my parents naturally don't want me to have anything to do with this blind date. But my husband and I fell in love at first sight, regardless of our parents' opposition, and we must be together anyway.

When it comes to marriage, it ends in discord, even though my family doesn't want much bride price at all, it's just a formality. But my mother-in-law just disagreed. If you are bitten to death, there is no bride price, and you love to marry or not. My parents were angry at that time, but it didn't stop me from insisting. Finally, the one who should get married finally got married. After a simple wedding, I started my married life. Because my husband's family refused to pay for the wedding room, my parents were very angry and naturally would not pay for our house.

We haven't worked for a few years and we don't have much savings. We almost spent it all in our marriage. Naturally, I can't afford a house, so I can only live in my husband's house after marriage. In the past, this family's mother-in-law took on more housework, and her father-in-law and husband also helped. But after I moved in, my mother-in-law became a shopkeeper, telling her husband and son not to help. When she has time, she is addicted to square dance and goes out with her husband. When she came back, she had to eat hot dishes and hot meals. If not, she began to be cynical.

Whenever she wants to help, she either says that housework is a daughter-in-law's duty, or that she is not feeling well, and she is either dizzy or has a backache all day. Fortunately, my husband loves me dearly. No matter how noisy my mother-in-law is, as long as he is at home, he will share it with me, but he is busy at work and sometimes there is nothing he can do. My husband also told my mother-in-law, but it was useless, and I was quite helpless.

Once she scolded me because she disliked the boiling water I gave her was too hot. I had no choice but to ask her, "Mother-in-law, I am your daughter-in-law, and we are a family. You don't want to help me within your power. You didn't expect to be sick and old, and no one took care of you. " My mother-in-law smiled and said, I have money, a husband, a son and two caring daughters. I don't expect you to take care of me, so I can ignore your feelings.

These words are really chilling. I see, because she doesn't expect me, it has nothing to do with me. After thinking of marriage, I foolishly thought that my mother-in-law would definitely change me as long as she forbeared and treated her sincerely. But in fact, she doesn't think of me as family at all. She also told me not to worry about her property. She said she had given it to her two daughters. Since your son is disobedient and insists on marrying you, you don't have to worry about the money at home.

I glanced at her and said with a sneer, I see, you still remember what you said today. After that, no matter how picky she was, I ignored her and went my own way. I spend money to buy food and cook. You can eat it if you like, or you can buy food and cook yourself if you don't like it. I can't bear it any longer. I do as much housework as possible. I didn't clean up until midnight just for my mother-in-law's smiling face.

Originally, life would go on like this, but then I moved out. I am pregnant, my husband is very happy, and my father-in-law is also very happy that I have my own child. It is natural to be happy when they say they will be grandparents the next generation. Only my mother-in-law, with a cold face, refused to pretend. Because she thinks that her husband and son will pay more attention to me as an outsider in the future, but it is normal for family members to pay more attention to pregnant women.

Mother-in-law is not happy, let two daughters come back to live with the children, all kinds of noise. When you are emotionally unstable during pregnancy and really can't sleep, come out and talk to your child. The result was good, and my mother-in-law was firm and gave me a push. I lost my footing and my stomach hit the corner of the table, and I was bleeding at that time. Fortunately, my husband was at home and sent me to the hospital in time. There is no big problem for adults and children. I finally got fed up and offered to move out, even if it was renting a house.

My husband was also angry, agreed to move out this time, and soon found a house. After moving out, my life is much quieter and my mood is very comfortable. Our parents gave us a sum of money, and we are going to borrow some more from our friends, buy a house of our own, and start to look at the house intermittently. Later, on the day when I just got the real estate license, I suddenly started and gave birth to twin daughters before the expected date of delivery.

My husband is very happy and refuses to give up. My father-in-law heard about it and brought my mother-in-law to see the children. My father-in-law's joy is beyond words. He caught the person in the room saying that he was a grandfather and asked us to move back (we bought a house behind my husband's back), saying that there was no one to take care of the children outside and the children suffered more. Before I tell my husband. The mother-in-law spoke: she gave birth to two daughters. How precious. Too melodramatic. When I heard that, I had no fluctuation in my heart. After all, I am used to it.

My husband looks ugly. He wanted to tell his parents that he had bought a house and wanted everyone to be happy together. Since my mother-in-law said so, don't say that she won't move back to live, and I don't want to talk about buying a house. Later, anyway, I was locked up at my mother's house. After the baby's full moon, our family of three moved to a new home. With the help of my parents, I take care of my children, and my life is quite easy. In this way, a year passed quickly and suddenly I received a phone call from my mother-in-law.

It turned out that my mother-in-law had a trip and fell down. I don't know what happened. When she came back, she had a stroke and hemiplegia. I can't look after myself. Nothing but talking. My father-in-law has been in poor health this year and needs someone to take care of him, so naturally he can't take care of his mother-in-law. Originally, my mother-in-law wanted her two daughters to take care of her, but her daughters all said that she was busy at home and couldn't leave. With a bunch of excuses, she came to see it several times, just paying lip service, and never again.

It is not impossible to spend money on a nanny, but most of the money in her hand is given to her daughter, and her son certainly can't give too much, so there is no nanny at home. Besides, she doesn't want to spend the money, thinking that there are people at home, so why spend money? Thinking, she thought of my daughter-in-law. At first, she wanted her father-in-law and my husband to call me. My father-in-law said that you forced me to go, and you had to tie the bell. My son said she wouldn't stop me from being filial to you, but mom, you really went too far at first. I can't open my mouth and let my wife take care of you.

I can't help it She called me herself. Her tone is not as aggressive as before, but she still looks confident. I hold a grudge, not to mention naturally hearing her request. So I simply refused, saying: mother-in-law, I am all thumbs, I can't take care of you, and maybe it will affect your mood. You'd better find your two daughters to take care of you. Then he hung up the phone. If I call again, I won't answer it.

I don't know if this is too harsh, but from the day I moved out, I was ready. I don't take care of my husband's filial piety, as long as it is reasonable, but don't expect me. "I haven't seen my grandmother for ten years, and I haven't seen my daughter-in-law for ten years" is really not just talk. No relationship can be rewarded without giving.