A woman in the company was chatting with another female colleague in front of me and said that she had had eleven or twelve boyfriends. Today I heard what the woman meant and we were talking

Thoughts

1. A girl wants others to praise her for her beauty. Everyone likes to hear compliments. Women are more prominent in this regard. They will gain recognition from people's compliments and compliments. Understand female psychology. If you want to win the favor of the girl you love, you must always praise her for her beauty. For example, if your girlfriend puts on makeup in front of the mirror for a long time just for you, and wears a new outfit every time you go on a date, shouldn't you give her a few heartfelt compliments when you see her?

2. Women like to give small favors to others. There are subtle differences between men and women in giving and receiving gifts. When a woman gives a valuable gift to a man, it shows that she is willing to trust her. First of all, think of gifts as a sign of respect or attentiveness. Therefore, a woman not only likes others to give her some small souvenirs, but she also likes to give her boyfriend a small gift. If her boyfriend doesn't take the gift seriously, she will be disappointed. When a smart man accepts a gift from a girl, he must not forget to give her an affectionate kiss.

3. Respect her and understand her. A woman likes to be listened to, and she wants her feelings, even if they are childish or irrational, to work for a man. She wants others to respect her and understand her. Women are easily hurt inside. You must protect her, care for her, and take care of her.

4. Consistent with her interests. Most women believe that a man who shares her views or interests and helps her achieve a certain goal will be a trustworthy person. Therefore, they tend to feel close to such a man and give their hearts to him. Generally speaking, men who are unreasonable and unforgiving will make women unhappy. If a female colleague fails to complete the work quota and you criticize her directly, she will not be favored by her. You should ensure that your work and the collective are not affected. Next, put yourself in her position and think about it. At this time, her heart will be inexplicably inclined to you. Women are generally very wary. If you and her have the same goal, for example, you both have a crush on someone. If you are dissatisfied with a colleague's actions, you will be easily accepted.

5. Pay attention to her tiny desires. Women always think that men are forgetful. Therefore, if she accidentally blurts out something that interests her, you will always remember it firmly. When you mention it to her again one day, she will be deeply moved. For women, if you tell her If you can understand some small desires, she must feel that you know her best and are the most reliable, so she will be closer to you.

6. Confidence to her. It is true that women love men’s masculinity. Strength and bravery are the characteristics of men. But while men are strong and brave, they also have emotions and tenderness. When a woman falls in love with a man, she often falls in love with his vulnerable side. The underlying reason for this phenomenon may be a woman’s natural maternal instinct. A man can easily reveal his secrets in front of a woman he likes, and it is so natural. Women have sincere sympathy for such a man. "A man will not shed tears easily." Men will not shed tears until they are sad, and they will not reveal their secrets to women until they are truly in love. Women are easily conquered by such men.

7. Pay attention to the slight changes in her clothing. For women, if someone notices the small changes in her body, she will have a sense of satisfaction in being recognized. Women like to pursue fashion, and it is their nature to love beauty. If your girlfriend changes her hairstyle or clothes today and you praise her a few words, she will definitely be very happy. She will think that you are always thinking about her and watching her, and she will feel satisfied and will not suddenly become "stormy". , or sulking alone. An attentive man will notice the slight changes in a woman without any prompting from her. In this way, the relationship between you will be very harmonious.

Flirting skills

1. Light a candle or use a red gauze scarf to cover the lampshade while chatting. This trick was used in the movie "Let's Talk".

2. Make an appointment at the flower shop, and ask the flower sender to wait at the place where you are dating him or her at 7 p.m.

3. Meet at a deserted beach or sandy beach and light a bonfire to roast potatoes.

4. Walking in the light rain without an umbrella, nodding and smiling at the people taking shelter on the roadside.

5. Memorize the horoscopes, invite him/her to Jieding and point out the other person’s constellations to him/her, then look at the stars and think about them. Of course, you don’t have to memorize them by heart, just point to one. Beautiful stars, another touching story.

6. Sing about old age, the older the better.

7. If you are going to woo the other person, you can say this: "I heard that there is a way of courting that is to draw a heart in the palm of your hand, and if the other person agrees, you can also draw a heart." He said while drawing a red pen on the palm of his hand and putting the red pen aside.

8. Prepare a wide strip of cloth with words written on it. When you were happily chatting with her in the cafe, you suddenly fell silent. You took out a piece of cloth from your pocket and shook it out. On it you could write "I'm so happy to be with you!"

9. Stop your watch when you are on a date with him or her, look at it when you are leaving and say, "When I am with you, my time stops. I really wish it was still at 7 o'clock."

10. Insert long matchsticks one by one vertically on the cake to spell the other person’s name, starting from the beginning and flashing to the end.

11. Waiting for his (her) further education. If there happens to be an ant nest under your feet, you can use honey to write "I love you" on the ground. After a while, the words will appear on the ground and let him ( (her) surprise.

12. Go to a restaurant and pay the bill in advance. During the chat, the lights suddenly dimmed, and the waiter rolled out the birthday cake and sang Happy Birthday.

13. Go out into the wild and have a lover’s barbecue picnic.

14. Choose an interesting place, such as Dunmei or Changbai Mountain, look at the map, pictures and legends, and it will sound like you have been there to him or her. When the other person asks, tell him/her: "I haven't been there, but I know it well. Because I know I will go there one day in my life. Will you go with me?"

15. Only two people know when booking a set. For example, "" means: "I also want to go to the restaurant on the corner of the building to eat hot pot." "" means "When I looked in the mirror in the morning, I suddenly thought of your lovely face."

16. A "Traditional Crosstalk Selection", when two people read and talk together when they are lonely, they often have unexpected happiness.

17. Tell stories together. One person speaks a paragraph, and the other person continues. There is a story like this. A: "The cat fell madly in love with a light bulb." B: "They got married." A: "They gave birth to a child.", B: "They got married." A: "They gave birth to a child." B: "They got a child." : "It's a light bulb with a tail."

18. Learn from the ancients and walk in the snow to find plum blossoms

Let’s see how to find topics

I will also share my personal views! Haha, please forgive me if I’m wrong~

The first priority in interpersonal communication is sincerity. Authenticity is the first step in developing future intimacy. The so-called sincerity should be to express one's feelings without any concealment, but expressing one's feelings and purposes immediately on the first date may be too abrupt and leave the impression of being too proactive and frivolous. Therefore, you might as well express your good impression of the other person first, and then use a relaxed and natural conversation to "lure" the topic of conversation that the other person is interested in. Usually, what everyone is most concerned about is their own problems. As long as we ask the right questions and listen attentively, the other party will definitely regard us as a close friend and then reciprocate, giving us the opportunity to express ourselves, interact back and forth, and become a stranger on a first date. Awkward, it becomes a long conversation.

The following are topics that can promote intimacy:

1. What do you do? (Why do you like this job? What are the biggest challenges? What are the biggest setbacks? What are your hopes for work and the future?)

2. What achievements have you made in your life so far? (Are there any major setbacks?)

3. What do you love most? (Why are you interested)

4. What was the most impressive happy event last year? (Or something unfortunate?)

5. What do you do at work?

6. How do you like to spend your vacation?

7. Do you want to become famous? (Why)

8. If you had one million, how would you use it?

9. How was your upbringing in your family from childhood to adulthood?

10. What personal strengths did you have while growing up? (Are there any shortcomings of fear?)

11. What kind of relationship do you want to develop?

12. Are you romantic? (How to be romantic?)

13. What do you think are the differences between men and women?

14. What makes you happy?

15. What makes you sad?

16. When you were a child, what did you hope to do when you grew up?

17. What do you think is different from others?

18. Do you believe in gods? (What are your views on gods?)

19. To what extent do you think your personal behavior has an impact on changing society?

20. What do you think are the important events in society right now? (If possible, what would you do?)

Some of the above topics may seem overly personal, especially for a first date, but remember, few people don’t. Caring about yourself, everyone is happy to discuss their own problems as long as they don't question each other rigidly like checking household registration.

And there are three topics that can be used in any situation: food, family, and philosophy.

Perhaps it is a Chinese custom that the protagonist of the first date should be the man, while the woman is more reserved. The man should take the initiative to ask some questions to stir up conversation. Both sides should avoid long periods of silence. The topic of the date should preferably be one that creates a pleasant atmosphere. The content of the conversation should be popular and broad, and the questions should be short so that the other person is willing to answer and able to answer. You can talk about work, study, hobbies, and trivial matters in life. Don't embarrass the other person because they don't know, let alone ask questions that make it difficult for the other person to talk. If the other person is silent and unresponsive, you should quickly change the topic. Both men and women can consciously introduce themselves, including their family members, personal hobbies, specialties, etc., but they must not brag about themselves. Don't let it spoil the first date. Don't use dirty words, otherwise it will be seen as disrespectful, uncivilized, and impolite to the other party.

When dating, you must be happy, in a happy mood and state of mind. Because dating is not a class, there is no need to preach or inspire personality, so the topic must be light-hearted.

If she likes to talk, don't interrupt her. Might as well just be a loyal listener. At the same time, you should not talk about academic topics yourself.

When dating, it is best to take the topic from things that often happen around you, such as TV programs, newspaper social pages, etc., or music-related topics, and use cute pets around you like cats, Dogs, tropical fish, pigeons, birds, etc., because talking about some relaxed and interesting topics can bring you two strangers closer together.

After meeting for the first time, you will inevitably face a common troublesome problem: after asking questions that you already know (some personal situations have been introduced to each other in advance), you don’t know what to talk about next. So, you might as well try the following aspects.

1: Focus on the pursuit of career and look for the "sparkling point" of the topic:

Career is the foundation for a person to settle down and live his life. Any young person who is diligent in his career and pursues life without slacking off will become very cheerful once he talks about work and life with others. So grab some of his "sparkling points" in this area to explore the topic, and you will definitely have a lively conversation.

The topic could be, for example: What do you do? Your job must be very hard, right? I have a hard time understanding your work. Can you tell me about it? Wait for the topic.

2: Focus on hobbies and find the "hot spot" of the topic:

Everyone has his or her own hobbies, even a taciturn person, as long as he communicates with others He is also eloquent when talking about his hobbies. However, what should you do when you meet him for the first time and you don’t know what his hobbies are? It doesn't matter, you might as well talk about your own interests and hobbies first, and then seek out the hot spots in each other's interests and hobbies, so as to increase understanding and deepen feelings. We should expand each other's interests and hobbies to a broad field, so as to find the calling point of "one family". Topics could include: Do you like reading and writing? I like music, music and writing, culture and art. It’s like a ‘family’!

3: Focus on the environmental atmosphere and find the "focus" of the topic.

Environmental atmosphere is a topic that is dynamic, random and rich in connotation. It is not just a show of love and care, but rather reflects a person's level and taste in terms of thoughts, moral character, wisdom, and behavior by capturing this kind of topic. It can be said that as long as a person who is good at observing things, problems, and handling conflicts focuses on the environment and atmosphere when looking for topics, there will be an inexhaustible supply of topics. For example: If there is a TV in the place where you are dating, you can say: Nowadays, there are many TV channels, but there is a lack of exciting programs. Just watch this TV series. The whole plot is slapstick, has no taste at all, and doesn’t have much practical significance. Then ask him to express his opinion.

4: Focus on social life and look for the "exciting point" of the topic.

Social life is all-encompassing. You always have some of your deepest experiences, most wanted to say, and most disgusted things in your life. Or your favorite people and things, what you care about most or what you hope for most. Then, when your conversation with your friends gets "stuck", just pick one of the "points" that you are most excited about and talk about it. For example, the topic is: Can you say what book you are holding? Or you can say that the clothes you are wearing today are very good, etc., and then you can say/didn’t you see that you have done a lot of research on this, and then ask him to talk about it. Didn’t the topic come up?

How to find opportunities to start dating the person you like? This also has a lot to do with the topic!

The so-called people you like can have various situations, so I will explain it a little below.

1: If you want to find opportunities to interact with people you meet at work, the easiest way is to join the clubs or activities that this person participates in. If the other person is not interested in this area, and if they are colleagues in the same work place, you can start the conversation with work matters. If the work place is different, you can start the conversation by talking to the other person about the place where they work and what they like. Establish friendships with colleagues of the same sex who are close to you, so that you can have the opportunity to get close to the person you like.

2: If two people know each other before, it should be easy to find an opportunity to talk. At this time, don't use "I want to date you" as the content of the conversation. Instead, you should use topics such as work or same friends to gradually get closer to the other person naturally. The more difficult situation is, for example, when you meet someone you like on your daily commute and how do you start dating that person?

One way is to get as close to the other person as possible while waiting for the bus at the bus stop. Over time, the other person will naturally have an impression of you. Do this every morning to make an impression on the other person, and the time to go home will match the other person's time (of course you have to spend some time for this, and ask at the station at a fixed time to find out the specific time for the other person to go home). After a long time, You can take the opportunity to say hello gently to the other person when you meet him. First, nod and smile. If the other person responds, then whisper to him: "Do you always go home at this time?" or "Hi! We meet again." If this trick works, then Half the battle is over. When we met at the stop sign the next morning, we could say hello to him comfortably. If you are embarrassed to say hello or nod and smile to the other person, you might as well try the old method that has been passed down since ancient times, which is to deliberately open your bag to take something in front of the other person, and then deliberately pretend to accidentally let anything that is not broken fall.

Even if you are not waiting for the bus, you can deliberately walk in front of the other person on the road he is passing by and then deliberately let things drop. If the other person notices and picks it up for you, you can take the opportunity to thank him, and while looking at the other person's face, say: "Ah, it's you, do we see each other often?"

After that, at the stop sign the next day, be sure to say hello: "Good morning! Thank you so much for yesterday." "Where do you work!" Don't forget to talk to others. .

The above is just an example of a topic. No matter what kind of situation you encounter, you should be able to use the methods mentioned above to come up with the method that suits you best. Of course, if you want to be good at topics, you must have a certain level of hard work and courage. If you want to directly say "Can I be friends with you?" This way of expression not only requires extraordinary courage, but also allows only success and no failure, so I do not encourage this method.

I have to talk about the topic issue here:

When I was dating, I talked about some topics that I read in the book: For example, I only know that there is a feeling called attachment when I get to know you. , there is a feeling called love. The other party will ask me why I said that. I will tell her a bunch of reasons incessantly, and the atmosphere will become very good immediately!

There was another situation like this: She said to me: "I really don't understand. Of all the people who pursue me, no one is richer than you, but why do I like you so much?" Me Said: "That's because they care more about women than rich people, at least more about women's figures. Follow me, and you will never have to worry about your waistline."

Another good man once asked: I am better than a rich man. You are older, and the age difference is too big. I said, "That would be better. If I were not younger than you, no one would provide you with the resources to laugh at me."

There is also this situation: Liangjia said: "I am not very satisfied with your appearance. You are not a handsome guy." I said: "That is where I am superior to handsome guys. Handsome guys can only use fashionable words." My beautiful clothes and beautiful complexion compete with you for your reputation, but I always wear common clothes and am willing to be your foil. When people see me, they think I am your driver."

For now. Write so much! I will write more next time! The writing is a bit messy. Write whatever comes to mind! Please bear with me!

According to my experience

It is better to have a first date in a coffee shop or a park

How do you say this

These two places are not monotonous but have space for two people

To avoid embarrassment when two people chat for a while and can’t connect, you can take a look in the park The scenery

You can listen to the music in the cafe

The topic comes up

Be sure to avoid places that are too busy or too quiet

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There is no place that I must not go to

My girlfriend and I had dinner at a restaurant for the first time

She also attracted several sisters

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The atmosphere is very good

After a good start, I am afraid that I will not get it right

Haha

Wish you good luck! !

You must first understand what kind of girl she is before making a decision.

Let’s have a meal with him first and get to know him better. Ask her if there is somewhere she wants to go that you can go with her. This can make her feel that you respect her and make him feel that you are attentive enough.

If he says it doesn’t matter. The place you take her to impress her is very important, so just accompany her to some quieter places. Parks and beaches are also good, let’s learn more about them.

Don’t go to crowded or noisy places.

It depends on the girl's personality. If she is a quiet girl, take her to the park or the river. If she is a cute girl, take her to a lively place.

Of course , if you have the money, try to invite her to a big hotel for dinner.

You can also watch movies, preferably romantic movies.

You can also ask her to come to your house. !

But don’t let anyone interfere anywhere.

O K Just walk around and walk around until your feet get sore, then find a place to sit down and rest. Keep walking and walking. Ah

The best place is a quiet restaurant or cafe

The worst place is a park or discotheque

First Find a quieter place for your first date, but not too secluded, otherwise the girl will feel insecure. Don't find a place that is too noisy, as this is not conducive to communication

April 22, 2019

Of course it is best to find a park, which can be romantic. It is easier to cultivate a romantic mood.

Or it can be by the lake or on the grass. If you think the environment is good, go there.

It is best not to be at home, no matter whose home it is, that way she I will think that you have something wrong. Isn’t there any romantic atmosphere in that way?

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Or go to a teahouse, it’s pretty good there too Yes, but it’s best to have a drink instead of alcohol. Most girls don’t like men and alcohol.

The worst place to go is a remote place. The more people there are, the safer the girl will be. Girls are afraid of places with few people.

In fact, the key is to let girls make their own decisions about where to go, but often if you ask her where to go, she can’t tell you anything. East? It's up to you. For example, if you ask her what she wants to drink, she may say anything, leaving you at a loss, but if you want to ask her if she wants to drink Coke or Nutrition Express? Ready to take it directly. Then the answer may be different.

In addition, it is also important to give others what they want rather than giving them what they want. If you understand what she likes, what she is interested in, and what she is good at, it will be easier! ·It would be much easier if you find your common ground, develop the same language, and have the same hobbies!

Suggestion:

Watch a movie that you both think is very good. (What is the name of this movie? Have you seen it? Do you like it?)

< p>Find a restaurant where you both think the environment is nice. (The facade of this restaurant is so beautiful, and the environment inside is also good. The food must be delicious)

My friend, your question is very bold! Girls will be very nervous and scared for the first time. First, let her know and understand what it is. It is a way for men and women to express their love. It does not mean that you are sorry for your boyfriend if you are not with him. It is not a routine matter. In fact, you also want to have a real relationship with your boyfriend, right? Hey! Don't worry, I'm here to help you. First of all, you have to understand that it is not scary, don't worry about it hurting, don't be so sensitive, it is actually very wonderful. You should overcome your fear and devote yourself to it. In the intimacy with your boyfriend, this is the foreplay that I will talk about next. Both parties can kiss each other first, and the boyfriend can be more proactive, comfort, flirting and the like. Don't do it in a hurry, like that Of course the woman will feel uncomfortable. The man's hands are the most important when kissing the woman. While kissing, he should use his hands to caress her body, including her private parts. Once the woman is invested, she will cooperate with you and her breathing will become tight. And so on, the body will also react, and then the two parties will be perfect. It is also good to watch some adult movies at the appropriate time to add some atmosphere. From what I see, there is still a lack between your friend and your boyfriend, , not only because of the woman’s side, but also mostly because of the man’s side.. Did you go there with a normal psychology? Go for a check-up first to see if there are physical reasons. First rule out the physical causes before you can check whether there is a psychological problem. This is what professional psychologists will recommend.

If it is not a physical problem, if her problem can be further determined to be a psychological problem, it should be solved through psychology.

Since she has been unable to succeed for a long time, she must have been anxious and worried about it. When she tried again, there was a psychological shadow such as hints of anxiety and worry. This will inevitably lead to an increased chance of failure again. The correct way is to get rid of worries, find a time when you are in a good mood and condition, and give a slight hint that you can do it. In addition, the man should be gentle when entering. It is normal to feel a little pain during the process. As long as the other party is gentler and cooperates better, the pain will pass quickly and most people can bear it.

In addition, it does not rule out the possibility that the man lacks skills and cannot choose a suitable posture, resulting in failure.

Level: School girl

You don’t have to give anything when you meet for the first time on February 5, 2018, but you must pay attention to your image, conversation, attention to details, and don’t use curse words or spit. , or carelessly, etc. In short, pay attention to the things that should be paid attention to, and do not ignore the details. Pull a chair for the girl when eating, open the door when getting off the car, open the lid when drinking, etc., ask before smoking, etc.; In addition, don't look too stingy and stingy, but don't show that you have no sense of financial management. This needs to be grasped by yourself. But girls definitely don’t like someone who is stingy about spending money on themselves. Maybe she won’t ask you to spend money, but when she sees you spending money for her, she will secretly give you points in her heart. In addition, if someone happens to come up to you and sell flowers, you may want to buy one, but there is no need to do it deliberately. Don't be too conspicuous. Girls nowadays like boys who are more generous. In addition, don't look around in front of her, or if you see a beautiful girl with straight eyes, this is absolutely wrong. When crossing the road, be careful to let her go on the inside, but remember not to deliberately make physical contact with her the first few times you meet her. The girl will be very disgusted. Cultivate the relationship slowly. Hold hands and wait until the relationship is developed before starting slowly. Only in this way will the girl feel that you love her enough and respect her enough.

First, have enough chewing gum!

Second, listen carefully and act accordingly.

Third, don’t mention old love, it’s too late.

Fourth, don’t mention your personal property, ma’am.

Fifth, don’t mention professional experience, you are not going for an interview.

Sixth, don’t mention bad personal habits (smoking, drinking, beating, etc.), you are looking for death.