"Trapping people" is not a bad thing.

I have a friend who is recognized as a temperament beauty by people around me. I want to describe her image first:

My skin is white, my hair often hangs in a loose braid, and I like cotton and linen clothes very much. I always wear long skirts in summer, some retro colors and styles, and mostly wear loose coats such as brown and gray in autumn and winter.

She likes to wear high-waisted canvas shoes and carry a big canvas bag.

Well, now you have images in your head, right?

This kind of person is often easy to remember, because her image is always vivid, as if she had a label on her body.

She is really a great beauty, but in fact, her plain face is very ordinary. I once asked her for advice on beauty, and she told me, "If you find your own style and think of a personal design for yourself, everything will be solved."

I realized that when she was a little transparent, she liked that kind of retro clothes and thought it was elegant, and then she began to try to buy this kind of clothes.

"At that time, I made a personal design for myself, and she was a temperament beauty," she said.

Then, she began to wonder why I look old in this dress.

This kind of clothes needs temperament to support. So she began to practice posture, learn makeup, find the right makeup and hairstyle, and try to match them.

Finally, the effect is remarkable. She put on her favorite style and cultivated her unique "memory point".

"In the beginning, I just wanted to wear this kind of clothes. I wanted to wear it well. I tried it and found that I like my personal design very much. "

Later, because I liked this person, I went to learn guzheng and calligraphy. Now these have become her hobbies of practicing every day.

You see, it's not that bad to set up a person.

I followed her train of thought and began to think about what kind of clothes I like and what kind of image I want to leave in others' hearts. It suddenly occurred to me that I like being called gentle, so I decided to establish a "gentle" person.

I began to think of ways to rely on this "gentle man".

When I buy clothes, when I hesitate to know what to buy, I will choose warm colors, soft fabrics, sweaters and the like, wearing coats in winter, skirts in summer and sweaters in spring and autumn.

Choose light makeup and bright blush. Hair styles also choose gentle braids, low ponytails and the like. In fact, the popular beauty with a sense of atmosphere is this idea.

Regrettably, mentioning the word "man-made" is often a bad impression in most people's hearts.

For example, there are many stars on the internet who set up people, and as a result, people set up a rollover. The most typical estimate is Zhai Tianlin's Learn to Bully and Frame People, but I don't think it's framing people, it's cheating the audience.

The truly admirable behavior of establishing a person should be based on "sincerity" and combined with one's own specialty and personality to shape a person with memory, which is a form of packaging for many stars.

This personalized design is desirable and necessary, because stars need these labels to increase memory points, attract fans, promote themselves and let more people discover themselves.

Of course, if you want people to make it feasible and useful, you can't deceive the public and never "make it out of nothing".

Because the package will always be opened, if the audience finds that the contents in the package are too far away from the package, there may be resistance, and the result will be like those failure cases.

Tell me more about my friend.

I had dinner with her some time ago and found that she changed her perfume.

Her perfume this time is a smell I have never smelled before. It's a high-grade smell from China. I asked her, "This perfume suits you very well. Which one is it? "

She gave me a look and smiled. "It's not perfume, it's cool oil." Then she took out a small bottle of green cool oil from her bag and asked me, "Does this taste match my skirt today?"

Yes, it's a perfect match.

See, perfume can't be defined either. What you think of as high-grade perfume may be just a bottle of cool oil. The world should not be defined, nor should people be defined.

So, does establishing a person define himself?

The answer is no, "setting yourself up" is just a way to make yourself better.

When you are confused, when you deny yourself, you might as well set yourself as a villain, "I am a humorous person", "I am a positive sunshine person" and "I am a tossing person".

In this way, maybe you have a direction to work hard and a temporary goal. To put it simply, do you also have a good idea?

If you like the personal design you set up, it's just right, which can make it your bright spot; But one day you don't like this person's design, so take it off neatly and change it for another one.

Maybe some people think that being a man is hypocritical. It's all right, friends. Happiness is the most important thing.

Don't take people too seriously, regard it as a tool to optimize yourself, that's all, why not?

I started writing at the age of 22, and five micro-habits made me earn more than ten thousand yuan a month.

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