Tell me about the first half of my life (a woman’s true first half of her life tells us)

People say that love is like flying a kite. If you care too much, you will regret it. But you all forgot to tell me that unbridled love will also make the sky full of scars... This song was once popular all over the country. "Too Wrongful" tells the story of many love-hate entanglements between men and women in love, and sings the voices of girls who have been hurt by love.

Lan Xin, who has grown up with her since childhood, is a cheerful, sensible, independent and house-keeping girl. After graduating from college, she was recommended by the school to work in an IT company. Because of her good popularity and outstanding work ability, she has always been surrounded by suitors. After a brief relationship with a colleague of similar age with whom she got along well, she discovered that they were not suitable for each other. The two often argued over trivial matters and refused to give in to each other. Lan Xin took the initiative to break up, ending the unhappy relationship. The first love of half a year.

Later, because of renting a house, Lan Xin met a tenant brother who lived next door. The two often met and greeted each other. Invite your friends to chat, cook and make friends together. Gradually, a friend of the tenant's eldest brother fell in love with Lan Xin and confessed his love to her. Although Lan Xin had a crush on him, she had not yet thought about starting a second relationship, so she declined politely. . That friend did not give up. He still contacted her often, intentionally or unintentionally, and sent her flowers or gifts. Lan Xin also expressed her attitude to him many times, either accepting or returning his gifts. This lasted for about two years. However, Lan Xin still held hands with that friend and became her second boyfriend.

Before they confirmed their relationship, not long after they met, the boyfriend told Lan Xin frankly that he was divorced at the time. In fact, he had a short-lived marriage ordered by his parents, and he also had a three-year-old child. There are many boys, and the children live with his ex-wife, while he has worked hard alone in Chongqing for several years, and has achieved some success, running several supermarket chains.

At that time, Lan Xin did not quickly agree to her boyfriend's confession. In fact, she also had concerns in this regard. Later, when Lan Xin made up her mind to accept him, it actually turned into full trust and recognition of him. They had been together day and night for more than three years. They had breakfast together every day, went to work arm in arm, and had romantic candlelight dinners. Their little life was peaceful and sweet.

However, in the two months before they finally broke up, such loving days turned out to be just the darkness before dawn and the calm before the storm. My boyfriend suddenly left without saying goodbye, and sometimes he didn't reply to text messages. He just said lightly, "Let's break up. We are not suitable. I wish you happiness." Lan's heart was at a loss, her heart was cut by a knife, she didn't know what happened? Or did you do something wrong? During that time, she went to see him, but he either kept silent or advised her to let go. There was no decent reason for breaking up. Lan Xin felt sad and wronged, but what could she do?

Until Lan Xin left the company, moved out of the rental house, changed jobs, and met her current husband again. When she was pregnant and pregnant, she met her second boyfriend again. After they reunited, her ex-boyfriend told her the real reason why he broke up with her: before they broke up, he met a girl about the same age as Lan Xin. She was also very smart and lively, but the girl was from the city. He came from a very good family and was the only daughter. The girl fell in love with him at first sight and wanted to marry him immediately.

After the ex-boyfriend finished speaking, he looked guilty and sad, and wanted to continue apologizing to Lan Xin, but Lan Xin smiled and said: Oh, it turns out that the girls in the city are still so popular! The silly girl from the countryside still feels pretty good about herself. When people walk to higher places, water flows to lower places. This is normal. I never hated you back then, I just felt puzzled as to why you suddenly became indifferent. Now my doubts have been solved, it turns out it was excusable, and there is nothing worth worrying about.

Since then, Lan Xin and her ex-boyfriend have never met or contacted each other again. Later, Lan Xin and her husband's first daughter was born. Lan Xin still worked and lived a peaceful life as a husband and child. When her daughter was five years old, Lan Xin got pregnant unexpectedly. Her in-laws and husband both wanted her to have a baby. After their strong persuasion, Lan Xin finally decided to have a second child after hesitation.

With the arrival of the second baby, Lan Xin’s life was not as easy as before. For nearly two years, Lan Xin put almost all her thoughts on Dabao, who was in elementary school, and her newborn baby. Xiaobao's body, but his husband is still often busy with work and socializing. Both parents are either old, frail, or sick and need care. Helpless, Lan Xin had to resign and became a full-time mother and housewife.

When Xiaobao was two and a half years old, once, Lan Xin, who was free, suddenly remembered that a colleague of her husband had recommended a very good kindergarten to them. She wanted to ask Xiaobao, first I understood, so I said to my husband who was taking a shower: Use your mobile phone, I will ask your colleagues about Xiaobao going to kindergarten. The husband's response came from the bathroom: The phone is on the sofa, you can get it yourself. Lan Xin casually picked up her husband's cell phone, opened WeChat, and saw a strange woman's WeChat profile picture. She sent three or four messages in a row, to the effect of: I want to go to the Maldives to relax, so you can go with me. Is your stomach feeling better? I asked a friend to prescribe some medicine for you. I heard that it is very effective. I will give it to you tomorrow...

Lan Xin did not continue reading. Every word was like a bolt from the blue, and she was paralyzed in an instant. On the sofa, tears couldn't help falling. After an unknown amount of time, she heard the bathroom door open. She quickly wiped away her tears and tried her best to pretend that nothing had happened. However, when her husband asked her how she was doing while blow-drying her hair, she couldn't hold back her tears and kept falling down her cheeks one by one.

Lan Xin covered her eyes with her hands, held back her tears, and showed her cards to her husband. Her husband didn't admit it, but kept saying that she and I had nothing to do, we were just friends, so don't make a fuss about it. So what does it mean if you transfer 520 or 1314 to her? Lan Xin asked sadly, but her husband still replied tepidly that he had borrowed it from her before and later returned it to her. It was just a figure, just a joke...

The next few days God, Lan Xin slowly cheered up from the grievance and pain. She didn't feel that she was making false accusations, and she didn't want to accuse anyone of wrongdoing. She just wanted to find a happy relationship with her husband and understand: Did he transfer to another person or fall in love with the other person? Wishful thinking, whether there is mental cheating, physical cheating, or staying alone, these are very important, but they are no longer important. The most important thing is that if they are consensual, I will bless them with a smile and will never be a third party. As for the children, I will not be less responsible for them! What doesn't matter is if the other person is not in my heart, what do I want him to do?

In the end, Lan Xin bravely expressed her inner thoughts, no longer wronged herself, saved her marriage in her own unique way, and persisted in herself. The husband, who was not good at handling the relationship between men and women, also realized the misunderstanding and ambiguity between himself and his friend, and decisively kept a distance from that friend and stopped contacting him. Now, Lan Xin has opened her own Internet company and is even busier. The difference is that there are some small changes every day. My husband has become more diligent and takes the initiative to share the housework and take care of the children. No matter how busy they are, the couple will still find time to go to the gym to exercise together... Lan Xin said, I am very happy now. , I am also very contented, and I am very grateful to the friend who once wanted to invite my husband to the Maldives~ Without her, I would not be as happy as I am now.

Lan Xin was lucky in the first half of her life. Compared with some women who were frustrated in their marriages, they, like Lan Xin, worked hard and devoted themselves to their families silently, but their endings may not be like hers. In this way, she gained the happiness she wanted. Instead of letting yourself feel wronged, it is better to express your demands reasonably; instead of holding on to the other party's mistakes, it is better to be more generous and let yourself go. For the rest of my life, I will not be wronged or blamed, stick to my heart and actions, stick to myself, and be a happy and generous woman.

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