What should I say when I pick up my children from school?

Picking up children from school is a common thing for any parent. Before starting today's topic, I'd like to ask parents: What's the first thing you ask when you pick up your children from school or when they come home from school?

I have a friend. Every time he picks up his daughter from school, he talks with her children for more than ten minutes, not asking homework or tutoring homework, but these four questions:

1. Did anything good happen at school?

2. What good performance did you have today?

What did you learn today and what good questions did you ask?

4. What can I do for my parents?

Careful parents may have noticed that the questions asked by this father are all positive, which is exactly what I want to discuss with you today-don't think it doesn't matter, what parents say reflects the attitude of adults to life and also determines the trend of children's emotions and outlook on life.

To put it simply, the first sentence a child asks when he comes home from school may affect his life!

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Don't lead children to "victims"

There are many parents in life. The first sentence they received from their children was "Did anyone bully you at school today?" They subconsciously give their children the illusion that someone will bully me.

This phenomenon is especially common among new parents.

Parents are understandably worried about their children's situation at school, but this way of asking questions is tantamount to awakening their children's unpleasant experiences and reminding them when this day was unpleasant and who bullied them.

If parents often ask this question, some children will even tell their parents about their unpleasant experiences every day in order to "meet their parents' needs", just like doing homework.

The direct consequence is that children will pay special attention to and look for those who may "bully" themselves. A child's frightened eyes will arouse other children's thoughts of hitting him, forming the so-called law of attraction.

Once such a vicious circle is really formed, children will really become "victims". In the long run, children are not only unwilling to go to school again, but may even have social fears, behavioral withdrawal and other consequences, which will have a far-reaching negative impact on their lives.

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Fighting between children is not what you think.

On the other hand, even if there is a fight between children, it is normal.

People in the same industry get along with each other for a long time, and it is inevitable that there will be differences. Especially for children with simple ideas, they haven't considered the consequences and don't know how to hide them. The simplest solution for boys is to fight.

In fact, fighting in this case does not include bullying. As long as the teacher or classmates around him stop it in time and find two children alone to understand the situation afterwards, most problems can be solved well.

Parents don't have to worry too much, give their children a chance to handle it by themselves. Occasionally fighting between boys may be their unique way of communication. Didn't many fathers fight when they were young?

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Pick up other issues that children need to pay attention to.

It's time to pick up the children.

Not only is the first sentence important when picking up children, but when to pick up children is also a science.

An expert studying in Hui Mei once conducted a survey and found that the earlier children in the same class were picked up, the more confident they were. Those children who are more backward are more introverted, and some even feel inferior.

Therefore, parents should try to pick up their children at a fixed time, not too early or too late, just be consistent with other parents; If something happens temporarily that day, you must arrange someone familiar with it to pick it up or inform the teacher in time, explain the reason, and get to school as soon as possible after the matter is handled.

Don't bring many snacks.

Some parents like to bring snacks to pick up their children for fear that their children will not have enough to eat at school. This is an open question. Parents always bring snacks to their children, which may make them eat badly at school, because they want to eat snacks after school or "leave room". Over time, it will also affect the health of children.

Instead, you can bring one or two fruits, which can not only help children replenish energy, but also ensure health.

Let the children carry their schoolbags by themselves.

After picking up the child, it is another undesirable move for parents to take over the child's schoolbag. Teachers teach children to do their own things at school, like a little adult, but as soon as they leave school, they become "little princesses" directly. Isn't the teacher's painstaking efforts in vain?

It is his responsibility to believe that children have the ability to carry their own schoolbags and let them form the habit of doing things by themselves.

Education is no small matter, and picking up children from school is actually a science. The younger the child, the greater the influence of parents. Don't ruin a child's life because of his careless words and deeds.