I used to read on QQ that people should not be too kind. From school to marriage, they were bullied for being kind, but later they became less kind and instead were loved and admired. Thanks

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Don’t be too kind

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1F 2013-7-30

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In elementary school, physical education test. A girl in my class asked me to hold her hairpin while she did sit-ups. I held the hairpin tightly in my hand and didn't let go for a second. After she finished the exam, she went to play with others without even saying thank you. ?In the second physical education class, it was my turn to take the exam. I asked this girl to hold the hairpin for me, but she did not refuse. After the exam, I asked her: "Where is my card?" She said: "I lost it." I asked: "Why did I lose it?" She said: "When you were taking the exam just now, they asked me to come over and play, and I ran I lost it while running." So I had to attend class in the afternoon with my hair disheveled, and was criticized by the dean who happened to come over to check my "grooming". The girl, along with the others, looked excited to see me being criticized. ?When I was in high school, I don’t know who said that I saw a driver picking me up, so others began to speculate that I had more pocket money than others. Later, someone asked me whether I would pay back the money I borrowed. I became a creditor, but I had to accompany others to ask for money with a smile on my face. I also had a bad reputation as a "small-minded, unhelpful person". ?When I went to college, I saw that a girl in my dormitory often skipped meals to save money. My shameful kindness came out again... I often invited her to dinner and gave her cosmetics that I didn't use. . A few months later, I heard negative news about me, which was made up by this roommate. ?Later I came to the United States, and my university professors treated Chinese students differently from other students every time. The Chinese students in the same class had nothing to do with him. Until that time, he ignored the big fat white guy closest to him who had been browsing Facebook, but pointed at my laptop and said: "Close the damn thing!"? When class came again, the professor was bragging about his glorious deeds, and I Suddenly I said to a white man who was browsing Facebook: "You, close the damn thing! Listen to the class!" The whole class looked at me like I was a madman. I was ready to be kicked out, but the professor didn't say anything. What. After class, the professor came over and patted me on the shoulder silently. I knew that from now on I would never have to suffer racial discrimination again. ?So I started not being so kind. ?After I became less kind, I lost a lot of cumbersome interpersonal relationships. ?After I became less kind, I blocked people I had not dared to block before. I said in front of other students that a professor was "suspected of threats and fraud." What I received was applause from others and concessions from the professor. ?After becoming less kind, I will not give up my right to speak just because I am worried about "friendship" with others. I have gained more opportunities than before. ?Sometimes, being too "kind" can hurt yourself and make some people who have no bottom line and no conscience take advantage of them. Not everyone in this society has a "good" nature. Some people will not feel guilty or uneasy when they hurt others. They will only laugh at you for being stupid and say that you brought it all on yourself. ?And when you learn to reject others and learn to retaliate in kind, they will respect you and even fear you. ?I finally believed that sentence: There is nothing wrong with being ruthless. ? (This article is taken from Youth Digest 2013 Issue 14)