The mother-in-law went to her son's house to be the queen mother's shelf, and the daughter-in-law was reluctant to go back. Should her daughter-in-law be a nanny?

Some old people do have a common family concept, that is, men are masters of the country. In fact, this is completely understandable. In a patriarchal society, men go out to earn money to support their families, while women, as "wives", are stuck at home, concentrating on taking care of the family, having children, managing housework, being filial to their parents and so on.

In fact, women do not do less than men, but making money and publicity outside are all done by men, and their rights are first-class. The overall planning of family affairs must go through men, who are veritable masters. Why women in the past seldom called their husbands, but called them "grandfathers", which on the one hand confirmed men's family status in the past, and on the other hand showed women's dependence on men.

But now, to be honest, women have long been integrated into society and entered the workplace. What men can do, women can do, and women's minds are more delicate. Some jobs are more promising than men. I didn't mean to elevate women and belittle men. Equality between men and women should be reflected in all aspects. Even if they have their own strengths, the energy contained in both sides is actually flush.

Of course, if someone insists that women are inferior to men in physical quality, petite and thin, and can't bear hardships, then I can't help it. After all, not all women can carry bricks and cement on the construction site.

But this doesn't mean that women can't stick to it and find their own fields without perseverance. Women can also do well, show their abilities in different ways and carry forward the characteristics of women in the new era. Their creativity and contribution to the family will not be lower than that of men. It's just that some old people still can't turn over their old calendars. They always think that men are the right way, and women should not overtake men, nor can they overtake men.

There is a saying that women are the most despised. It's true. They look down on themselves first, and then look down on the whole female group. They think that even if women work, they have no great skills. Then they should listen to men, be honest little women, minimize their attitude and serve men wholeheartedly. This is a woman's greatest contribution to her family in her life.

As we all know, this time is different from the past. If you look down on women, you should also open your eyes and see that women are powerful. It's time for them to open their eyes and shut up.

Xiaoxiao's mother-in-law came to Xiaoxiao's home from her hometown about half a year ago, saying that her son has a bright future in a big city, and she came to enjoy this happiness. In fact, it is true, but Mix's mother-in-law is a clever old lady, but I heard that Mix doesn't know how to do housework, and she specially invited a cleaner to clean it regularly, which made the old lady very unhappy.

On the one hand, I feel extravagant and wasteful, on the other hand, I am dissatisfied with Xiaoxiao's practice of being a daughter-in-law. I am not a good official. I'm here to punish Xiao Xiao. Half a year ago, the old lady came with her head held high and confidence, but unexpectedly, half a year later, the old lady went back despondently. She doesn't care about the rain, even if her son invites her to go back, she won't go back, saying that it's good to farm at home and feed the chickens, and it won't disturb the lives of young people.

What did Xiaoxiao do to make her mother-in-law so scared? In fact, Mix did nothing. As a new wife, she won't do calculations in those women's backyards. If I have to say anything, I can only say that my mother-in-law "knows the times as a hero" and recognizes the form, so she quits.

Let's talk about Mix. Actually, I know Mix. She used to be my former colleague from a small city. She also had a good job before she got married. She writes well. She works as an editor in an online company, and her salary is quite high, about seven or eight thousand. At that time, Mix's boyfriend, now her husband, worked as a technical supervisor in an Internet finance company with a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan, much higher than that of Mix at that time.

Later, after getting married, Xiaoxiao resigned. On the one hand, she doesn't like the atmosphere of the company. On the other hand, she also wants to have a rest. But she is not going to be a housewife and will be raised by her husband. After all, two people are in a big city and haven't bought a house yet. It is not enough to rely solely on the husband's salary.

After resting at home for several months, Xiaoxiao was not idle. She analyzed the audience's preference for the novel industry by using the principle of big data computing that she studied in the company before. She has a writing background and wants to do her old job, but she wants to start writing novels and become a full-time writer in a different way.

She also worked really hard and published two novels a year. By the time of the third novel, she began to become a minor celebrity. Although it is not particularly famous, the salary income has been several times that of a year ago, which is an unimaginable leap compared with the salary of going to work in the past.

It ranges from 30,000 to 50,000 a month, and the minimum is not less than 20,000. She came from behind, far exceeding her husband's level. However, her husband is open-minded and has someone to share the pressure of life for him. Why not?

However, the increase in salary level also means that Xiaoxiao's free time is compressed even shorter. Although she works at home every day, Xiaoxiao is busy late every day and keeps running for ten hours. Therefore, she can't do any housework. Renting a house used to be a bluff. Later, after the couple bought a house, she formally asked for cleaning. Even when eating at ordinary times, the couple are takeout and rarely cook.

After moving into the wedding room, the old lady always wanted to find a time to visit her hometown. There was no hurry at first, but once her husband accidentally exposed their usual lifestyle on the phone. The old lady didn't say anything, but secretly she began to be unhappy. A few days later, she asked her son to buy a ticket and take her home.

When the old lady comes, let Xiaoxiao quit cleaning. She does all the housework by herself and cooks delicious meals at every meal. In fact, Xiaoxiao is quite grateful to her mother-in-law. Her arrival really made home more like home. But before long, Xiaoxiao was unhappy.

Xiao Xiao always lies in bed, and sometimes she doesn't get up all day. In addition to eating and going to the toilet, my mother-in-law will be unhappy after watching it for a long time. She had to go out to buy food, take her around, or simply let Mix not face the computer.

"You are an adult, men go out to work, you nest in bed every day playing computer motionless, others see? You can either find a class seriously or learn to cook, wash clothes and cook with me. I can't be here all my life. Will you continue to order takeout and find cleaning to do housework after I leave? "

Xiaoxiao also explained to her mother-in-law that she has a job online, specifically, she earns a lot of money by writing, saying that she is not playing, she is really working hard and busy, so she won't stop at the computer every day. But my mother-in-law didn't understand, pretended to understand, dismissed it, and felt that Xiaoxiao was fooling her.

In the eyes of the older generation, going to work means going to work, leaving early and returning late every day. Only those who sit in the office can be called work and can be regarded as decent work. Even if she doesn't know what her son does, it must be a special job to know what kind of supervisor his son is, and he can get more than 10 thousand a month. In her experience, it can be said that she is invincible.

As for Mix, I don't know how much money I can earn in a day. Anyway, I just lie at home and do nothing. She felt that Mix was shirking his responsibility, spending his son's money and staying in his room. She was unhappy, so she began to find another job for Mix.

Xiaoxiao and her mother-in-law once said that if they don't consider having children in the past two years, they still have to earn more money to buy milk powder for their children, so that even if they stop working for a year, they won't be without food. But my mother-in-law doesn't agree at all. She didn't hear, but she kept urging Xiaoxiao to have a baby.

In addition, she has been assigning things to Xiaoxiao, learning to cook, learning to clean, and gradually giving everything at home to Xiaoxiao, staring at Xiaoxiao to finish. Xiaoxiao is helpless, but after all, the other party is her mother-in-law. Even if she is very busy, she will still take time to meet her mother-in-law's requirements.

However, the difficulty of her mother-in-law's later request escalated. She wants to learn to wait on her husband. She can't let her husband get himself snacks, small fruits and foot washing water. Some people say it's rude, so she wants to learn to be respectful. Everything is based on her husband's preference. To put it bluntly, she wants to be obedient and honest like a servant girl, wait on her husband and take care of her mother-in-law. But the rain in Mao Mao is unbearable.

"Mother-in-law, I am a human being, and I have dignity. I have to serve him like my grandson. I was raised by my parents. Why? I won't do it. "

Mother-in-law answered neatly and mercilessly: "You eat my son's and live with my son's. You have to listen to whoever makes money in the family. You don't make money, you play at home all day and don't want to have children. How dare you have dignity? " You should listen to my son and me. I've never seen another girl like you. I have to take care of you. "

Xiaoxiao can't stand listening to her mother-in-law talking with the queen mother's airs. She asked her mother-in-law a question, which was the first time in the true sense. "Who earns more money, who is the boss of this family? Is that what you mean, mother-in-law? "

"Yes, why not? If you can earn so much money from my son, more than he earns, then I won't fart, suit yourself. Treat you like a queen. " Smile: "Your family has no throne, and I don't want to be a queen. You'd better wake up, but, mother-in-law, I'm afraid you still don't know much about the situation. You know I bought this house with your son, right? " But what you don't know is that he paid 300 thousand, and some of it was given by you, right? I paid 500 thousand, all of which I earned myself.

Now I also pay the house loan alone, and I pay for the cleaning. Your son's salary is really nothing, and the car loan is already very tight. Do you really think your son can afford such a big family by himself? To put it mildly, this family, but I'm insisting that I can't do it without your son and me. "

My mother-in-law was stupid and didn't say a word for a long time. Later, when she was eating, it was usually very noisy, and as a result, she was silent. The next day, she asked her son to buy a plane ticket and flew back to his hometown.

In fact, a rainy mother-in-law can't be said to be an unreasonable old lady. She is very reasonable, but she knows nothing. She thinks that the daughter-in-law who is idle at home all day is exploiting her son with his money. Rainy is not the kind of woman who is a good wife and a good mother. She doesn't know how to be modest and considerate of her husband, and sometimes she is bossy and disrespectful to her husband. She has no attitude of relying on others at all, which naturally makes her unhappy.

She thinks that since she doesn't make money, she should be obedient, humble, honest and behave like a soft mouth to others. It never occurred to me that Xiaoxiao is not the kind of woman she imagined. She is not only self-reliant, but also has the capital to shout, which makes a greater contribution to the family than her husband.

Still uneducated, eating out of touch with the times, in fact, Xiao Xiao never kept it from the old lady, only blaming her for being ignorant and blind, until her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were so close that she drove her daughter-in-law to no way back and produced substantial evidence that the old lady was dumbfounded.

To tell the truth, it shouldn't have come to this, but if the old lady could be less pedantic and listen a little, it wouldn't have happened. Now I'm running back to my hometown, on the one hand, I'm afraid of losing face consciously, on the other hand, I'm afraid my daughter-in-law will work hard. After all, she let it out, but I didn't know she was shooting herself in the foot. Now I'm afraid my daughter-in-law will settle accounts after the autumn, so I took her away.

But judging from the results, it is actually good. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can't live in harmony, it is naturally the most effective way to reduce family conflicts. Only by staying away from each other can we better distinguish each other's lives, which is also a mistake.

However, the most important thing is that Xiaoxiao is indeed a capable woman. Although she is at home all the year round, she always insists on doing her own thing. She didn't relax herself, because she had a man to support her, and she could resolve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This is also her own credit.

Visible, want to control the family status, women still can't be too slack, have their own career, more important than anything else, marry a good man is icing on the cake, but don't rely entirely on men, otherwise, if unreliable, there is no retreat, is the real call every day should not, call the ground ineffective.