"I never treat my mother-in-law as my own mother." What's good about the way a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along with papi sauce?

Papi talked about how to get along with her mother-in-law in a variety show, which made me feel good about her instantly. All along, I thought she was just a funny short video creator. Unexpectedly, her heart is so intelligent. No wonder netizens say papi is a woman who combines beauty and talent.

I have to say that what papi said revealed quite high emotional intelligence. She said, "My mother-in-law should treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter, and her daughter-in-law should treat her mother-in-law as a mother-in-law." What do you mean?

That means: the mother-in-law should treat her daughter-in-law as her own, just like her own daughter, not as an outsider; Daughter-in-law can't treat her mother-in-law like a mother, because your bad mood can be vented to her mother at will, and she won't feel anything, but she can't vent it to her mother-in-law, who will think you are unreasonable and have a bad temper. You will take it for granted that your mother will do things for you, but your mother-in-law will not.

Papi sauce finally quipped: "Bad emotions are only reserved for my noble mother."

Why is papi's "mother-in-law should treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter, and her daughter-in-law can't treat her mother-in-law as a mother" very good and worth promoting?

One: Mother-in-law regards her daughter-in-law as her daughter, which can reduce the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and bring them closer.

I often hear some grandmothers complaining that their daughter-in-law is not good, too expensive, too lazy and too bad-tempered.

While complaining about my daughter-in-law, I told my son not to touch the water.

As a daughter-in-law, there is no comfort in my heart.

Xiaomei, the daughter-in-law of a neighbor in my hometown, is one day away from my child. She is very diligent. Before the Spring Festival, I was carrying my children to do cleaning, and I was so tired that my back ached. And her husband is lying on the sofa playing with his mobile phone.

Xiaomei was angry and asked her husband to take care of the children, but her husband refused. So they quarreled.

In-laws did not educate their sons, but said to their daughters-in-law, how can men do housework? If you do housework, you will complain about three things. Why not be lazy?

Xiaomei is obviously very tired, carrying her children and cleaning them diligently. If I had to compete, I would be called a slacker and reincarnated by pushing a stroller around.

Xiaomei's in-laws are a typical example of treating her daughter-in-law as an outsider, a nanny and her son as a treasure. A young woman who has no desire for your money and throne has married your family. Don't say she's unhappy. She doesn't even have the least kindness. How can she not let her daughter-in-law feel cold?

If the mother-in-law can treat her daughter-in-law as her own daughter, she will feel sorry for her daughter-in-law's efforts and sympathize with her daughter-in-law for having to take care of the baby and do housework. Teach your son that when he gets married, he must look married and assume the responsibilities of husband and father. Instead of one-sided, maliciously accusing the daughter-in-law and favoring the son, how can there be so many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? How can the marriage of son and daughter-in-law not go on?

Two: if a daughter-in-law doesn't treat her mother-in-law as a mother, she won't take it for granted, and the boundary between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be maintained.

Some emotional bloggers say that you can let go of past grievances, just like your mother-in-law is a mother and daughter. Actually, I don't believe it either. Why do you say that?

Take myself as an example. I have a bad temper. I can be angry with my mother. My mother will call again in a few days to ask questions. To put it mildly, I can take it out on my mother, and my own mother won't mind or hold grudges, but I can't be a mother-in-law.

Try to get angry with your mother-in-law and see if she will act as if nothing has happened. An inarticulate mother-in-law will sulk, pull a long face, and even complain to your husband; An extroverted mother-in-law will criticize her daughter-in-law everywhere outside.

It is not that there is no good mother-in-law, it is human nature.

Blood relationship is a wonderful thing. Without blood relationship, there is no blood relationship, and it is impossible to be as close as mother and daughter. Even blood relatives, such as aunts or aunts, can't treat their mothers like this. You must be respectful and polite.

A mother-in-law is a mother-in-law, your husband's mother, not your mother. Some words and things can't be said and done. After all, there is a layer apart.

There is an old saying: "the daughter-in-law is not good, and the whole world knows it." Only I know whether my mother-in-law is good or not. "

What should I do if my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in conflict?

Two women, because they love a man at the same time, have an intersection, from strangers to relatives.

Mo Yan said: "No kindness, no father and son, no hatred and no mother-in-law."

Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as long as they live together, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions if they look up and see each other. What should I do if my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in conflict?

One: Mother-in-law tries not to interfere in daughter-in-law's life.

Advocating a mother-in-law to treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter does not mean that you can take care of her daughter-in-law, after all, she is not her own daughter. Even your own daughter doesn't want to be supervised by her mother every day.

Daughter-in-law has her own living habits and three views. As long as it is not too much, the mother-in-law can turn a blind eye. Don't play dumb, don't be a housewife.

For example, your daughter-in-law likes to wear high heels. You can let her wear them. It's not you who are uncomfortable. Why do you want your mother-in-law to talk? Although I know it's for my daughter-in-law's sake, my mother-in-law talks too much, and my daughter-in-law will think that her mother-in-law has a problem with her, so the contradiction arises.

Daughter-in-law likes makeup, so let her go. It's not your own money, and you don't say it's your son's money. It hurts. In this case, the daughter-in-law will not like it.

The mother-in-law should know that the daughter-in-law is married to your son. They are husband and wife, and there are economic obligations between husband and wife. Besides, according to the current concept, it is natural for a wife to spend her husband's money. As a mother-in-law, why talk too much? Instead of solving the problem, it intensified the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Contradictions, such as those arising from small things in life, can actually be avoided.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live under the same roof, and it is safest for them to do as much as possible and talk less.

Two: Daughter-in-law should try not to expect too much from her mother-in-law.

There is a generation gap between the two generations. Especially the rural mother-in-law's thoughts, most of which stayed 30 years ago, are still relatively backward compared with today's young people.

It is precisely because of the gap that the daughter-in-law asks too much of her mother-in-law, which will lead to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

My mother-in-law took care of me when I was confined, and then something unpleasant happened between us.

I don't like porridge, but she cooks it every day. I hope I can eat better in confinement, because she can't get used to those expensive vegetables and is reluctant to buy them. I hope she can help coax the baby at night, so that I can rest better and avoid postpartum depression. My husband can have a good sleep and go to work tomorrow, but she hasn't woken up for 30 days to hold the baby at night.

I don't think my mother-in-law has done well enough, but she thinks she has been very kind to me.

She washes my children's clothes, burns my bath water (herbal water for pregnant women) and cooks for me every day, which is good for me. I have no obligation to get up at night to help hold the baby. I want to save money by confinement, but I have paid maternity leave and salary.

So we had a big fight. You can imagine the hatred of the moon.

I am angry, but I am even angrier. If I had known that my mother-in-law could not meet my requirements and achieve the results I wanted, I would never agree to my husband's invitation to my mother-in-law, and I would have spent a lot of money on a new moon.

So I blame my husband for trusting my mother too much. As a result, my husband himself said that her mother-in-law was not as good to me as her sister-in-law.

Nowadays, women are pregnant. After all, it was not 30 years ago. They all want to make themselves feel better. But my mother-in-law embarrassed me, so I have resentment inside.

I am a man, whether I write or not, I am practical, not melodramatic, and I have never taught readers how to get along with my mother-in-law. Nor will it teach readers how to be generous and how to let go of their prejudices. I follow my true feelings, and being unhappy is unhappy.

So I often advise female readers to let your mother-in-law go when you know that she can't meet your standards or requirements. Forcing demands will only make each other more painful.

For example, if your mother-in-law doesn't want to wait on her, don't force her. Think of other ways, either invite her mother, relatives, or pay for a new moon. Yes, next month's hatred will affect your happiness for life.

Three: Try not to live together and maintain respect.

The best way for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along is not to live together. Women naturally like housekeepers and have the right to speak.

When my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together, they will think that I am the hostess of the family. Of course, my husband and son have to listen to me. This family is mine. What's the matter?

My daughter-in-law thinks I married your son, who is my husband. Why can't you listen to me? Those who don't listen to me either don't love me or treat me like an outsider.

In fact, there is nothing wrong with both women. The mistake is living under the same roof.

Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no need to force. The best way for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along with each other is to live separately and greet each other during the Spring Festival. Less contact, less contradiction.

If the mother-in-law can treat her daughter-in-law like a daughter, and the daughter-in-law treats her mother-in-law like an elder, there will not be so many contradictions between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law. Women might as well give it a try.

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