Mom, there is no perfection but one, don't you think?

May your life and mine be a process of gradual development and even flowering, instead of living more correctly but living more narrowly.

Wu Zhihong

Sometimes I envy such a mother: I got the hall and the kitchen; Having children and doing housework can squeeze out some time for fitness and maintenance; Work hard and make progress, and have certain achievements.

Gu Jia in Thirty is such a mother. Taking care of the family, raising children and supporting the husband's career is the ultimate. At the same time, she also insists on exercise, fitness and skin care, and takes care of herself exquisitely.

After all, it's a play. Is there really such a perfect mother in reality?

Express doubt.

But in reality, many people pressed the button above? The standard of the perfect mother? Ask the mothers. As if you are not so perfect, you are an unqualified mother.

Tell me about myself. I didn't look for a job until my children went to kindergarten, but I didn't have much time to play and study with my children after I went to work. I think I will miss my children's growth and owe them something. You can't have both. There have been conflicts before. But I still go to work as soon as I have time to accompany my children.

I think so: you are just a mortal and can't be as perfect as others say. All I can do is: try my best to raise the children.

Mother is not superman, let alone perfect.

Some mothers may feel that when they are perfect, they have raised a perfect child.

In fact, perfection is an idealized state, which is incompatible with reality.

On the other hand, perfect mother and superman mother are not good enough mothers in my opinion.

This will hurt the child.

The perfect mother seems to love her children very much, but excessive force will hurt them.

It will make children lose their independence and autonomy, which will affect their later life.

In this long-term strong state, the perfect mother will be satisfied with her child's obedience. As a result, if the child resists, she will be considered as challenging her authority. Let each other suffer.

This is how Ma Baonan was brought up.

After all, the child's life path should be taken by himself, and the arrangement is not good.

Is it hard to be a mother? Not to be strong, but to always remember the identity of the mother. What children want is warm love and upbringing, not rules and regulations.

Being in a bad mood will affect children.

For example, novice mothers often worry that milk is not enough to give their children the best care, that their carelessness has affected their children's psychological growth, all kinds of worries and anxieties, and regret their mistakes. Stay with your baby every day, he will feel your emotions, and your loss will affect him. The problems of picky eaters and night milk in infancy are all staged, and will disappear after this period.

Other mothers tend to blame themselves for their children's situation. As soon as the child sneezes, he starts to panic. He has been wondering if he slept too dead yesterday, and the child kicked the quilt without knowing it. Especially if the child is sick, but for the sick child, it is physical pain. At this time, he needs his mother's comfort most. If you are in a bad mood, you may ignore your child's needs. What will the children do if they make themselves sick again?

Anxiety and worry will be emotions with high frequency. In the long run, you may be depressed.

A healthy adult should accept his mistakes and even accept the fact that he sometimes hates himself.

Let go of your obsession and be a real mother. 60 points is just right.