What impact will a messy mother and a messy home have on her children?

Everyone has responded to the call to stay at home these days. My friend Xiaomei said that not only has she been depressed these days, but the house has become a mess. Her husband also quarreled with her, saying it was like a pig's nest. Same.

The cause of the incident was that the child threw toys everywhere and did not clean them up, so her husband scolded the child. She stepped forward to persuade her and said, don’t scold the child all the time when she is older than the Chinese New Year, but her husband pointed the finger at her again. He said that she had been so sloppy all day long, which was why the child was so unruly, and finally, the two of them got into a fight.

I know their family. Usually there is a friend’s mother at home, cleaning and picking up toys, etc., so basically the conflict does not appear. At the end of the year, the aunt went back to her hometown for the New Year, and neither of them likes to clean up. , the contradiction arises.

I remember a friend once said: I used to love pretty people so much, but after having a baby, as long as I don’t go out, I can go a day without washing my face! It seems that many mothers feel the same way. After having a baby, on the one hand, they are too tired to take care of cleaning up, and on the other hand, they often don't go out. It seems that they become more and more sloppy.

I remember seeing someone ask a question before: What impact will a sloppy mother and a messy family have on her children?

Let me talk about some of my friends first:

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Once, our family went to play in a large forest park. It was a very long walking path. We walked along the walking path. When we came to a fork in the road, we didn’t know where to go, so we asked a pedestrian who was also walking on the road. He said that we should follow my path. It was just the right way to go, so we started chatting while walking.

He is a soldier, in the army, and his wife is a nurse in the hospital. I remember what he said, which impressed me deeply. He said: A sloppy mother will most likely have an unloving child. The person who cleans up.

Think about it, the combination of soldiers and nurses must make the home very clean.

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I also have a friend who was my best friend in high school. I didn’t think she was very clean when I was in school. After graduation, she went to the south and stayed there for many years. I haven’t seen her before, but I went to her house one time. Her house was kept spotless by her, and it was very refreshing. She talked to me and said that she was also influenced by others because she met an aunt when she was renting an apartment. That aunt was a very tidy person and her house must be kept spotless. Over time, she developed good habits. Now she has a happy family. She doesn’t go to work, but her husband is obedient to her and keeps saying, isn’t it all your fault that the house is so clean?

Man is always in a process of evolution, and the people around him will have a great influence on him. When I was a kid, I didn't have the habit of being neat and tidy. But when I get older, I know that things are beautiful and clean, and things will change.

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The two mothers around me are a bit like obsessive-compulsive disorder and love to be tidy. Mother A said that her children have always had a hand on the wall since they were young. After getting her fingerprints, she would always talk about her daughter. From then on, her daughter basically did not dare to hold the wall.

Another mother, Little C, has a boy at home, but she was also trained to change clothes and shoes at home. Basically, she was not allowed to bring any dust home. At first, her husband complained about it, but later he also I'm used to it, and I often see her showing off her calligraphy in the circle. She looks neat and tidy, and her skills are very evident.

Among celebrities, Wu Xin and Yuan Shanshan, who became famous after participating in "My Girl", both have extremely messy homes. Bao Wenjing is the tidy person who loves tidies the most. When it comes to Yuan Shanshan's At home, I felt it was simply miserable, "like a wholesale market" and "like a pigsty."

You can also see from here that there are many ordinary people who like to be neat and tidy, and many people even have mysophobia. There are also many celebrities who are sloppy, to name a few.

However, from a high probability, a sloppy mother and a messy family tend to have relatively sloppy children

From the time the child is born, even if he cannot speak, Even though they can't walk, they are always observing the people around them. The ones who observe the most are naturally their parents, so they learn to walk, talk, and eat by themselves. These are all children's learning simulations.

If the mother is messy, the children will naturally like to throw things around. Children will have no sense of order

Because the items in the home are scattered horizontally and vertically, children will not have much sense of order and will not be clear.

Children do things in an unorganized manner. When they encounter a little more things, they will be in a hurry. After entering junior high school, the schoolwork becomes heavier and the number of courses increases. The children cannot organize things in order, and naturally their academic performance is also poor. It would be great. Waste time and destroy children's concentration

It is very difficult to find things when the things at home are messy, because you need to rummage around, and the same goes for children. If the desk is very messy, and the ruler and eraser often cannot be found, then Learning is naturally constantly interrupted, and concentration is always interrupted.

However, does a sloppy mother definitely have sloppy children?

This is not necessarily the case. Many sloppy mothers have neat children. This is because the child’s growth environment is actually a comprehensive factor. For example, for some children, the teacher will ask them to be tidy, and the children will gradually become tidy. I have developed a good habit. When I come home and see the mess in my house, I can’t stand it anymore, so I start to clean it up myself.

There are also little boys who, once they fall in love with a girl, will make themselves tall and handsome. This is a beautiful love factor.

Or, a smart lazy mother can also raise diligent children. If a lazy mother is smarter and can make her children have a sense of responsibility and unwillingness to lag behind, the children may be proficient in everything, as long as the mother can Keep praising him: My son/daughter can always share a lot of things for her mother.

Children's growth is a comprehensive process, and most of the children's habits come from their parents' daily habits. Therefore, if parents are used to being tidy, their children will naturally be much tidier.

A tidier room will not only be more comfortable, but will also make the child's life more orderly.