Should middle-aged couples divorce?

I am a divorced and remarried person. I share my experience with you for your reference.

My ex-husband is too ambitious to do anything, he doesn't want to do small things, he doesn't have a family, and he has no sense of responsibility. As the two sons grow up day by day, their expenses are getting bigger and bigger. But he is still wandering in the society, unwilling to put down his face to earn money to support his family, and he doesn't do housework when he gets home, as if this home is mine alone, and nothing needs to be taken care of. I am alone, earning money during the day and doing housework at night, without a good sleep. In spite of this, I still endure it again and again, and I don't want to argue with him, for fear of affecting the growth of my children.

After my two sons were admitted to college, the resentment in my heart could no longer bear my heart. After communicating with my two sons, I filed a complaint with the court and applied for divorce. He refused to leave and vowed to repent and asked me to give him a chance. But after half a year, I didn't change, but intensified. Torture me every day, sue again and get divorced. Later, I found my present husband. We have the same hobbies and live happily. I'm glad that I got divorced before I lived a life as a master. But what I didn't expect was that my two sons verbally said that they would support me to remarry as long as I lived well. But every time I come back from vacation, I don't want to come back to the newly bought house after remarriage. Come for a meal once in a while and leave. I'd rather live in my classmate's friend's house than come to mine. I know they still don't want to accept outsiders at home. So I'm not happy now.

So I advise you not to divorce easily as long as there is no right and wrong problem between husband and wife, and don't remarry even if there is a problem of principle, because the day of remarriage is not as beautiful as imagined, and there will always be such contradictions. Look before you leap.

Should middle-aged couples divorce?

I saw such a case today. A woman said I was 48 years old and wanted a divorce, but my husband didn't agree. Moreover, my two children also advised me not to toss. This is half my life. What should I do if I get sick after divorce and have no wife to accompany me?

But it is precisely because I have endured it for half my life that I don't want to endure it any longer. My husband is that kind of male chauvinism. We are all at work, but he always thinks that women should cook, wash dishes and take care of children. He just needs to go to work and care nothing.

Seeing this case, many middle-aged couples may have had such thoughts of divorce.

I think, if there is no domestic violence and cheating, but we are unhappy and bored together, I don't think it is necessary to divorce, because it is unlikely that middle-aged people will meet love again after divorce, and their career and physical quality are declining. It is necessary to have a companion to take care of them.

What if I don't get divorced? In my opinion, the "cohabitation" relationship within marriage can be maintained. Middle-aged children grow up, and there are basically only two people left in family life. The intersection between husband and wife can be reduced: you can't say what you want, do housework if you want, and don't do it if you don't want. I can travel if I want, and he can stay at home if he wants. In short, he will live together and not interfere with each other.

The purpose of this is to reduce the contradiction between husband and wife, maintain the independence of thought and action, and make family relations relatively harmonious.

In life, many couples who can't talk properly adopt this lifestyle. They live in peace and won't hurt each other because of divorce. Some couples even lived for a while, and their feelings became better and better. Of course, the premise of this way is that you can't hurt each other.

In short, it is not forbidden for middle-aged couples to divorce. If divorce is a relief, a freedom and a relaxation for you and makes you feel comfortable, you can also divorce. Marriage is like shoes on your feet. Only you know whether it is appropriate or not. I just think that the "cohabitation" relationship within marriage is a good choice.

I am 48 years old, and the topic of divorce started shortly after we got married. My relatives and friends advised me to think for myself, and then I put up with it. Time and time again, the child is too young to walk, then the child is afraid of affecting his study, and then the child's understanding and filial piety after graduating from college. In order to have a complete family for my children, I can't bear to leave when I could have left! Everything is for the sake of children, sacrificing the happiness that I want to pursue and can pursue! And we cut off the couple's life twice, the first time for five years, and then four years ago, until now, maybe sleeping in separate rooms will continue. For a normal man, what a torment it is to live a clean life without asking for flowers and plants! I believe many people have felt it! The life of asexual marriage made me suffer from severe depression. The thoughts of suicide, murder and natural death have always been with me. What I want most is never to wake up after sleeping that day.

Married for more than 20 years. In these 20 years, I have wanted to divorce at least five times. The first time I wanted a divorce, I found my husband cheating when I gave birth to my daughter, but in the end I thought about my daughter and put up with it. The rest is because the husband is ignorant of his parents. His parents are unreasonable and gossip all day. My husband has a sister, a brother, three siblings and in-laws. Either the son-in-law and daughter gossip, or the son and daughter-in-law gossip. My husband listens to his mother best because he is the youngest son. My mother-in-law wants her son to crush me. Still saying outside all day that our little daughter-in-law is afraid of my little son! It doesn't matter if I climb on top of my little wife to find something! ! ! Until the first half of this year. I can't take it anymore. I said to my husband. If you listen to your mother like this again, let's get a divorce! I should pay back the money I owed you in my last life. I didn't eat your food for nothing, didn't spend your money, and didn't live in your house for more than 20 years. I said I couldn't take it anymore. We have to get a divorce. We are all 50 years old anyway. Daughter 2 1, son 17. My husband was shocked when he saw that I was serious. Now he has figured it out that no matter how her mother gossips, he will ignore her. However, there are few in-laws like our family in the world. It's really a conscience discovery. But I always thought that God would punish those with bad conscience.

I 15 divorced, and my two sons, the older 16, the younger is only two years old. After the divorce, I came to Beijing alone with my second child. This is really a difficult day. Often, just a few days after going to work, children get sick in kindergarten and then lose their jobs. When the child is well, look for a job. ...

Now I finally got over it, with both children around, and I have long lost interest in marriage. It is better to die alone than to be exhausted with someone who doesn't have the same opinion.

Marriage age is not a distance, and marriage can't last long, so divorce age is not a distance, but don't choose divorce unless you are extremely successful. Divorced, you may not be able to marry someone who suits you. Now let me talk about yourself! At that time, I was divorced. I once boasted in front of my ex-husband: I married a husband ten times better than you in a week. As a result, after more than 20 years, I am still not married myself. The reason is still very simple. There is no suitable candidate for me. The most important reason is that once bitten, twice shy. You have lived together for half your life. Can be said to know the root of the matter, mutual tolerance, mutual understanding. Finally, I hope you think twice. ...

Hello, everyone, I'm Xiao Ernian, a woodcutter. As a member of a middle-aged couple who have been married for 20 years, I am glad to answer this question.

First of all, I will list the realistic situation faced by middle-aged couples, and then discuss whether middle-aged couples should divorce.

First, the emotional state of middle-aged couples

1, most middle-aged couples have lived together 15 to 25 years, and their temper and living habits have almost been adjusted. Whether it's three views, temper, living habits and so on. It has been decided whether to go on happily or calmly.

2. Middle-aged couples change from love to affection because of familiarity, which is the most worthy of guarding.

Second, the occupation status of middle-aged couples

1, the career and career development of middle-aged people, whether working-class or individual industrial and commercial households, party and government organs, state-owned enterprises and institutions ... are basically leaders in various fields or even leaders, or entrepreneurs and private bosses; Even unknown people from all walks of life have accumulated rich experience and contacts.

2. When people reach middle age, because of the unique status and economic accumulation of men, some women will be spoiled and educated.

Third, the wealth accumulated by middle-aged couples.

1, houses, cars, fixed assets, foreign debts, etc. The mountains and rivers laid by two people, together, are as rich as enemies, and both lose.

Fourth, the responsibilities and obligations of middle-aged couples.

1. Middle-aged couples, when people reach middle age, their parents are old, and both husband and wife have the obligation to take care of and support each other's parents.

2. Middle-aged couples, middle-aged people, children are in the state of college entrance examination or college, and middle-aged couples have the responsibility to raise and train their children.

To sum up, responsibility is a belief that every middle-aged couple should stick to. The ancients said, "Do not forget your initiative mind, it's always difficult to keep your original heart if you want to achieve your ultimate goal." . As the name implies, middle-aged couples should learn tolerance and forbearance and achieve each other without major mistakes. The important thing is to persist and wait for each other. Because of the financial resources, the elderly and children, middle-aged couples should know how to stop losses in time when they encounter anything harmful to their families and marriages, so as to maintain the strength of their original families.

So should middle-aged couples divorce? Xiao Ernian said that marriage is like this. If there is no big problem in the marriage of middle-aged couples, who will live with them is better than the vision and passion of obscurity!

Middle-aged couples divorce, economic restructuring, children's family environment restructuring, the future is unknown. Middle-aged couples who want to divorce, can't you stick to your original marriage beliefs and endure for a while? !

Be extra cautious before marriage, and turn a blind eye after marriage, and life will be very happy.

The idea of divorce is in people's minds, and it will happen sooner or later. Without this idea, there would be no divorce.

in my opinion

Divorce hurts a woman more, and she is more painful.

If after divorce, the man marries again soon, and most of the women have to raise children, and the woman reaches middle age, who will you go to?

No matter how old a person is, as long as he has money, he won't worry about getting it back. So to sum up, if two middle-aged people can't get through it and have to divorce, let's separate first, buffer and think calmly about whether the husband and wife still need this home and whether they have the same goal. If so, we must have the belief of "going firmly" and become old partners, so that the family can go steadily.

Whether middle-aged couples should divorce depends on the actual situation. Generally speaking, they have been married for many years and have been stumbling together for most of their lives. It's no big deal that the lock in life is broken. People can't live only for themselves, but also for their children and the people they love. They can't take the road of divorce until they really can't live.

Middle-aged couples divorce, that is, their wives and children are separated, which hurts their children, causing them to feel that they have no home all their lives, which is harmful to their future growth.

The divorce of middle-aged couples has increased the life and mental burden of relatives and parents. Children live happily and worry about becoming old people. Children are unhappy, and old people worry about them all day. There is not a parent in the world who doesn't want their children to be unhappy.

Middle-aged couples are divorced. If they really can't survive, both men and women don't run their own families. They are lazy, don't want to earn money to support their families, spend a lot of money, and have poor economic conditions at home. There are often domestic violence between husband and wife, a lot of debts, and weeds outside. If they don't listen to anyone's persuasion, they will never repent. If they meet, they won't fight or scold, just like this.

Ordinary people live, and every family has its own problems. Life is not easy, do it and cherish it.

The bottleneck period of middle-aged marriage is not fresh, and it is easy to break up feelings. At this time, the following points should be noted:

1: Love is weak, which is caused by family ties.

Faced with the pressure of life every day, their mental state has reached a period of exhaustion. Maybe it's a quarrel over trifles. This kind of life is very torturous. If we want to change this situation, we must find a breakthrough to add fun to life.

With the accumulation of time, love slowly dissipates. Getting along for a long time is enough to know each other, and boredom may be the scene at this time. Maybe the heart is not ready yet, but life has no passion. At this time, we need to do something meaningful to maintain the freshness of marriage and inject vitality into tired feelings.

2. Mutual suspicion and lack of trust

Going to work early and coming back late makes the other person have to doubt dating someone else. Because of this, it is naturally essential to inspect posts, check communication records and monitor each other at all times. If you keep biting each other after explaining, there will be cracks in your feelings.

When people reach middle age, they lose their faces and feel insecure about themselves. So I want to control each other from all aspects to seek inner stability. Do you know that this is really an accelerator for emotional breakdown, and it can also cause complaints? At this time, it is necessary to communicate in time to eliminate each other's concerns and enhance feelings.

In the face of temptation, you can't resist.

After a long period of questioning and complaining, the other party doesn't want to go home and start all kinds of entertainment outside. In the world of flowers and flowers, you will meet some beautiful and considerate people, and then you will feel long-lost happiness. Long-term contact made me trapped in it. In fact, this is because his paranoia has pushed his own people into the abyss and lost the warmth of home.

When people reach middle age, they have made small achievements in their work and the economy is stable, they will begin to enjoy life and be tempted easily. At this time, women should not turn themselves into accessories, but should have their own value. Men should also have a firm heart, face the temptation and wait for resistance.

Message: Marriage is a process in which two people constantly adapt to each other and need tolerance and trust. Both should be managed with care, cherish the present, and it is everyone's responsibility to manage a dull marriage life.