How to express your inner temperament in words?

Temperament refers to the power to attract people.

Whether a person's speech is attractive directly affects whether he is attractive to the other party and whether he has good interpersonal relationships. At the same time, it also affects whether he can show confidence when talking to others and whether he has the courage to speak freely. Therefore, when we train our self-confidence in speaking, we should pay attention to enhancing our charm in speaking.

The content of each person's speech, the materials and means of choosing words, making sentences and conceiving when speaking, the tone and intonation of speech, the posture, gestures and expressions when speaking, etc. Can reflect whether he has the charm of speaking. Of course, due to the limitation of space, it is impossible for us to describe all aspects of the charm of the speech in detail. Now only choose the important ones to introduce.

Let's talk about etiquette first.

The so-called demeanor refers to good manners, gestures and expressions. The way of speaking is the verbal expression of one's inner temperament and the externalization of one's self-restraint. Let yourself speak with grace, which is an important way to enhance the charm of your speech. Good manners are often very attractive. Whether it is the resolute and steady temperament in men's speech or the charming charm in women's speech; Whether it is a diplomat's polite speech or a politician's steady and powerful speech, people will admire and fall in love. As the German playwright Lessing said, "Grace is a special form of beauty."

Confucius said, "Be soft before being rigid." Manner is an appropriate combination of external language and internal temperament. First of all, demeanor is the embodiment of character and education. If a person does not have noble moral sentiments, a certain cultural upbringing and elegant personality, his speech will be vulgar, vulgar and indecent. Secondly, demeanor is the expression of personality characteristics. For example, gentle, tolerant, quiet and considerate people often have strong emotional elements in a few whispers; And those who are bold and unrestrained have a frank and honest temperament and are straightforward. Third, grace is the expression of self-restraint. This is mainly manifested in dealing with interpersonal relationships, modesty, generosity and generosity. Finally, demeanor is a comprehensive expression of a person's words and sentences, tone, gestures and expressions. If the judge speaks in court, he will sit still, be unsmiling, speak like a book and be logical.

There are many ways to speak, rich and colorful. Generous, Kan Kan is elegant, just a few words. Timely delivery is also grace; Talking and laughing, getting high is graceful and gentle, but it is also graceful; It is grace to answer questions repeatedly, and it is also grace to turn the topic around and respond. Speaking gently and politely is grace, and speaking eloquently and heroically is grace. Everyone should make choices according to their own personality, hobbies, thinking ability and knowledge structure when cultivating their own way of speaking. In addition, the same person behaves differently on different occasions and in different environments. For example, there are two different ways for teachers to lecture in class and chat with their families at home.

The way of speaking is human characteristics and conforms to the times. We are opposed to the pursuit of outdated etiquette, and we are also opposed to paying attention to etiquette out of our own personality and identity. Anything flattering, coquettish and without personality is not elegant at all.

In our daily speeches, judgments or lectures, we may encounter such a situation: if this person says the same thing, we are willing to accept it, but if that person says it, we are not only unwilling to accept it, but also somewhat disgusted. Why are these two diametrically opposite results? This actually involves a speaker's attitude, and speaking attitude is the most direct embodiment of the speaker's demeanor.

The effect of talking first.

The purpose of our speech is to tell others what we want to express and make others understand, understand, convince or sympathize with us. If you say something, others won't react, won't be unconvinced, and won't feel disgusted. This is meaningless. I might as well not say it. So, how can we train an ideal eloquence to say that a sentence is a sentence? This requires the speaker to know both himself and the other side, and strive to cultivate an atmosphere of mutual understanding and sympathy.

Perhaps, as we all know, it doesn't matter what the other person says, what matters most is his attitude. If you have a good attitude, everyone will talk to him. Even if he doesn't agree with us and is not satisfied with our behavior, we are still willing to talk to him. If you don't have a good attitude, even the best topic can't go on smoothly.

So, what is a good attitude? Is to have a correct understanding and full sympathy for people. These two points are the basic contents of a good attitude. However, how can we make our understanding and sympathy for people feel each other? The important performance of a good attitude is reflected in this point. If we don't pay attention to this kind of performance, even if we are very compassionate people, we may be regarded as indifferent, proud and selfish by others. It's like we like and care about our friends, but friends don't know anything about it, and as a result, they will misunderstand and complain. This is a very common social phenomenon, which is very sad. Therefore, we should pay attention to what we really look like in the eyes of others, and also try to understand what we want and like in the eyes of others.

So, generally speaking, that is, in daily life, in the normal communication with ordinary friends, what specific performance do others expect us to have?

(1) Others hope that our attitude towards him is friendly and that we are willing to be friends with him; Others hope that we can understand his difficulties and forgive his mistakes; Others also hope that we can care about him, help him, think about his problems, give him useful advice, and become friendly, loyal and enthusiastic friends with him.

(2) People want us to be interested in him and what he has done. Everyone has this hope. Including us. Therefore, we'd better be a person who is interested in everything. Originally, our interests, like ordinary people, are often attracted by people who are interested and interested in talking, while ignoring people and things that are not attractive. If we are compassionate people, we should not be like this. Instead, we should learn to take care of the whole people and pay special attention to those who are not noticed. When we speak, we hope to see everyone present. Our eyes should always be fixed on everyone's face. We should pay special attention to those who say nothing and those who look uncomfortable. We should try to talk to them about some topics to ease their tension and anxiety.

In a word, others hope that we are interested in what he said and that we have a friendly and good attitude. As a successful speaker, we should try our best to do this. Giving people a good attitude when you speak is the guarantee to show your charm.