My husband comes home at midnight every day.

Good evening, beautiful and clever doll teacher. There is a very difficult problem recently, I don't know how to deal with it, and I want to win. My husband and I have been married for several months. During pregnancy, I didn't go to work for the time being. After marriage, I lived with my parents-in-law and got along very well. They are all very kind to me, and my heart is full of gratitude. My husband is one year younger than me, but he has basically completed the men's competition and is young and promising.

Except for his bad temper, he is very kind and generous to me, and he has never been philandering. I trust him very much. And my requirements will basically be met, and our feelings are highly concentrated. But because he runs a company in business, he is usually too busy to stop during the day. Sometimes there will be entertainment in the evening. I know all this. I never bother him when he is busy, and I am very supportive of his career.

But when he doesn't need to socialize after work, he also eats and drinks with friends, or occasionally plays mahjong with friends (twice a month on average). So I basically eat out every night and come back at midnight 12+0: 02. I have always made him feel guilty by coquetry or gentle reminder, or injustice.

He promised to change the status quo. But not much has changed. So I really don't know how to increase our time together. Let him spend at least two days a week with my parents and me? What should I do? Or leave him alone? I really don't want to sulk or cry every day. It is not good for the baby's development. Thank you, doll sister. Bow to you. I wish your studio better and better.

Wawa's answer:

Obviously, social activities such as eating, drinking and playing mahjong with friends are very happy for your husband (but it doesn't mean that he is right to do so). If you try to reduce the communication time he thinks he is happy and increase his family time with you and your parents, you need to provide him with the same or even higher degree of pleasure as playing mahjong before he will come back willingly.

What is "higher pleasure"? For example, when a male diaosi marries his dream goddess, does he choose to play cards and drink with friends after work? Or go home with the goddess? The answer is self-evident.

In this relationship, low PU is your strong point, and high MV is not your strong point, so my husband always wants to go out to drink and play cards with friends. A "gentle reminder" of this matter is not a long-term solution. In the long run, he may even think that you are always pestering him, thus losing the advantage of low PU.

Therefore, I suggest that you start with improving the MV to enhance the attraction of you and your family to your husband. For example, although you are pregnant, you can dress yourself up beautifully, cultivate more interests and topics with your husband, do more interactive games between your baby and your husband, and make your family more tidy and warm, which will be more helpful than simply using low PU to discourage you.

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