After three years of remarriage, I finally understand why many women want to remarry in their later years.

When people reach a certain age, it is a very painful experience if they lose their caring wife. The older people get, the more afraid they are of loneliness, afraid of staying at home alone every day and being surrounded by endless loneliness. Those old people who have lost their wives, in order to get rid of their loneliness and loneliness, have the idea of finding a second wife for themselves and put this idea into action.

The old man expects his second wife to spend her old age with kindness and love, just like her first wife. But reality often teaches the old a cruel lesson, because the facts are not as beautiful as imagined.

sixty-five-year-old uncle Chen said that it took him three years to remarry his second wife before he found out that the purpose of her remarriage was not simple. It turns out that the purpose of her remarriage is not to live a good life, but to have other plans.

Grandpa Chen:

I'm 65 years old and a widowed single old man. I have a monthly pension of 8, yuan, and I live alone in a big house of more than 1 square meters.

I have a son and a daughter. My children are very kind to me. They come home to visit me every now and then, buy me delicious food, help me wash clothes and clean the house.

Many people say that I am so lucky, saying that my pension is so high that I can't spend it all by myself. My children are also very filial, and my life can be called soaking in a honey pot. However, I don't think my life is very good, but I often feel very upset.

the reason why I get upset has nothing to do with money and material things. The source of my irritability stems from the emptiness of my spiritual world. I miss the days when my wife was alive and every day when I talked and laughed with her.

since I lost my wife, I have been depressed every day and feel empty. I really want to find a woman to take my wife's place, but my children don't agree with me to remarry. They say that I live a good life alone, have enough money, and they take care of me so much. Why do you want to find a woman to add trouble to yourself?

My children don't understand my mind at all. Although I am old, I still have a longing for the spiritual world. People are different from animals. Animals only need to eat and drink enough. People need spiritual nourishment in addition to meeting their physical needs.

In order to enrich my old age, I have discussed the issue of remarriage with my children countless times, but no matter how hard I argued, my children always answered me with one sentence: "I don't agree!"

in desperation, I had to secretly find myself a second wife without telling my children, and only after I got the marriage certificate from her did I inform my children.

When my children learned that my second wife's pension was only over 1, yuan, and that the only house had been used as a wedding room for my son, they called me stupid. They said that the reason why my second wife is willing to marry me must be because of my money.

I don't think my sons and daughters understand the love of our elderly people at all. I firmly believe that my second wife will happily marry me because she loves me and admires my personal charm.

although I am 65 years old, I am still attractive to women. My second wife was chosen by me among many suitors. My children don't know that I am a hot potato in the marriage and love market.

At the beginning, after I posted my personals on the blind date corner in the park, I received numerous phone calls from single women. They said that my personal conditions are very good and I hope to associate with me.

I chose the youngest aunt Cao from many suitors. I decided that she would be my second wife because she was not only diligent, but also never asked me for money.

even though we talked about getting married, she didn't ask me for three gold coins like those material women, asking me to add her name to the property. She only asked me for a bride price of 1 thousand yuan, saying that she asked me for a bride price, not because she was greedy for my money, but just to look good.

From all the performances of Aunt Cao, I think she is not a materialistic woman who is greedy for money at all. She really wants to live a good life with me. However, my children are stubborn. No matter how I explain it, they still don't believe what I said, and they still force me to divorce Aunt Cao.

My children lost patience with me because I refused to divorce Aunt Cao. In the past, my children often came home to visit me. Since aunt Cao and I remarried, they seldom go home to visit me.

although my children visit me less often, I am not annoyed, but happy. Aunt Cao and I are in the middle of our wedding honeymoon, and the days are so sweet that we have no time to care about the thoughts of our children. If the children don't come, Aunt Cao and I can live our two-person world with peace of mind.

Happy days always pass quickly. In a blink of an eye, Aunt Cao and I lived together for a year. During this year, Aunt Cao took good care of me. She is a hard-working woman. She keeps her house in good order every day and looks very pleasing to the eye.

however, the weather is unpredictable. One day, Aunt Cao received a phone call from her stepson and told me that something had happened to her stepson, so she hurried out of the door. After an hour or so, Aunt Cao called me and said that her stepson had fallen off the ladder at home and needed 1, yuan for surgery.

She told me in tears that her stepson has no money and she has no money. If I don't help her, my stepson will not live. I asked Aunt Cao, "Didn't I give you a hundred thousand dollars as a bride price? Why not take out the bride price money and operate on the stepson? "

Aunt Cao sobbed and told me that the 1, yuan I gave her had already been spent by her stepson. My stepson has been unemployed for a long time. During that time, all he spent was the bride price money I gave him.

I offered to see my stepson's injury, but Aunt Cao refused me without hesitation. She said her stepson couldn't see me because he never liked me.

I always knew that my stepson didn't like me. Before I remarried with Aunt Cao, she once told me that she had been single until now because of her stepson's obstruction.

Although his stepson's father died many years ago, he didn't want his mother to remarry, and he wanted her to stay with him all his life. Aunt Cao told me about this matter and kept it from her stepson until we got the marriage certificate.

That's why my stepson hates me and thinks I stole his mother. I think this is why Aunt Cao gave her stepson a bride price of 1, yuan. Because she felt guilty about her stepson, she wanted to compensate him with money.

Although I can't meet my stepson, I believe everything I said to Aunt Cao. We have lived together for a year, and I have established full trust in her. Therefore, I have no doubt that my stepson is ill.

adhering to the principle of "saving a life is better than building a seven-level pagoda", I transferred 1, yuan to Aunt Cao and asked her to operate on her stepson. After her stepson finished the operation, Aunt Cao asked me for 3, yuan every month. She said that her stepson needed a half-year recovery period, during which he could not go to work to earn money.

if a good deed is done to the end, send the Buddha to the west. 3, yuan is not much, so I readily agreed. Everyone gave Aunt Cao 3, yuan on time, and asked her to give it to her stepson for living expenses.

Half a year later, Aunt Cao said that although her stepson recovered, he could no longer do hard work after being injured, so it is very difficult for him to work now.

She said that her stepson has taken a fancy to a project, and as long as she is willing to spend money and invest, she will definitely make a lot of money. She asked me to give her stepson 5, yuan. When her stepson makes money, she will definitely return it to me with interest.

without saying anything, I transferred 5, yuan to her. I fully believe in Aunt Cao's character, and I believe that my stepson will be able to pay me back. However, after two years, Aunt Cao never mentioned the matter of returning my money.

I couldn't help it, so I asked her why she didn't pay me back. She said that her stepson's business was lost and she had no money to pay me back. As soon as I heard it, I was anxious, saying that you promised to pay me back, and this money must be paid back.

since I forced aunt Cao to pay back the money, she has been arguing with me all day, saying that I don't regard her as a family. She said that all her good sisters, the second married wives they found were richer than me, and they spent a lot of money generously. Only I, who spent money on digging and searching, had no masculinity.

In a fierce quarrel, I accidentally pushed Aunt Cao to the ground. Get up and wrestle with me, and I will be covered in blood. Tired of playing, she left home swearing. Since then, she has never come home and disappeared from my sight forever.

I really want to go to my stepson's house, get Aunt Cao back and ask her clearly, why did she treat me like this? But I have never been to my stepson's house, and I don't know where his house is.

I want to go to court, but on second thought, Aunt Cao and I are family. Who will help me with this lawsuit? I had to give up the idea.

Now I live in regret every day. I regret that I didn't listen to my children at the beginning, and I am in such an unbearable situation today. I didn't expect Aunt Cao to be such a person. On the surface, she was so good, but in fact she was full of bad water, which made me resentful by my children and ended up with both money and people.

Conclusion:

When you are old, you must be careful about finding a wife. Never lower your expectations for your partner just to find a wife. When the elderly remarry, it's best to find a wife who matches their own economic conditions, so that no one can care about anyone and can live without distractions.

if the economic disparity between the two sides is too great, it is easy for both husband and wife to have a crisis of trust. If the party with good economic conditions is "taken advantage of" by the other party, it will think that it is being used and doubt the purpose of the other party's remarriage. The party with poor economic conditions, if the other party is unwilling to pay, will think that he is not really in love with himself, resulting in the psychology of being cheated.

The best marriage, whether it's the first marriage or remarriage, must be one with equal economic strength. A marriage with equal strength will be easier to understand each other and gain respect from each other, and the marriage will be more stable.