How to treat "don't envy others, because what you see is only appearance"?

The head of the company's customer service department, young and beautiful, is a mother, and there is a Mercedes-Benz shuttle service all day. Every time I go to the company, I will say how good my husband is, give him 520, 13 14 red envelopes, buy her aj, buy her a bag, prepare to take her abroad, buy her a diamond ring and so on. Whenever it comes to family affairs, she always shows off at company dinners. Later, I learned that Mercedes-Benz picked up her concubine instead of her husband. Her husband rides a battery car all day to take the children to school. Because of her busy work, she studies foreign languages with concubines at home.

The company has a vice president, a semi-old Xu Niang native, who is a little feminine and does nothing all day. One mouth is brand-name bags, brand-name shoes, what children go to aristocratic schools, travel abroad that day, how much jewelry to buy, and the circle of friends is full of high-end clubs and beauty salons. I thought she was beautiful and capable, and found a rich husband. I didn't know her husband was an ordinary worker until her online gambling embezzlement was revealed, and the benefits in the factory were very bad. With a salary of about 2,000 yuan, he was crowded with his parents-in-law in a shabby neighborhood. I really admired this kind of person at that time.

There is a young man in the company who drives a Volvo, giving the impression that he never cares about money, eats dinner all day, and goes out to various bars and nightclubs. He has a dragon tattooed on his body, a big gold ring on his hand and a big gold chain around his neck, giving the impression that he is a rich second generation. Of course, he himself said that he was a rich second generation. Later, I took a fancy to the beauty business of a disco and went to pay tribute all day. Finally, he paid tribute with public funds, and the company lost tens of thousands of dollars in payment. The boss asked his parents to come to the company. Only in our company did he know that his parents were laid-off workers, one was a security guard and the other was a cleaner, and his mother cried her eyes out. He told us to pity them and ask them to pay less. Later, I learned that Volvo was driven by his friend.

These are three real cases, so saying "Don't envy others, because what you see is appearances" is an absolute truth in most cases. You can't see people who are really happy or happy, because they are enjoying life, not showing their false selves.

Every family has a hard experience, and everyone will be killed. The poor have the sufferings of the poor, and the rich have the troubles of the rich. The highest is easy to do, and the lowest is easy to do. Even those who have unlimited scenery and happiness in front of them must have unknown sadness in their hearts. It is best to learn to be bold and strive for a good day.

Many people in life care about face. Once they fall in love with you, they will be unscrupulous. When they see someone else buying a new car, 200 thousand or 300 thousand, they will be moved. How envious they are when they see others buying a new house. Have you actually considered your actual ability?

This phenomenon is the general wind, can not stand the glare of others, can not control themselves. I have met many such friends, but I only regret buying a house.

The salary of husband and wife is around 7000-8000, with two children, a junior high school and a primary school. There may not be much money for studying now, but the food for two children is more than 1000, and the house is about 2500. There are also property management fees, utilities, parking fees, living expenses and so on. It's almost spent, and I dare not spend it at ordinary times. The child is not normal to see a doctor. It is really necessary to have a healthy family and a stable husband and wife's work!

It was hard to see the smile on my friend's face before, and sometimes I joked: You are a city dweller now! He always said I was being sarcastic.

Really don't envy others, because what you see is only the appearance!

"Don't envy others, because what you see is only the appearance", which is true in reality.

Take a relative I once met as an example: She doesn't care how many people introduce good local families. She envies the superiority of urban families. After many years, I occasionally met her and sat at her house. Her family is a suburban farmer, but not much better than the in-laws introduced by the locals. She is still a housewife, with children doing housework and cooking for students in a nearby school during the semester. It's also hard.

Under the background of the times and the framework of professional structure, families and people are basically equal, which is the cultural quality difference between the rich and the poor in the region, but each has its own strengths and way of life; Everyone should stand on their own feet and learn from others' strengths, instead of just appreciating the glamorous side of others and not understanding the real side of real life behind others.

And every normal person is confident and self-respecting, always showing his glamorous side to others, and hiding it will not let people know that he is not "ugly." Unless he applies to the government for relief, he will call suffering poverty because no one will be kind to you easily.

Learning from others' strengths can make you progress and progress, but just admiring others will make people impetuous, lose self-confidence and be tired of learning, and even breed "pink eye" jealousy, which will become a negative side.

So I think the sentence "Don't envy others, because what you see is all appearances" is very reasonable, and as a high-quality problem creator, every problem is really high-quality and weighty.

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I quite agree with this sentence. There is a couple in our community who are inseparable all day. Every time I go out, it's a woman with a man's arm on her shoulder, talking and laughing, looking enviable.

Although no one knows what their husband and wife do, they all look like intellectuals from the outside. The man is tall, thin and even, slightly fat and handsome. Women's long hair shawls, fair skin and charming smiling eyes give people a gentle and innocent girl appearance.

Those of us who are on duty in the community will praise them and guess what they are doing every time we see them coming out and going in.

Once they asked where to pay the property management fee. Sister Chao asked, "Are you new?" The man replied, "No, I just rented it." Looking at their distant backs, Sister Chao said, "You see the relationship between husband and wife is so good, and I have never seen anyone act alone."

One day at noon, we were preparing to go home and cook, when a 1 10 police car drove into the community. We thought it was a post inspector and stopped quickly. I saw the police car driving all the way to a building. After a while, a slightly fat middle-aged woman and several men came out and got on the police car. Then the couple came out and saw the woman crying and scolding the man for being heartless and not knowing how to protect himself.

It was several days before we realized that this was a fake couple. The man is married and the woman is a third party. The man was divided into six suites, one for his own home and five for rent. When he is rich, he finds a divorced woman to rent a house and live a "husband and wife life". The wife at home searched for a long time to find this place, and she took several brothers-in-law to "property".

Who would have thought that the enviable "sweet couple" turned out to be "couples" who could not see the sun.

So don't envy others, we can only see the most "glamorous" side of the appearance, and the pain, sadness and disappointment hidden under the beautiful appearance are only clear to ourselves.

There are many such people around me, wearing brand-name clothes and shoes and smoking good cigarettes! Do you really think how rich they were at first? After a long time of contact and understanding! I knew it wasn't like that Most people will pretend!

I have a small hair, almost as big as my brother, and my business virtue is awesome! Bad character! When I was a child, I especially reacted to his arrogance and arrogance. Once stabbed me with a knife and I ran away. After a long time, I think it's ok! I can seize the opportunity. I don't wear much in summer. I take a triangular belt covered with small screws.

I came to him quietly. When he found me, he wanted to run, but it was too late. Let me smoke and roll. Call mom! Don't be afraid to make fun of me anymore. Later, my wife and I also did business! Often together * * *! Really, such ugly words are hitting people! No memory! I still owe my mouth. Pretending to have money outside, most people can really be fooled by him. I know best how shameless he is!

When doing business with money, go home and force his parents to lend him money, or lie on the ground and cry! You said that people who are married and have children are still like this, wearing suits and ties, like a rich man! I didn't even look him in the eye. God may have eyes, but then business lost, the house was sold, the wife divorced, people were down and out, and people were much more honest. Give the children to their parents and wander the streets all day! Nobody wants to talk to him.

Don't envy others, because what you see is only appearance. It really is! Some people's dazzling appearance in real life is just the tip of the iceberg! Such people are really enviable! Most of us don't know the story in their secret corner!

Really rich people keep a low profile! For example, the boss of my company, whose family business is hundreds of millions, dresses casually and throws it into the crowd like a big brother in the countryside! No car, very ordinary and low-key person. When we were together, many people thought I was the boss! There are many advantages over him in appearance! But I don't have this ability! His success is an opportunity and a vision! When many people didn't know the business opportunity, he had already started to do it. I especially admire him. He is a very fair and good man and appreciates my ability. He gave me one of his stores to do! But I refuse to do so! There are many factors!

Called me many times and wanted to talk to me! I sent my deputy to find me, but I refused. Many people think I am awesome! I am jealous, too. I don't like to get involved in his affairs! Then I made an excuse to quit. When I first met him a few years ago, I also asked him how his business was. Also understand some problems! Then I told him: If I were you! Rent out the whole shopping mall, the annual rent is about10 million, and then concentrate on a career! Because he also has restaurants, hotels and mines outside. It really exhausted him! Plus his people are disloyal! I can see this clearly!

The year before last, the boss may have figured it out and really did as I said, renting out a five-story shopping mall building. Makes me feel very happy! Tell me to have a drink! I said busy, no time. Once I met his vice president and said to me: You really have no face, which made the boss very angry with us. Now you can see that the boss has stopped doing this business and runs restaurants, hotels and mines! I often talk about you, and I hope you can come back. I can only say some polite words! Now that I am retired, my life is quite casual and free. I don't want to be so worried and tired! Then the vice president asked for my phone number! Contact often in the future!

I never contacted them again! Even if you don't answer the phone, you can't tell me why. Maybe it's my unique and special personality. No wonder the female colleagues in the company used to say that I was like a ghost, mysteriously coming and going in a hurry! This is really my life, like a person! Some friends haven't contacted for a long time! Confusing? But I live happily! We should not envy everyone, being the best of ourselves is far more important than anything else, and what we see in life is not true!

I have a friend with fair skin, long legs and beautiful body.

Dress tastefully, the bag on the back and the shoes on the feet are not cheap, driving nearly 200 thousand private cars, with exquisite makeup, petty bourgeoisie and generous hands, giving people the impression of being quiet, happy and well-off

But in order to start a business, she sold her house before marriage and failed to start a business. She not only lost all the money for buying a house, but also lost all the savings at home.

Because the family lost money and her husband was dissatisfied, it led to cold violence in the past two years.

Now I go out to work, and my income is not high. Although my income is not high, it is impossible to save. I take this sentence as my motto.

Don't take a taxi if you can drive, don't take the subway if you can take a taxi, don't take the bus if you can take the subway, and don't walk if you can take the bus.

Earning money and spending it yourself, basically moonlight, regardless of family expenses, further led to the dissatisfaction of her husband and mother-in-law. Her husband always wanted a divorce, but she didn't have the confidence to divorce, so we'd better wait and see.

A woman who is almost 40 years old plays a good hand with her strength.

Many colleagues in the company only see her charm and envy her. Only a few people know that her life is really full of holes.

Don't envy others, because what you see is only the appearance and taste, and only you know it. [Cover your face]

People envy because others have it and they don't.

In our eyes, people who envy us have a good life, at least better than us.

When we look at other people's lives, what we see is both visible and invisible, which may be true.

I have a friend whose husband is very capable. Many years ago, his salary was an annual salary, and his salary card was given to his friends.

My friend's husband works in other places and seldom comes back several times a year. My friend's life is very leisurely. She doesn't go to work, so the children have nothing to do after school. Generally, I go to practice yoga in the morning, take a nap in the afternoon, go shopping or beauty, and basically eat, drink tea and play mahjong in the evening.

Many women envy their friends' lives, but I know that their friends are not happy.

My friend and her husband live in two circles. She wanted a divorce, but her husband refused for various reasons.

My friend longed for love, and then she had a lover. But this sneaky love is not what she wants. What she wants is the warmth of home.

Once, my friend told me that he envied me for being busy and full every day.

What my friend said surprised me a little. At that time, I was tired into a dog every day and often left without telling them. I also envy her ease and comfort, but I didn't expect her to envy me.

From then on, I realized that it is not easy for everyone to live, so I seldom envy others in the future.

Later, when I met more people and things, I felt it was unnecessary to envy others. Behind the glamour of many people is the bitterness and helplessness that outsiders can't see enough.

Don't envy others, maybe what you envy is just an illusion. Or perhaps, others are envious of you and envy your illusion.

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Let's start with an example of a friend around her. She earns about 50,000 yuan a month, and she is a strong woman with a legitimate career, and her working hours are free! I'm so envious! But after really understanding her working state and life, I really should say: Don't envy others' lives casually, what you see is really superficial! I met this friend because I bought insurance for my baby. Six months after the baby was born, I was introduced to this friend because I wanted to buy a critical illness insurance for my baby. She is as old as me, but obviously has the temperament of a strong woman and unusual maturity. I thought she was very professional at that time. She wears a suit every time she meets, which gives people a mature and professional feeling. After several times of communication, I felt that she was very professional and sincere, so I bought insurance for her children.

At that time, besides talking about insurance, we also talked about income. This friend said that she earns about 50,000 yuan a month, and every month is a little different. Last year, the total income was 900 thousand. I was shocked! Such a high income is a golden collar in our northwest city! She said that she grew up in the countryside, with a low education level, and was a junior college student. However, it took 65,438+00 years to gradually accumulate customers, which led to the present achievements.

After listening to her words, I was envious at first, and part-time job was worship. University? Annual salary of 900,000? It simply refreshed my cognition. Is it so profitable to do insurance sales? That's great. At that time, I even had the idea of selling.

Insurance companies have many activities. I heard that this friend's team is also famous for holding activities. Because I bought her insurance, I became her customer and participated in several activities organized by her, and I became familiar with them one after another. I have a real friend in the back, and I found that she earns 50 thousand a month, which is really hard earned. Apart from worldly expenses, she actually took more than 10000 a month, which is really not much compared with her efforts.

I remember one time, I took my children to an indoor pizza making activity organized by her, and the atmosphere was really good that day. The event was held in a restaurant with a good atmosphere. They should have booked the venue. There are only more than 20 customers with children, and the others have not eaten. At that time, I only paid 30 yuan for manual work, and there were no other expenses. When the children make pizza, a professional teacher takes them to do it. After eating the pizza, they can eat it directly or take it away. This friend's team also sent a set of watercolor pens to each child!

At that time, I thought it was great value, the venue was huge, the activities were rich and interesting, and I also sent pizza and gifts, far exceeding 30 yuan!

Later, when I chatted with her, I realized that they had to pay back the money every time they held an activity, because the money collected from our customers was simply not enough! The venue needs money, the gift needs money, and the owner needs money. My friend said that she holds two or three activities a month, and usually sends about 5000 yuan! God, I asked her if it was worth it. She said with a smile: it is difficult for customers to make an appointment now. As a team leader, we should also do activities well. I hope you can bill more. Truth is not easy.

In addition, I heard that this friend works very hard. She told me that her own goal is to meet three clients every day, and she won't go home until she meets them. Sometimes, in order to wait for a client, she waits until 8 pm from 6 pm to communicate with the client. Often go home after 10, and often haven't eaten yet!

I have been to her home once, and I was shocked after I entered the door! Their two-bedroom apartment is big enough for three people. I didn't expect my friend to say that she and her daughter live in the bedroom at night, and her husband has no place to sleep in the living room! I said, isn't there another bedroom? She said the room was full of presents for customers! I opened the door and saw, boy, it's really a room full of games. She devoted all her time and life to sales.

She often says that she is very sorry for her children, that she spends too little time with her children, or that she is on her way to meet customers. The 6-year-old child is very clingy and loves to cry, which is related to her lack of company.

Last year, she spent 250,000 yuan to send her daughter to the best private primary school, and spent more than 80,000 yuan a year on her children! For a grassroots person, she really tried her best! But the price she paid for this was chronic stomach trouble and deliberate relationship.

This friend said that when I was a child, my family was in the countryside and I was very poor. Now I want to change the status quo and create a good environment for my children. She means what she says! She works hard. I heard that it was 40 degrees in summer, and she drove to see her clients to give gifts. Her shirt is soaked through! I think she works too hard, but she says it's nothing. You have to work hard to make money!

Ask yourself, can you eat, sleep and work in the remaining time? Can we start with the relationship between interest rates? 10 Can I meet my customers, rain or shine? The answer is no, I can't stand this crime.

I don't envy her life with a monthly income of 50,000 anymore, because she really paid too much for this income, sacrificed the time of parents and children, invested too much energy, tried to get along, gave gifts, and engaged in activities (pre-planning, stepping on the spot, team deployment, on-site hosting, fund-raising and so on). ). This money is really not earned by ordinary people!

As the old saying goes, if you want to get ahead in front of others, you must suffer in front of others! It's really true! It is better to envy yourself than others. Jealousy is a kind of self-distrust, a comparison between one's own shortcomings and the advantages of others, and an external display of others, which adds troubles to oneself, creates stress in life and makes oneself lose self-confidence. Envy yourself, you will be full of pride, have a clear direction, and you will sail far and wide.

It is better to bless others than to envy them. Any success is by no means accidental. The sweat behind it and the hardships it has experienced cannot be shown to people, only the glory of others after their success. Bless others with a broad mind and inspire yourself with other people's experience. One day, victory will come to you.

It is better to bless yourself than to envy others. Turn envy into motivation, work hard and be practical, and win success with your own sweat. Bless yourself, on the road of life, cut through thorns and sing along the way.

Believe in yourself rather than envy others. The sunshine is always after the storm, and I walk alone, envious that others can't help me. Believe in yourself, life will not treat you badly, and exchange actions for the sweetness of life.

The mountain is beautiful from a distance, but I become a mountain from a close look. No one gives you wings in life, only you are strong and confident, persistent in pursuit, and create new magic in the ordinary.