Without contrast, there is no motivation.

There is an old saying that there is no harm without comparison, and people all take it seriously.

but in my opinion, it should be "no contrast, no motivation".

for example, people nowadays like to talk about money, so let's talk about money.

According to the old saying, if there is no comparison, there will be no harm. When you see that others have more money than you, you feel hurt and depressed. This is what the old saying means.

But, what good can negative emotions like injury, depression or even envy, jealousy and hatred do you? It can only make you fall into decadence and cannot extricate yourself.

Since your parents didn't help you, if you have another blx, it will be extremely fragile, then there is still hope for a wool ball in your life!

either, you accept your fate, feel that it's not bad to have a dull life, and it's also good to hold on to your little happiness, so don't envy others for their jewels.

or, if you don't accept your fate and work hard, you can't be a rich second generation, so let the person you gave birth to become a rich second generation. When you succeed, you don't have to envy anyone, do you?

But you just collapsed there, pointing to the sky and complaining about others. How can I put it? You complain about your parents, that God didn't give you a chance, that you are eccentric and won't like you, that your parents are incompetent, that is, you don't blame yourself for not working hard. You are a waste.

are you "hurt" just because you are compared with others? The injury is also divided into people. Some people are injured and simply can't afford to fall to the ground, and others, by taking care of their own wounds and standing up bravely, will become stronger. Just like the saying I highly admire, "All that can't beat you will eventually make you stronger".

There is another sentence that I summed up myself. Later, I actually saw similar words in some books and articles. Although the expressions are different, the main spiritual core is the same. I can't help feeling that I still have the potential to be a wise man, haha.

This sentence means that you are the only one who can defeat you in this world.

take me to the gym as an example. When I first arrived, I was a greasy middle-aged woman weighing 15 pounds. In my mother's words, the waist and ass were like that big millstone. The average figure of people seen in the gym is ten times higher than that of people we see in the street.

If I also "no comparison, no harm" and feel very hurt, I might as well go home to Ge You and be paralyzed. Anyway, I am like this. What will be the result? There is no doubt that it can only get fatter and fatter. Maybe it is 18 kg now.

but I didn't. I regard the good figure here as my motivation and the goal I must achieve. Be sure to stick to the gym and take the initiative to find excitement.

because what I think about is the good figure of others, and I don't know how much time I spent, how much hard I worked and how much I sweated secretly. What about you? When others are sweating like rain, you eat seaweed every day and lie down in bed when you have time. What's so strange about your figure? What is there to be wronged?

During this period, I tried all kinds of methods, took detours, and thought about giving up countless times because I couldn't eat delicious food as I liked before. But I finally persisted. Today, my weight is 115 Jin, minus 35 Jin.

Now look at the people in the gym. Of course, I mean women, because women's bodies are not comparable to men's. Here's a little joke. One day I saw two boys practicing an instrument. They should have been practicing for a long time, because the chest muscles are already thick and stylish. Because I don't know how to use this instrument, just watch it.

one of the handsome boys thought I wanted to use it, so he asked me, "Do you want to use it"? I quickly said, "No, I don't know how to use this, so I'll take a look." Then I asked, "Where do you want to practice this move?"

I didn't expect his answer to make me run away. He said, "It's to make the chest muscles thicker." Oh, my God, I said, "We're going in the opposite direction, so I don't want to practice." They both laughed, so I stopped watching and went to practice something else.

Yes, if a woman has thick pectoralis major, she is not a monster.

Now people who look at the gym find that fewer and fewer people are in better shape than me, while more and more people are in worse shape than me.

because I'm getting better and better.