The only way to relieve worries is work

Freud once said that the only important things in life are love and work. Who is Freud? He is one of the greatest psychologists of the 20th century and is known as the "Father of Psychoanalysis". I quote Master Fu's quotation here to say that work is not only a means of survival for a person, but also a need on the spiritual level.

Let’s not discuss love here. After all, only with bread can there be love. Let’s talk about work. The work mentioned here is not limited to a certain form. Nine to five or 996, or an entrepreneur scientist, or a freelancer, or a farmer, a fisherman, or a stay-at-home mother. Everything can make you Something to make a difference every day.

There are many sayings about how to relieve worries, such as how to relieve worries, the only way is to pet a cat; how to relieve worries, only Du Kang; the most well-known is, how to relieve worries, the only way is to get rich suddenly. In fact, whether it is petting a cat, teasing a dog, drinking Dukang wine, or becoming suddenly rich, the essence is that you have something to do, something to do, and a job.

If work is for survival, then does it mean that after solving the problem of survival, there is no need to work?

Before answering this question, please take a look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory. The answer is self-evident.

Maslow is a famous American social psychologist. His hierarchy of needs theory is widely used in psychology, management, aesthetics and other fields. Someone commented on him this way: It is precisely because of Maslow's existence that being a talent is regarded as a promising and good thing. In this chaotic and turbulent world, he saw the light and the future, and he shared it all with us. Maslow himself also reached the highest state in his hierarchy of needs theory - self-actualization.

After people satisfy their physiological needs, they will naturally have higher-level needs, which is determined by people's social attributes. The ancients knew the etiquette if they were practical, and they knew the honor and disgrace if they had enough food and clothing. Human beings are first and foremost biological bodies, but ultimately spiritual bodies. Living without work and doing nothing is mentally painful.

Hong Kong’s richest man, Li Ka-shing, started working at the age of 12 and announced his retirement at the age of 90, having worked for 78 years. For him, work has become a habit of life, he has made a lot of money, and is respected and admired by everyone. The motivation for work lies in the need for self-realization. There are also scientific researchers like Tu Youyou who have been doing research in the laboratory day and night for decades, and their work and life have become one.

Some readers may say that a considerable number of women in Japanese and Korean countries do not work after marriage, but stay at home to support their husbands and children and do housework. Doing housework for husband and children is also a kind of work. Work is a state, a state in which a person has something to do every day. Japan and South Korea, like China, belong to the East Asian cultural circle. Influenced by the tradition of men being superior to women and women being domestic, it is recognized by society that caring for husbands and raising children is an important task for them, and their own rights and interests are also protected. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, Chinese women have become women who can hold up half the sky. While women have endured a certain amount of work pressure, their social status is higher than that of women in Japan and South Korea. According to the 2017 Gender Gap Report released by the World Economic Forum, China ranked 100th, Japan ranked 114th, and South Korea ranked 118th.

At the same time, being a stay-at-home mother in China comes with risks. This phenomenon has been vividly reflected in film and television themes. The TV series "The First Half of My Life" adapted from Yi Shu's novel, and the recently aired "We All Want to Be Well" starring Liu Tao, are all telling Chinese women, come on, a woman who doesn't work will be the boss at home. The fate of stay-at-home mothers is so tragic. One was abandoned by her husband and lost custody of her son, and the other was neglected by her husband and committed suicide due to depression. In the end, they all gained a new life because they walked out of the house and entered the society to work.

Let’s talk about examples around us.

A friend’s child refuses to study again before graduating from high school. No matter how his parents, relatives and friends try to reason with him, move him emotionally, or coerce, induce, or intimidate him, this child is helpless as a rock. No salt enters. The first one said he wouldn't listen, the second one said he would make a big fuss, the third one said he would jump off the building. After this, no one tried to persuade her and just let her go.

This child was homeless at first and went out to play every day. After a few months, he said he had had enough. Then, I would eat and sleep at home every day, wake up and play with my mobile phone, play, sleep and eat again, day and night reversed. After a few months of this cycle, I said that such days were too boring and went to work. With her family's economic conditions, she can maintain a moderate standard of living without working. Although she can only work as a waiter, supermarket cashier and other jobs that do not require high academic qualifications and low income, but fortunately, she has something to do every day. You won't feel so empty inside. People need a sense of belonging. After a person has satisfied his physiological needs and safety needs, the need for belonging and respect will naturally appear in his heart, and he desires to be accepted, recognized and respected.

There is also a friend who started a business in his early years and had quite a lot of savings. He doesn’t like to buy other things, but he likes to buy houses. Now, with a few properties in hand, the rent can be enough for a family to live. The couple stopped working and began to live a retirement life early. It stands to reason that if you raise it at home every day, without the distractions of the world, you should live a carefree life. In fact, this is not the case. My friend’s current living situation is that he has to go to the hospital every now and then. He has no serious physical illness but constant minor ailments. It seems that too much leisure will also reduce the body's immune function.

For all of us, work is more of a means of making a living. You have parents who need to be filial to you, children who need to be raised, and you also need to work to survive and support yourself in old age. With all kinds of things in life, having no money is absolutely impossible. Treat work as a way of life and treat it with a normal heart. No matter what you do, be down-to-earth and go through the journey of life step by step. Life is meaningless and existence is purely accidental. Since everything is empty in the end, we can only choose to experience the process of life, to love and to work.

PS: Freud wrote "The Interpretation of Dreams", "Introduction to Psychoanalysis", "Totems and Taboos", etc.