What is the hypocrisy of your mother-in-law?

First of all, she brought you her son's children.

When I write about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as long as I write "mother-in-law helps daughter-in-law take care of children", there will be women in the comment area. Isn't she helping her son with the children? I must admit that she is helping her son with the children.

But the baby is yours, too. As long as the established fact that she takes care of the children is established, then even if she is not for you, even if she is hypocritical to you. You should remember that about her. Because you are the beneficiary. She helps her son take care of the children, which lightens your burden of taking care of the children and enables you to fight for your career.

My mother-in-law helps me with my children. Is she actually helping me with my children? Of course not. She did it for her son, her grandson. She loves her son. I go out to work, which can greatly reduce her son's burden and let him live a better life faster. She also loves her grandchildren, because they are her son's children, and her love for them is innate.

She doesn't love me. After all, she didn't give birth to me, nor did she raise me. However, when she says to help me with my children, I will still thank her for her "hypocrisy" to me.

Second, she loves her son most, but she will be "hypocritical" to you.

I get along well with my mother-in-law. A neighbor of my mother-in-law's family made mischief and said, "My mother-in-law's kindness to you is all false. She did it for her son. " Many women feel that their mother-in-law is hypocritical about her "goodness". I feel the same way. But whether she is hypocritical or not, as long as she is kind to you, even if it is for her son.

You should be grateful. As long as she goes back to her mother-in-law's house, her mother-in-law never asks her husband what he wants to eat. She only asked me what I like to eat, and she did it. When quarreling with her husband, her mother-in-law never stood on her husband's side, but chose to stand on my side without hesitation.

Does she really love me more than her son? Of course not. She loves her son most, but she chose to help me. She is hypocritical, but this hypocrisy is necessary. Because when she doesn't help me, it's the biggest bad thing for her son.

She wants her son to have a good life and her son's family to be successful, so she can only "pretend" to help me, because only in this way can I live in harmony with her son. I won't feel that I have been greatly wronged in my husband's family.

Her help to me was largely a walk for her son. Let the son better safeguard the family, so as to achieve her expected family happiness.

Third, she educates her son and respects the "pension" your parents give you.

This marriage was concluded by the two of you. Two families are also linked because of you two. This connection is mutual, not a "double standard".

I have met such a mother-in-law who thinks that her daughter-in-law is married to her family, that is, she belongs to her family, but she can't have too much contact with her family. If a woman has much contact with her family, she will be unhappy. She thinks that the daughter-in-law should honor her, but she thinks that the son should not honor his parents.

Once I saw my mother-in-law arguing with her daughter-in-law. A woman wanted a man to buy something for her parents, but her mother-in-law thought it was wrong. Her mother-in-law said, "Don't your parents have a son?" Why did my son buy it? "I always feel that such an old man is difficult to recite. My mother-in-law often teaches my husband to go back to my house to buy things, work more and talk less.

Does she really have feelings for my parents? Not at all. The old people of the two families didn't call once every three or five years. My mother-in-law said this, which was "hypocritical" and even meant to hit me. However, I still think I need this hypocrisy. She is hypocritical in her feelings, but so in her manners. No matter what she thinks in her heart, she at least knows what to do, which is right.

I never felt that my mother-in-law had much real feelings for me. If my husband and I divorce, my mother-in-law will not hesitate to stand on her husband's side when the interests are divided. Just like my mother, she will not hesitate to stand by me.

But I married my in-laws, and I still thank my mother-in-law for doing these three hypocritical things. She may never really care about me, never really feel bad for me, and think about me, but because she thinks about her son, her son and her old-age care, she makes me a beneficiary, so I am willing to give her old-age care.

My second sister-in-law and my mother-in-law are not on good terms. Actually, my mother-in-law has done everything for me. However, she thinks my mother-in-law is for her son, for her grandson, not for her at all.

Therefore, she has always resented my mother-in-law. She thinks my mother-in-law is not sincere to her, and she hates my mother-in-law for it. I sometimes explain to her like this: "Why do you have to be sincere when you get along with your mother-in-law? You care if she doesn't mean it. As long as she really helps you, you also get benefits, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can get along well. "

My mother-in-law has never asked my sincerity, and I have never asked my mother-in-law's sincerity. We all tacitly feel that as long as I don't divorce, our interests are the same. She is willing to help me take care of the baby for her son's hypocrisy, be good to me, and educate her husband to be good to her parents.

And I am also willing to "pretend" to support the elderly for her, for my husband's sake, and for the overall interests of my small family. For the sake of "fairness" in my heart, what she did for my small family should be rewarded.