How important work is to women!

Yi Shu has a very good novel, My First Half Life, which has been adapted into a TV series. Some famous mainland actors, such as Ma Yili, Jin Dong, Yolanda and Chen Dou, have brilliantly interpreted this story about women's growth.

Ma Yili, a native of Shanghai, still plays a delicate Miss Shanghai in the play. She is a good actress, who not only vividly shows the delicate, delicate and squeaky little feminine taste of Shanghai women, but also shows the strong independence and optimism of northern girls in the following plot.

I think the director chose her to play this role, not only because her own experience can add more emotional color to the performance, but more importantly, Ma Yili herself gives us the feeling that she is a very resilient woman.

The seemingly divorced story is actually a story about the growth of women. A woman's growth has a necessary condition, that is, the influence of work on her life trajectory. Yolanda's role as a strong woman in the play is in great contrast. She is neat, straightforward and rational. Of course, this is just a way of self-protection for her distrust of love. )

But even if one day she has nothing, she will not be afraid, because she still has a job. She is not so desperate and scared. When an accident happens, people who are prepared will panic. Think about what will happen to those who are not prepared.

There are many words circulating in our ears, always saying:

Woman, well done, it is better to marry well!

Marriage is a woman's second reincarnation.

Mrs. fu can still be young and beautiful, and seize her husband's heart.

Rich wives can still keep in touch with the world. Plant flowers, read books and learn baking every day.

However, Mrs. Fu, a husband with sufficient financial ability, will support your feelings and dreams with great probability? As we all know, most of the wealth in the world is only in the hands of 20% people. Now we are talking about women with an 80% probability.

We usually marry people who are similar to or not too different from ourselves. They are all ordinary people. You must start at a lower stage. Even if someone raises you, it's good. But what is really attractive is the way to keep love fresh, the knowledge and wisdom accumulated through continuous learning and experience in this seemingly chaotic world.

Only by seeing the truth clearly and understanding the so-called worldly wisdom can we give correct relief and solution when our lover is tired. Give children the best guidance when their personality is not so healthy and complete.

I don't believe you said that a pampered wife can learn this at home. No matter how many theories, no matter how good the theory is, you can know how to deal with life better than a bloody war. This is why many young women with good conditions even want to do WeChat business and sell cakes at home after remarriage. Not just to make money, but to stop asking for money and not let yourself lose the ability to survive.

A woman who doesn't work risks her husband's divorce and her inability to support herself financially. Mainly because her brain is not well updated and upgraded. You will use the APP to update regularly. Our brains must also evolve and upgrade. Then work is a very good training ground.

Women who don't work will lose their curiosity about the world. Her life is nothing more than daily necessities. When the children leave school and her husband goes home, it is the dream love in Korean dramas. Obviously, there are so many things waiting for her to discover and so many places waiting for her to explore. She will comfort herself by saying: I like this simple life, and I think it's good. I don't want to be so tired

In fact, the last sentence is the correct solution. You also envy others' brilliance, but you are tired. Therefore, if you don't maintain it, you can only have yellow skin and don't exercise and lose your shape. So I married a long-term meal ticket once and for all. (Pre-marital property does not belong to the current husband and wife, and there is no sense of crisis. )

A woman who doesn't work greatly reduces her choices in life. Wherever you go and what you do, you have to use other people's money, which means that the other party has at least half the right to decide what you can't do.

Maybe you like a skirt very much, and it is more expensive, and there is no money for this skirt in the living budget given by my husband. A woman with high EQ will coax her husband to buy it, while a woman with low EQ can only watch not to buy it or wait for a discount. I can't even choose what I like at once. You should consider whether the other party will be unhappy because of this. What's the point

In Dali, if one day your family asks you for money, you have to bear the pressure of when they will pay it back, and you dare not rush in front of your husband and relatives. You say you have money, so what?

The most pitiful thing for women who don't work is not that they can't choose their own financial freedom, but that they will unconsciously become narrow-minded and can't understand and listen to many concepts. They think they are always right, and they don't know that this may be because of ignorance. If you can't see the diversity of the world, you can't see the rationality of all angles. I also lost the ability to understand and tolerate others. Sensitive and uneasy.

Women who don't work can't even keep their beauty, because women age faster than men. If you are not in the process of rapid external degradation, give yourself more personality charm as a nutrient. When the face is wrinkled, even the temperament has not increased by half a point. How sad it is to know that you are not beautiful, and you will not be confident. Without self-confidence, you will be even less attractive, which is a vicious circle.

Having said so much about the disadvantages of not working, I also want to know what are the advantages of not working? I don't think there are any fixed holidays except occasionally not getting up on time. I really can't think of any advantages. If you have no children, you must get up on time to take care of them and send them to school.

Although the nanny can't replace mom, if you have the ability to arrange things, your working hours and his class hours can be completed simultaneously. It's not impossible to pick up the children on the way from work and talk to him about school. You two can also go to play together on weekends. In case of overtime, I thought there was a father. There is always a balance.

The above disadvantages of not working are enough to wake us up. I think it is worthwhile to avoid so many life risks with a busy day. ! !

Women are always talking about security. After experiencing some things, you will understand that no matter whether you are lovelorn, divorced or unemployed, a sense of security can be given to you by men, families and children, even by your parents who love you unconditionally and forever. Because by men, men can run, by parents, parents will get old. It is even more impossible to rely on children, because in the end, you will find that children are just a sweet burden that you love unconditionally.

You can only achieve greater value in your work and find broader happiness by yourself. I'd rather spend 3000 yuan to hire a nanny and 5000 yuan to work. Because nannies have to make a living, we have more meaningful things to do. The biggest thing is to grow up and constantly polish yourself stronger. Then we can always have a steady stream of energy and love for people around us.

I always see some questions about female sexual assault, domestic violence and mental illness on some programs. These problems are not entirely caused by women's non-work, but largely because women's thoughts still live in ancient times and their psychology has not yet been the result of growth and evolution. They dare not resist, dare not say what happened to them, they feel humiliated, and they always hope that each other will get better. Cowardly, timid I never knew I was the first priority. I don't know how to protect myself.

I have seen a program called "Truth Interview" by Aamir Hussain Khan in India before. He made this program to help Indian women gain freedom, dignity and more protection. He interviewed countless women who were beaten by their husbands and forced into marriage by their parents.

The physical injury caused by countless abortions, the fear of being knocked down, and distorting your face. Many people, including the audience, cried their eyes out after hearing their stories. It's really hard for you to imagine how miserable women in this country are in this era. I feel lucky that I was not born in India. More anger and despair. I am also very grateful to Aamir Hussain Khan, a great man, for letting more people know about it and making their government decide to improve this social phenomenon.

This kind of suffering under the sun will eventually subside. However, those women who struggle in the dark and we can't see the pain can only strive for and change on their own.

Never underestimate a person's strength. An excellent woman with strength and wisdom is responsible for her own life, which is the blessing and good luck of the whole family. She can harmonize family relations, set a good example for future generations, and is also a good educator. This kind of blessing affects mankind endlessly.

In this day and age, as a woman, you actually have no reason not to work. Even if you have no education, skills and experience, you can learn through many free online channels, and even buy yourself some books often, which can also make you learn a lot.

Keep learning, keep curiosity and increase sensitivity to new things. As long as you don't give up on yourself, you can find what you really love and work hard for it happily.