"Don't go to your husband's house after five years of marriage", why?

Papi sauce was searched twice in a row, and two subversive views were put forward:

First, husband and wife rank first, and parents and children lean back;

Second, getting married is a matter for two people. Going back to each family to find each mother during the Spring Festival, refusing to go to the other family to find discomfort.

In fact, her two views, as our hometown Hua said 20 years ago, were both killed in the cradle:

First, parents and children are backward, but if there is a conflict with their husbands, they will listen to them.

It was discovered that her husband didn't care about his mother-in-law's mother-in-law, and sometimes he bullied Cui Hua and wouldn't give her money. Cui Hua's parents were ill, so they had to put up with it. Cui Hua has nowhere to put her sense of security, so she has to rely on her children who have not yet grown up. As a result, husbands, children and parents all returned to the "Three Kingdoms" era, even the shortest husband.

Second, I propose to go back to each family for the New Year, find each mother, give the man a discount, and bring the baby with me.

In other words, Cui Hua, who originally lived in Pojia Village, asked to go back to accompany her parents during the Spring Festival. Cui Hua's mother-in-law dumped her for a month, and Cui Hua's husband punched her. Cui Hua's wallet is not enough to buy a year's collection. She returned to her mother's house empty-handed and was scolded by her superstitious father. The married daughter poured water, and you will come back to fold our birthday during the Chinese New Year. Give it up.

In the past 20 years, many backward production relations that no longer match the productivity have been eliminated. Why is papi sauce still cheered by the public when it comes to women's historical dreams?

Because, in the era of economic development, women have realized the freedom of fruit, lipstick, bags and even cars, but there is still a long way to go before "freedom after marriage".

In a century-long marriage game, which woman has never been wronged and wants to go back to her family, to be alone, to speak freely and to go with the flow? ...

It seems that every married woman must abide by her husband's opinion, her husband's opinion and her elder sister's opinion.

The feeling of this XX.

Papi sauce is unnecessary. She not only bought a dress and a bag, but also redefined the relationship between primary and secondary with her influence, because she-has money, and money represents the right to speak.

02、

Some people protested that papi was not very rich two years before she got married.

Okay, okay, I can't beat you. These hot search views of papi sauce are not because she has money, but because she is correct in her three views and gives a correct demonstration and guidance.

Then you should go with her.

No matter who you go back to during the Spring Festival, your opinion is more twisted than that of any thigh. Just say you want to buy a bag with a monthly salary of 5 thousand, so you don't have to worry?

After a long time, one person's concern and obedience to another person has long become a habit.

Two years before marriage, at the beginning, whose opinion was dominant? It's hard to say whether money plays a role in this seesaw.

If you think it's a bit circuitous, take a look at the example:

Similarly, 20 years ago, Haisheng of our village did not go home for the New Year. Since he went to college and married a girl in the city, the number of times he went home has decreased year by year.

Oh, by the way, the most exaggerated time, Haisheng gave birth to a son. A family of three drove to the entrance of the village, rolled down the window to give their grandparents a hug, and then returned to the airport to fly away. Because the entrance to the village is full of dust, the hug half covers the child's face.

Haisheng's mother nagged about this stalk for ten years. "What's good about marrying a girl in the city? Seeing grandchildren can only see quilts, and their hands are dirty without touching them. "

You see, Haisheng's daughter-in-law has long realized the freedom of the New Year. She has never experienced the stage of going back to each family to find each mother, and directly jumped to "You come home with me for the New Year, whether you are a man or not." "

In recent years, Haisheng has worked very hard. Finally, when the child was in junior high school, he went home for the first time for a month and turned over a new house for his parents. The money was earned by Haisheng, and his daughter-in-law and children had a good time catching fish in the river.

This change is given by money. Moreover, it is not given by property, but by a person's ability to make money.

I don't want marriage to look so naked and ugly, but we must face the reality.

The backstage reader asked me: What should I do if my husband is suspected of cheating? I asked her: What are you going to do when you sit down? She: I don't know. I don't want a divorce.

In the concept of marriage and its positive papi, cheating is probably not allowed, but in many women, it is not allowed when it doesn't happen. If it happens, it is possible to convince yourself to forget it, so what if the fly swallows it, and life will still pass.

03、

I think this kind of thing, the relationship between primary and secondary, is not so clear. Sometimes my son is naughty or I see some white-haired photos and articles. I also said that husband and wife are always the first and loyal to their husbands.

Occasionally, I also know that in the first half of my parents' stay with me and in the second half of my son's stay with me, only my husband spends the longest time with me.

However, the current reality of life is that after a quarrel, I still feel that this person is not my backer. I am not practical and dare not let go of my love for him. This may be my problem, lack of security.

But don't you have this problem? Can you hear papi's relationship ranking theory, nod to her violently, and stop saving private money?

I don't believe it.

Besides, I think it's too young to mention who I'm going back to in the New Year. People who quarrel about this matter show that they are all doing well.

However, families with insufficient food and clothing, patients in bed at home and small families can't get together, and there is no time to consider going to her husband's house.

Life is so hard that you can't get rid of your willfulness. Going to your husband's house or your mother-in-law's house for three or two days is simply what a married person should do.

If you have a little free time, I suggest you think more about whether the baby's education fund will be enough next year, what should you do if you encounter big layoffs the year after next, and you can have money to accompany you after ten years of fatigue.

Although "willfulness" is an undervalued virtue, the conditions are high enough: you can get gifts and money without going to your husband's house. If you don't go home with your husband, you must pay enough hush money on weekdays.

Even if these things happen, you and your husband, in-laws and others are already in harmony and there is no contradiction.

What if the old man is ill? This is not a question of the concept of marriage. Seeing and not seeing, caring and not caring involve a person's basic etiquette.

Marrying a marriage and running in with another family is something you can never escape. My logic.