Daughter-in-law and daughter are confined together, and mother-in-law has two bowls of different chicken soup. How does she get along with such a mother-in-law?

I received a message from an aunt backstage: What a coincidence! The daughter and daughter-in-law are pregnant at the same time, and the expected date of delivery is similar. When her daughter was pregnant for more than six months, her mother died of illness. When I think of my daughter's pregnancy, her mood and life will be affected more or less, so I want to go to my daughter's house to take care of her confinement. On the daughter-in-law's side, I'll pay her to have a confinement. I also discussed it with my daughter-in-law in advance, and her daughter-in-law supported it. So my daughter is about to give birth, so I packed my things and went to her house to take care of her until she came back from confinement. But I found that my wife's attitude towards me has changed. Later, I overheard my daughter-in-law and others complaining that I was too incompetent as a mother-in-law. I only thought about my daughter, but I didn't care about my daughter-in-law, and I didn't even take care of my son. I haven't seen anyone for a whole month. My daughter-in-law's family also has a lot of complaints about me. I am really wronged and helpless. Daughter and daughter-in-law give birth at the same time, confinement. In that case, is it wrong for me to take care of my daughter? The helplessness of her mother-in-law

In fact, after reading this aunt's message, I don't know if she is just picking the right one for herself. But from this description, I don't think this aunt has done anything wrong. In contrast, my daughter really needs the care of her aunt, who also pays for her daughter-in-law to have a new moon. Aunt's daughter-in-law should be more understanding of her aunt.

For families with children and daughters, they are likely to meet married daughters and married daughters-in-law in the future, and give birth to confinement at the same time. So, as a daughter's mother-in-law, what should I do at this time? Here are some suggestions:

As an elder, you should be able to carry it.

As an elder, you have to carry it clearly. When the daughter gets married, she gets along with her husband's family, and her mother-in-law should take care of her when she is confined. As a mother-in-law, you just take care of your daughter-in-law. Unless your daughter has no mother-in-law, there must be a boundary between her daughter's home and her own, so it is not easy to have conflicts.

My aunt's cousin had a mother-in-law when she was in confinement. She tried not to get ahead of them, so as not to worry about her mother-in-law. Sister-in-law takes care of her in confinement, and her parents don't interfere. The boundaries of that generation were clearly drawn, which saved a lot of things.

Family members should discuss it in advance.

The family should discuss it. First of all, the mother-in-law should live with her son and daughter-in-law for a long time. First of all, we should respect the opinions of her son and daughter-in-law and see how to make it perfect, otherwise everyone will have opinions in the future, and family harmony is the most important thing! No one can help, so let's take it home together. There is nothing wrong with cooking an extra bowl of rice.

My friend said I have a son and a daughter, too. If they have children at the same time in the future, I want to take them all together for easy care. If my daughter's husband's family is not good, then I will pay for a new moon. If there is something wrong with my daughter-in-law, then I will pay for her to have a baby, and I will take care of her. They are all their own children, and we can't just care about one and ignore the other. Daughter-in-law and daughter's heart can't be cold, besides, confinement is so difficult.

If you encounter such a thing, what will you do?