The boss is unemployed and delivers food. The anxiety of middle-aged people is really unsolvable.

"Fantasy changed the world in 2000, and I was repaired by the world in 2020."

In the middle of the night, I saw Old A, who had just celebrated his 40th birthday, post such a post on WeChat Moments , with mixed feelings in my heart.

Life is a slow process of being hammered.

When people reach middle age, they are trapped by the barriers of career, health, and family.

It’s like wearing a hoop. Even if it breaks, you still have to choose the time and occasion. How dare you cause trouble in the Heavenly Palace?

In the past year, Jiajun has received hundreds of private messages from readers, the most common theme of which is "middle-aged anxiety."

As Zhang Ailing wrote,

"Open your eyes. You are surrounded by people who want to rely on you, but there is no one who can rely on you."

Day after day, they are used to smiling to cover up their sadness.

Those who cannot swallow it can only tell me about this stranger in the dead of night.

Today’s article comes from the real experiences of four readers. Maybe you can see your own shadow in it.

A company executive with a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan became a food delivery rider after losing his job.

@L.Wf

At the age of 36, I finally squeezed into the management team, with an annual salary of 200,000 yuan plus bonus, a house and a car. It is said that I have established a firm foothold in this city.

I don’t know, when God moved his little finger, I immediately fell down.

In the second half of last year, there was a wave of layoffs. A large number of old employees of the company were fired. Unfortunately, I was also shot.

After I lost my job, I sent out resumes like crazy, but nothing came of it. Only a few interviews ended in failure.

The strong sense of frustration made me realize a reality: after the age of 35, no special skills are irreplaceable. They are definitely "non-recyclable garbage" in the workplace and are avoided by employers.

I've been putting on a show all these years, but I haven't saved much money.

The monthly mortgage is 8,000, and the car loan is 3,000. The remaining salary is only enough for basic expenses. Now that I have no income, it is really not an option to see that my children have to renew their tuition fees for cram school. I used to hear that it was ridiculous for programmers from big companies to lose their jobs and deliver meals. Times have changed, and I didn’t expect that I would also take this path.

Takeaway is a low threshold. Be tough on yourself and make big money.

But I didn’t dare to confess to my wife, so I had to pretend to be a director of a company.

Go out in a suit and tie in the morning, find a place to change into work clothes on the way, and then ride an electric bike to start the day's work.

Running nearly 150 kilometers every day is equivalent to running several marathons. An elevator in an office building lost power. In order to rush for time, I climbed to the 15th floor in one breath. When I came down, my underwear was all wet.

Another time, I accidentally knocked over a takeaway, and a negative review from a customer made my whole day's efforts go to waste.

In order to make up for it, I still took orders at two o'clock in the morning for the next few nights.

One rainy day, I went home early because my electric car broke down.

I was lying in bed at night, and my wife suddenly hugged me from behind. "My dear, don't drive too fast when it rains in the future. The money is not worth your efforts." She already knew.

For a moment, tears welled up in my eyes.

It’s not that my self-esteem is damaged, but that the future is as dark and chaotic as the night outside the window.

Your savings are enough to keep your parents in the ICU for a few days.

@timelock

God has been playing tricks on me for the past two months.

First, my father suffered a myocardial infarction while buying groceries and was sent to the intensive care unit for emergency treatment. One night spent nearly 30,000.

I spent a week in the ICU and lost hundreds of thousands of dollars in the blink of an eye. Later, I also spent a lot of money on heart bypass surgery.

The house leaked and it rained all night. Not long after, my mother-in-law went to the hospital for a checkup because of blood in her urine, and a kidney tumor was found. The location is very dangerous, and the right kidney may need to be removed directly.

After coming out of the doctor's office, my wife and I squatted on the wall and cried bitterly.

From middle class to bankruptcy, there is only one serious illness in between.

After the second old man was hospitalized, bills like snowflakes kept coming to us.

Although there is social security, it can only cover part of it, and many special medicines and imported consumables have to be paid for at your own expense. In less than a month, the money we had saved for more than ten years hit rock bottom.

Faced with this bottomless pit, we decided to sell the house. Although this is a school district room that was painstakingly created for the sake of the children.

Hu

When my son comes home for the weekend, I get mad at him like never before. In the past few days, my suppressed emotions have exploded like a flood.

The child was shocked and aggrieved, looking at me like a tyrant.

Obviously, he did not understand the impact of the disease on the average family. At a young age, how many people can realize that their sacrifices directly determine how long they can give their loved ones in the future?

Several times, the old man said that he wanted to give up treatment and did not want to drag us down.

My heart seemed to have been pinched so hard that I almost burst into tears.

There are still more than ten days before the Chinese New Year. I don’t know how far ahead the dawn is, but I believe our family will not be knocked down so easily.

After the child went to study abroad, the husband did not even dare to go for a physical examination.

@狯不新

I used to hear people say that when their children graduate from college, their parents are out of trouble and can wait to enjoy a happy life. But now, how can it be so easy to train a person?

The employment situation is unprecedentedly steep, and the recruitment standards of large platforms with generous salaries are also rising.

Some hot pot restaurants even recruit waiters who have graduated from 985 universities. You can imagine how stressful it is for ordinary undergraduates.

So when my senior daughter proposed the idea of ??studying abroad, my husband and I supported it from the bottom of our hearts.

Most foreign master’s degrees are employment-oriented and focus on social integration.

If you apply to a top-ranked school, your probability of entering a Fortune 500 company in the future will be greatly increased.

The only embarrassing thing is the cost.

After deciding to study abroad, I have not yet set foot in a foreign land, but I have to burn money continuously during the preparation stage.

Registration fees, training courses, and study materials fees

The subsequent annual expenditure of more than 100,000 yuan is undoubtedly a great pressure for working-class families who are still carrying mortgage loans.

But there is no way. For the sake of a better future for our children, we can only grit our teeth.

His father, 47 years old, works overtime day and night to compete with young people in order not to be transferred from the core department.

I don’t want my husband to bear this burden alone. I, a senior housewife, also plan to make a comeback this year, even if I find a job as a handyman.

Next, I considered borrowing money from relatives to rent a room at home.

My husband and wife have reached the point where we both dream of making money.

At this age, the mental pressure is too great and the body cannot bear it.

My husband has always been suspicious lately. There was a lump on my neck and it started to hurt again. Baidu always talked about cancer and asked him to go for a physical examination, but he didn't dare to go and said that if something was found, something could be done.

Yes, we are not qualified to be sick now.

If you have to be hospitalized, spend money, and miss work, a chain will be broken and the whole family will collapse.

We are not supermen, but we are forced to develop a skeleton of steel.

In the world of middle-aged people, who is not a survivor?

The new boss in the 1990s threw the plan to me.

@李

There is a popular saying on Weibo: "Don't scold young people loudly, they will resign immediately; but you can scold middle-aged people to death, especially those with He has a house, a car and a baby. "Unfortunately, I am the middle-aged man who is easy to bully.

Four years old, the position is neither up nor down. This year the company structure was adjusted and the position of manager was vacant. Who knew, a 90-year-old man fell from the sky and became my new leader.

The young man works vigorously and resolutely, likes to be creative and have fun. There is a lot of popular culture, and communicating with customers is no problem.

When I met such a fierce young man, although I admitted in my heart that I was not as good as others, I really couldn’t show it on my face.

Especially when my overtime plan was overturned by him in public on the grounds that "the routine was not good", it felt like being executed in public.

The thought of resigning ran through my mind 800 times, but in the end I still didn’t say it.

At this age, catching up with the cold winter of the Internet, naked words are tantamount to death.

What’s more, there are hungry children at home, and my mother, who has been bedridden all year round, still owes a mortgage of 500,000 yuan.

Thinking of this, my head gets bigger again.

Middle-aged people, old and young, take the lead.

Every decision must be made carefully, considering this and that, not your own emotions.

I have also seen the ceiling in the workplace, but Lao Zhang

In the past few years, he has been busy configuring commercial pension insurance, critical illness insurance, and accident insurance for himself and his parents.

Every time he signs a contract, he feels reassured.

We had supper together the day before yesterday, and he advised me:

“I haven’t lost my job yet, so I must buy insurance as soon as possible.”

“What do you think? Think about it, how much room for growth can we have in the company with our dynamism?”

“When you fully retire and rely solely on social pension funds, your quality of life will definitely plummet in your later years. Both pains are not allowed to be a burden to the child."

I didn't wake up until then,

Most of my anxiety was because I had put all my capital in one At work, there is no awareness of risk transfer.

It is said that the generation born in the 1980s is a sad generation, shouldering the burden of life and impacting the new era of constant iteration. Maybe we can't change the direction of the tide. But at least you can hold on to the lifebuoy tightly to ensure that you won't be swallowed by the tide.

When people reach middle age, their bodies begin to decline.

The burdens of mortgage payments, children’s education, and parents’ retirement are all on us. Everyone is afraid that the life they have worked so hard to maintain will suddenly get out of control.

Only by taking precautions and planning well can we have enough confidence to fight against unknown risks.