Happy Goddess Day

Queen's Day is here, I wish all female readers a happy holiday, the shopping cart is empty, and Xiong Haizi is taken away by her reliable husband ~ ~ ~

Of course, this is impossible for me, hehe.

At the beginning of the year, I just promised my teammates to focus on the baby in Wang Nian, and the workaholic was established ... Collapse! Collapse! Collapse!

Ask yourself, after being a mother, you can understand the meaning of women. Not every mother can declare like the chicken soup article on WeChat official account: The arrival of children will let us meet better ourselves; But most treasure mothers can agree that children are a mirror, and the process of raising them can really make you know yourself better.

Anyone who has seen my account probably knows that I strongly object to any woman taking family as the focus of her life. Although I can't reach it, I will conditionally associate "successful women" with "Tang Jing": elegant posture, fashionable walking posture, successful career, economic independence, freedom of marriage and love, and family.

And all this, after the baby was born, was reversed by 360 degrees. Even at this moment, I began to struggle for a quarter: should I take care of the baby full time? So, it is conceivable that after having a baby, my goddess changed from Tang Jing to ... female nerves.

NONONO！ There are exceptions! For example: both offensive and defensive, outstanding work performance, retiring to the second line to take care of the family is not inferior at all-

Hook 1

I've known Hook Sha Yi for a long time from TV, but I've really been circled, except for the "Anji's contribution" mentioned in Tucao Conference (everyone knows my name is Chen Anji).

Taking people's nicknames as their surnames, my parents seem sloppy, but also because of her grounding and truth.

Unlike those female stars on TV who wear well-proportioned high heels during pregnancy, recover their graceful figure instantly after delivery and join the entertainment circle, Hook's pregnancy and parenting track is more grounded, not only taking care of her two big babies by herself (with the help of her mother and nanny), but also known as a textbook parenting method, which has rules to follow and is worth learning by novice mothers.

Unlike many model workers in the circle who still work nonstop before and after giving birth, Hook almost completely faded out of the entertainment circle a few years ago. This is because Hook was brought up by her grandparents, and she has been estranged from her parents so far, which has also caused some negative effects on her personality. Therefore, when he learned that he was pregnant with Angie, Hook made a decisive decision: he would take care of the baby full-time-

When I was a child, I knew more about the influence of family background on children. I don't want my children to continue my state.

In "Mom is Superman", the crucian brothers love each other and kill each other, every day. Hook, who used to have a strong desire for control, learned to let go in the process of parenting and remained calm in the program: let the two brothers handle conflicts themselves and not intervene at will; Let children vent their feelings of collapse, not simply stop them.

Of course, Hu was not born with such a cool temper and high emotional intelligence. Every time she is on the verge of collapse because of Xiong Haizi, she will review parenting books, such as Sun Ruixue's Love and Freedom, and look for tranquilizers in the books.

Of course, people may think that this is just a "routine" and "routine" of variety shows, but the details of getting along with each other in the shooting are enough to show that Hook knows the two brothers' completely different tempers like the back of his hand, and has formulated a strategy to deal with the crucian brothers in accordance with their aptitude, and everything is under her control.

For example, when two brothers compete for toys, they play the quarreling witch; Fish got angry before going out, so wait patiently for him to vent before going out, no matter how fast; When I was delayed to pick Angie up from class, I apologized modestly, instantly understood Angie's paintings, and quickly calmed Angie's bad mood. I hit the nail on the head when I saw the rice residue baby in Ma Yashu: without a fixed dining table, there would be no sense of form necessary for eating. ...

It is not easy to raise two boys. Everyone only sees how cute and sensible the crucian brothers are, but rarely finds that Hook spends the most time in the program compared with other families' mothers, not to mention that this is the result of a mother sacrificing her career to accompany and educate them.

Like all working women who have given birth, Hooke also faces the problem of how to balance family and career, as well as her husband's incomprehension and disputes. Even so, after the two children go to school, she still insists on high-quality companionship with her children, occasionally taking some short-term jobs she likes, being a good parent and not giving up being herself.

2、? Small soil and big orange

Expectant mothers and novice mothers around me often ask for my recommendation number. There are many names I pay attention to in the official WeChat account, which are basically cleaned once a month (the hobby of obsessive-compulsive disorder patients), especially the parenting number, but I will also leave some nail households in the white list. For example, I like to hand-draw small potatoes from German immigrants. I am a master of education and have two babies in the United States. I'll talk about my baby BUD, a budding research institute with a second child who went to the University of Hong Kong to study emotion and communicate with her parents, a strong woman in the workplace, but because her child was forced to leave her job prematurely, she became a big J and a small D who raised V, and a hot mom Deejo who devoted herself to parent-child English teaching. Dongguan mother started her business in three animal countries with one meal, took two babies as part-time fitness instructors, and occasionally wrote some essays on parenting ... Even Mi Meng, who is famous for her provocative title party, instantly entered the white list after I learned that she mentioned Tang Wei.

It can be seen that full-time mothers are not suitable for ordinary people, so I'd better go to work honestly.

Among the child-rearing numbers that bloom everywhere, there is one that I recommend everyone not to take off-small soil and big orange.

Xiao Tu, whose original name is Chen Yuwen, also has two children (if she doesn't have a second child, she doesn't dare to call herself an expert in parenting, haha). After graduating from Shanghai Jiaotong University, she worked in a Fortune 500 company. Her family lived in America for three years because of her work at home. Recently, she is considering returning to China to settle down, and may choose to come to Shenzhen.

Like many people who are in charge of parenting numbers, Xiao Tu mistakenly hit the online celebrity route. Five years ago, she just gave birth to Xiao Tu. Xiao Tu's boss was frequently tortured by sleep problems and found that there was almost no information about the baby's sleep on the Internet. She had no choice but to study all the sleep-related books she could find, and found that the effect was good through practice. Therefore, she summarized these methodologies into posts such as "Looking forward to sleeping all night" and "No babies can't sleep, only adults who can't coax", which were published in Weibo and widely welcomed by netizens. She found that so many parents in China have been troubled by their babies' sleep problems for a long time.

With the deepening of the research on baby sleep and the decline of his own work industry, Xiao Tu decided to quit his job and help more parents in the field of baby sleep.

At that time, the idea was to concentrate on sorting out the books, write a Chinese mother's own sleep book, gather everyone's experiences, feelings and wisdom, and have more grounded theory and practice, so that people in need can have systematic reference, that is, for one or two years, and then go back to find a job after the big deal. There are many temptations in this world. At first, my family once asked me, "it may not be as good as a month's salary to work hard for a few years." What is the picture? " "There are so many fans, why don't you contact the advertisement to sell the goods?" I have been confused and troubled about the future, but I know that my heart is firm in this matter.

As a result, Xiaotu restarted the learning hegemony mode and continued his deep learning, and soon became the first consultant in China to obtain IMPI sleep consultation certification. Later, similar to other parenting network celebrities, I published sleep books, opened sleep classes, and wrote official accounts about WeChat. ...

However, what really makes me proud of Xiao Tu is her persistence and indifference to fame and fortune. From a big-name enterprise to an industry that has no foundation at all and depends on her own exploration, she has always insisted on learning and focused on research. With our own efforts, we have driven the rise of the domestic infant sleep industry and become the most driving parenting V in Weibo in 20 17!

What is even more touching is her selfless love: unlike other parenting giants, Xiaotu has not formed a team and has always insisted on operating independently. But over the years, even if she was pregnant and gave birth to a child, she has been answering questions for her parents free of charge on Weibo, selflessly sharing all kinds of long articles typed word by word, donating all the manuscript fees to charity to buy two books, and at the same time giving the manuscript fees to the contributing parents, and recommending their official WeChat accounts in the articles. After four years in public office, she refused all advertisements, did not engage in group buying, did not touch any hot spots, and made a pure and clean parenting number down to earth.

3. Sister J

Sister J is my colleague and my former boss. On the screen, most people's impression of the female boss is created by the devil. I am honored that the former female bosses were gentle and loving sisters.

If Hook's key word attracts me is truth and Xiao Tu's key word is selflessness, then Sister J's key word attracts me is perfection.

I graduated from Foreign Languages Institute. There are talented women everywhere. The competition is fierce and I am constantly striving for self-improvement. In my junior year, I began to practice in several newspapers and worked with various efficient female editors and journalists. In those years, I was surrounded by amazing girls almost everywhere! It was not until I met Sister J that I discovered that Excellence doesn't have to be bold and maverick, but it can also be so gentle and drizzling.

As early as three years ago, I secretly posted an anonymous article about Sister J in official website. She probably doesn't know that in the past few years, there has been such a subordinate who has been silently worshipping her. And after all these years, she is still in my heart-

Of course, the above are just the excellent points of Sister J's works. What really made me list her as a parenting role model was the intimate family of three that Sister J has been insisting on for many years.

After having a baby, Sister J, like many colleagues around her, treats parenting personally. She refused the old man's help. After the baby goes to kindergarten, the couple take care of the baby themselves and insist on parent-child reading before going to bed. More importantly, no matter when and where, a family of three will always be together and walk together.

An encounter with sister J's baby years ago left a deep impression on me and touched me greatly. I haven't seen you for years, and that shy baby has grown into a sunny, decent and polite four-year-old boy. I have to sigh that babies who have been accompanied by parents for a long time are really different!