How to educate children?

Lead: Education should educate people with the most objective and fair conscious thinking, so that people's thinking will not be too biased, and gradually mature and rational because of the richness of thinking, so as to move towards the most rational self and have the most correct thinking cognition. Perhaps this is the foundation of education.

How to teach children skills.

1, give children time to play casually, and don't arrange life too regularly.

Experts point out that free play is more beneficial to the health of preschool children than planned activities. Parents should avoid cramming their children's time into various activities. All children need some free and casual play time.

2. Teach him to care about others.

Happy children need to feel that they have some meaningful connections with others and understand what he means to others. To cultivate this feeling, you can help your child to get in touch with others more. You can sort out some old toys with your child and donate them to charity with him to help homeless children. Children can also be encouraged to participate in some volunteer activities at school. Experts point out that even at a very young age, you can get happiness from helping others. And form the habit of helping others.

3. Encourage him to do more exercise.

Playing ball games, cycling and swimming with children? Doing more exercise can not only exercise a child's physique, but also make him more cheerful. Maintaining a vibrant life can moderately relieve children's stress and emotions, make children like themselves, have a more positive body image, and find fun and a sense of accomplishment from sports.

4. laugh often

Telling jokes, making up some funny songs and laughing with children are good for you and your children. Just laughing is good exercise.

5. Creative compliments

When children behave well, don't just say: Okay？ . Be specific, tell the details, and point out something impressive or better than last time, such as? It's very polite of you to take the initiative to say hello to the doorman uncle today. . However, we should also pay attention to praise and not develop children's false expectations. Some parents will reward their children with gifts or money, so that their children can focus on what rewards they can get, rather than doing well. Parents should let their children discover the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment brought by completing a thing, instead of rewarding him with material rewards.

6. Ensure that children eat healthily.

A healthy diet can not only make children healthy, but also make their emotions more stable. Whether it's dinner or snacks, we should try to follow healthy principles, such as low-fat, low-sugar, fresh and balanced diet.

7. Stimulate his inner artistic talent

Although scientists have proved that it does not exist? Mozart effect? However, exposing children to music, art, dance and other activities can still enrich their inner world. Experts have found that when children dance to music or hold a crow with a brush, it is actually a way for children to express their inner world and feelings. Children like painting, dancing or playing music, and they will feel more satisfied with themselves.

8. Hug often

A gentle hug conveys infinite care and is silent' I love you? . Studies have found that gentle touching and hugging can make premature babies healthier, more active and more emotionally stable. For adults, hugs can also relieve stress and calm restless emotions.

9. Listen attentively

Nothing can make children feel cared for more than listening attentively. Want to be a better listener? Don't listen with only one ear. When the child is talking to you, try to stop what you are doing and listen to him attentively. Listen to the child patiently. Don't interrupt, hurry to help him express himself or let him finish his words quickly, even if you have heard what he said many times. It is the best time to listen when you accompany your child to school or put him to bed.

10, give up perfectionism

We all expect our children to show their best, but sometimes we are too eager to correct or improve their performance. For example: dislike that they didn't wipe the table, just wipe it once; Or correct them. They must put things in a certain position. Demanding perfection in everything will weaken children's self-confidence and courage not to be afraid of making mistakes. The next time you can't help but want to get involved and try to help your child do things better, think about it first:' Is this related to health or safety?' Imagine, after 10 years, is this matter still so serious? If * * doesn't work, let the children do it.

1 1. Teach him to solve the problem.

Every step from learning to tie your shoelaces to crossing the street by yourself is a milestone for children to become more independent. When children find that they have the ability to solve the problems they face, they can bring happiness and a sense of accomplishment to them. When he meets obstacles, such as being laughed at by his playmates, or unable to solve a puzzle, you can take several steps to help him:

(1), and confirm his problem.

(2) Let him describe his solution.

(3) Find out the steps to solve the problem.

Decided to let him solve the problem himself or provide some help.

(5) Make sure that he can get the help he needs.

12, his stage

Every child has a unique talent, why not give them a chance to show it? If they like telling stories, encourage them to tell you more stories. If he is good at numbers, take him shopping and ask him to help you choose a cheaper one. When you can appreciate your child's talent and show your enthusiasm, your child will naturally be more confident. Children around us need not only a carefree living environment, but also adults to accompany them to experience it? It's. Growth process. There is a saying:' To know what the world looks like in children's eyes, you must first squat down and look at the world from the position and height of children.

Case Analysis: Educational Enlightenment of Creating Genius

When Wu Tianji was in primary school, she found that her mother was different from other mothers. Other children's mothers are working, but his mother, like him, always studies hard with piles of books.

Shen Jingling was the first college student after resuming the college entrance examination, and later she was successfully admitted to the graduate school. In the 1980s, her master's degree was already very high. With her outstanding performance, Shen Jingling became a teacher of Capital Normal University. However, she did not relax herself. When Wu Tianji was in primary school, she walked into the classroom again and entered the Institute of Physics of Chinese Academy of Sciences to study for a doctorate.

It is this subtle influence that makes Wu Tianqi fall in love with reading and learning. Although Wu Tianji likes to play as much as his peers, he does not have the tendency of being tired of learning that many children have. In his view, learning is a normal thing. Everyone is studying in this family.

In learning, parents are Wu Tianqi's role models; In life, it also had a far-reaching impact on him.

When an animated film or series is popular on a large scale and students are fascinated by it, Wu Tianji often doesn't know it exists. Because at home, parents seldom watch TV, let alone let their son indulge in a series, they try to avoid always thinking about the plot of TV when Wu Tianqi is studying.

As long as Wu Tianqi doesn't sleep every day, the TV at home won't turn on. My parents, as teachers, were also preparing lessons carefully when they were studying in Wu Tianji. Only after Wu Tianqi falls asleep will parents watch the news at a low volume for a while.

Example is better than precept. If parents are immersed in one TV series after another when their children are studying, how can they keep their children in a period of strong curiosity from being tempted? How do children think, study and create safely in the noise of TV? At this point, Wu Tianqi is lucky. In the quiet environment given by his parents, Wu Tianji can think quietly and let go of his imagination. Success has innate factors, but what is more important is acquired education. Calvert's father said: For children, the most important thing is education, not talent. ?

The first education lesson Wu Tianqi's parents gave their son was somewhat different.

It was an ordinary math exam in grade two of primary school, and it was not an ordinary paper after the exam. Because in addition to the score of 89, there are two big scarlet letters deeply printed on this test paper. ? Wu Tianqi ranks second to last in the class. Wu Tianqi couldn't believe his eyes. Although his grades are not always among the best in his class, he also belongs to the upper middle class. How did this happen? This deeply hurt his heart. On the way home, Wu Tianqi felt uneasy. Although his parents pay more attention to mastering knowledge than grades, they are both strong people. What will they think of such an achievement? What should I tell them? Xiao Wu Tianqi faced such a dilemma for the first time.

After dinner, Wu Tianji slowly took out the test paper that made him feel heavy from his schoolbag. Mom, the results of the last math exam came out. ? With that, he handed the paper to his mother.

Haven't seen the score of 89 points, that huge one? Drop 2? It caught Shen Dingdang's attention. She looked up at her son. At this time, Wu Tianji has bowed his head deeply and his face is flushed with shame.

Knowing my son is better than knowing my mother. Looking at Wu Tianji's expression, my mother realized that her son, who has always studied consciously, must be in a worse mood at this time. If she criticizes him again, it will only hurt his self-esteem. In fact, at ordinary times, no matter what her son's grades are, she won't criticize too much. What does she always say? You didn't do well in the exam. Analyze the reasons. ? It is such a sentence that in Wu Tianqi's view, it is already the most severe criticism of parents.

This time, Shen Jingling didn't say anything, just let her son sit down and analyze the cause of the mistake with him. This made Wu Tianqi feel at a loss. He even wants to know why his mother didn't make a half sentence of criticism.

Mom seemed to read his mind and said, I am most concerned about whether you have tried your best, what you did wrong, and whether you have mastered the knowledge you have learned, not how many points you got in the exam and how many names you won. ?

His mother's words reassured him. He obediently sat down beside his mother and began to analyze the test paper. After the papers were handed out, Wu Tianqi never dared to read them carefully again. He doesn't know what went wrong. But after reading two questions, he began to enjoy himself first. It turned out to be carelessness! ? This made him relieved.

I thought this conclusion would make my mother much easier, but Wu Tianqi found that my mother still looked serious. Because Shen Jingling doesn't think carelessness is a trivial matter, in her opinion, her son is really good at asking questions and has some aura, but such children are easy to be proud and only like to do some difficult questions, and the foundation is not solid. Don't let children get into the habit of reading well but not asking for very much.

? Don't underestimate carelessness, it is the enemy of all science. Mathematics is a rigorous knowledge, not only mathematics, but also any science can't tolerate any carelessness. ? Manager Shen said to Wu Tianqi earnestly.

Xiaotianji nodded some ignorance. Although he still can't clearly understand what rigor is, from his mother's words and demeanor, he understands that he can't be sloppy in the future, and he must do the right questions.

This is the most important educational enlightenment in Wu Tianqi's memory. In this education class, he learned how to treat grades correctly, treat grades and study rigorously.

The methods of family education may be different, but the attitude towards children should be similar. From the article written by Shen Jingling, maybe we can find that:

Nowadays, parents usually place great expectations on their children. They always think that their children are the best and brightest, and what will happen in the future. This is an irrational concept of parenting, which is the root of many failed cases in family education. I think the most important thing in educating children is seeking truth from facts. As long as parents do their best at every step of their children's growth, everything should go with the flow. Should? Not the best result, but the best process? . If you want to be proud of your children tomorrow, your children should be proud of you today. Parents who have high expectations for their children should first ask themselves: You ask your children to study hard, so what do you do in your spare time every day? You ask your children to stay in the top of the class exam, so are you also in the top of the work unit? You want to be proud of your children, so are your children proud of you now? I have done this, and I can provide a good environment for children to grow up. In fact, we are making progress with our children.

? If you want to be proud of your children tomorrow, your children should be proud of you today. ? This is the core concept that mother Shen Jingling has always maintained when educating Wu Tianji.